I am so infuriated with DH - we seem to have this conversation about once a month where he goes 'xxx (fill in name of peer) was riding her unicycle today - why is DD not doing this?' and I reiterated how happy she is and how much stuff she DOES do (we go swimming a lot, she is starting general music lesson) and how I don't feel the need to push her to be doing a thousand extra-curricular activities. She is so little - just in Year one, and getting to grips with school, and we have busy happy lives - she has lots of friends and we do lots, so really, what is the problem? I feel as if DH and I have this fundamental incompatibility in terms of how we perceive children's development at this stage and how much we think we need do to to push them in terms of them achieving their potential. He seems to feel that by not getting her to do xxxx and xxx and xxx that she is NOT being fulfilled and that we are not doing our best by her as parents.
We do happen to surrounded by a lot of parents who are fairly pushy (in a nice way) and I think he sees them and thinks, why aren't we doing that? Whereas I see a happy little girl whose horizons are constantly being expanded and who could not fail to be a clever and lovely thing. Argh! Does anyone else have this kind of problem and how the heck do I reassure DH that we are doing fine?