to loathe the word "manshape"

[OhdearNigel]

It makes my teeth bleed.

Derailers,what bout Menzs,all oft used mn doesn't make em necessarily ok
Manshpe I've never heard but it's more the oi it's soandso so leave it be.I'm challenging the notion that just because it's a mn of yore thang its ok

yes, menz is a daft thing. Counterpoint to womenz. oh well.

Point being da Menz etc are oft touted but not necessarily shared sentiments,just because some say it doesn't make it so

yes, of course sm. It's just a sort of 'follow the pack' stuff on MN, and even in the diction being employed.

but manshape 'sounds' a bit odd, and a bit demeaning, but dee has her reasons.

It's the gushing soandso has her reasons.correct. As also no one has to concur to someone else reasons

Use whatever expression one wish,but expect likey or no likey

I dislike the term, and I don't see why we're expected to fall into some reverent hush of concurrence when we "find out the reason" for Deemented's use of it.

Oh no not again...........We had this "have a go at Dee thread" a few months ago.............. [hhmm]
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr...........

I've never seen any poster put forward a sweet, special reason for calling their man "Manshape."

I've read one person's sad, touching, and perfectly understandable story about why she doesn't want to refer to her boyfriend (or husband? not sure) as "partner" or "DH".

But it's not an either/or choice between "DH" or "Manshape", is it?! I don't see how "She doesn't want to call him DH" translates to "She has to call him Manshape so it's terribly insensitive to express your negative opinion of that term."

As others have said, as long as both people in the relationship are okay with the term, it's none of my business. And it isn't fair that these threads always focus on one particular person.

But I agree that what gets people's backs up is the insulting, ridiculous implication that dislike of a stupid word seen on a chat board = disrespect for an actual woman's personal story.

Blimey, still going!

Okay <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?q=david+hasselhoff+with+puppies&hl=en&sa=X&biw=1366&bih=667&tbm=isch&prmd=imvnso&tbnid=XKJEOT2yfeBZyM:&imgrefurl=technabob.com/blog/2010/04/08/david-hasselhoff-voice-navtones/&docid=PtGc7B4hAz2-IM&imgurl=technabob.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/hoff.jpg&w=600&h=326&ei=p5OrTviLNIqf8gOluYmNCw&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=167&vpy=318&dur=102&hovh=165&hovw=305&tx=150&ty=96&sig=112244834480774415178&page=1&tbnh=108&tbnw=199&start=0&ndsp=18&ved=1t:429,r:6,s:0" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">this is my final offer

I hate the term hubby and think it belongs on Netmums but I don't tell anyone who uses it to bugger off there do I?

manshapemanshapemanshapemanshape

nope, still don't get it

Can i just clarify things once and for all, since this all seems to be getting ridiculously out of hand?

I use the term manshape.

I don't really care if anyone else uses it.

I am perfectly aware that it is not a phrase specific to me.

I'm not bothered if you don't like it.

I'm not bothered if you do.

My reasons for using manshape as opposed to DH or DP have been well documented and i do not intend to keep going over them.

Nor should i have to.

I'm quite nonplussed at the idea of 'oh it's dee's word, she has her reasons for using it and you can't say anything about it' I'm not some deity on a pedestal above reproach at all. I'm just a normal everyday menber of MN.

I do not intend to stop using the word 'Manshape' simply because some people don't like it.

Admitedly, i do get a bit bored of the seemingly constant threads about it, but i accept that it is just the way of MN.

I also accept that as long as i use the term, then there will be threads about it - it's the nature of the beast, isn't it?

As far as i'm concerned anyone is free to use whatever expression they like. It a free country.

That is all.

Gawd, not this AGAIN!

Frothers of the world unite! Display your dislike of words used by Other People! How Very Dare They!

Why do people seem to think that it´s about a particular poster?

Ok

I REALLY dislike "hubby" - would rather read manshape any day.

DawnoftheDeementedDead... Nobody's telling you not to use it, I doubt they even link the term with you, it's not personal. I don't even think it's the issue on this thread. It's the suck-ups who try to quieten other posters who state an opinion that gets the thread up to several hundred posts.

You don't have to defend yourself at all, quite obvious really. You could ignore the threads and posters commenting on 'manshape'. Still, if you choose to post that term over and again, it's your prerogative just as it is to keep 'defending it' when there's no need.

I dislike the term as I dislike many others - there's another thread here today about 'bitches' whilst other terms are deemed ok. We all have our personal barometers of what's acceptable and what isn't - and they're all different. To me, 'manshape' is derogatory and I hope it doesn't catch on, least of all with children.

What LyingWitch said - I really hate the smarmy 'Ooh but Dee has a special reason for using it which is above reproach..' attitude. People can use what terms they like really but I hate the fawning which has been linked to one poster's use of this particular word.

"but I hate the fawning which has been linked to one poster's use of this particular word."

Absolutely-and the assumption that we all know everyone´s histories/life stories.

In fairness, I think that is exactly what Dee just said too wasn't it?

I just remain surprised that these threads crop up more often than complaints about cunt or bum sex or bitch or menz. It is just about on a par with Hun in frequency of complaint and yet I read the word manshape so rarely.

I just think the complaints are hugely disproportionate to it's use. I don't really understand tbh.

I don't like the word myself but that sort of thing doesn't bother me, it's the pious fawning that makes me want to scratch peoples eyes out irritated.

I fawn. Just not Dee.

Fawning is something I try never, ever to do. If I catch myself doing it I cringe, truly. Defined as "trying to court favour with flattery"... not good. Sycophants come way down on my list and, judging by the comments on this thread - others don't like them either.

While I'm at it, I cringe at "much-loved poster" and "yes but I know her in REAL LIFE and can vouch for her..."

To me, there are no well-loved posters on a chatboard. There are just posters that you particularly like to engage with. It doesn't follow that everybody shares your opinion. As for vouching for another poster - well, I wouldn't accept the word of anybody I didn't know so vouching for another is moot.

The thread isn't about Dee at all, it's about a term that some people dislike that some posters choose to draw attention to the poster.

Lying

I was joking.
Although obviously not funny as I have to explain that.

And I am not vouching for anyone. Just wondering why this term gets picked up so often. But clearly it bothers people and they are allowed to say so.
And fwiw I am with you about well loved posters. We are all just sitting here chatting. There are posters I personally like better than others and I am sure most of us are like that, but that is just my preference.