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to be pissed off that DH has just had a takeaway delivered for himself, just as I did not cook dinner tonight?

57 replies

jigglebum · 21/10/2011 20:28

DH feels cooking is part of "my job" as I have been a SAHM for most of the last 3 years. However, I now work 2.5 days a week, am nearly 8 months pregnant, have a 3 year old and still do the majority of care of DS and all the housework, washing and cooking. He goes to work, does DIY and baths DS when he can be bothered to get in in time.

This week I really have not felt like cooking in the evenings (have lost my appetite really) but still have done most nights. This evening I am knackered so thought I would wait and see whether DH would step up to the mark (he does sometimes!) I am upstairs , he is downstairs and I hear him order take out - for himself only!!!!! I would not care but he always is negative about take outs when I suggest them on a friday as he does not like to waste money. I also did the weekly shop yesterday so there is plenty of food choice. My DH is a selfish pratt I think most people would agree!

Im off to get some toast for dinner.

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SuePurblybiltFromBitsofCorpses · 21/10/2011 20:29

Whaaaaaat? He didn't ask you if you wanted anything?
He doesn't sound like much of a catch tbh.

WoodBetweenTheWorlds · 21/10/2011 20:31

He is being an arse.

TheBestWitch · 21/10/2011 20:31

It sounds as though it is your DH's job to be a cunt.

trixymalixy · 21/10/2011 20:31

WTF!! What a tosser!!

YANBU

Pagwatch · 21/10/2011 20:31

Oh that is bad. He didn't even ask you?

Methe · 21/10/2011 20:31

You just said you lost your appetite, maybe he thought you wouldn't want anything?

If you just couldn't be arsed to cook ( we all have days like that ) you ought to have yelled down the stairs "i'll have a chow mein" or whatever"

mamas12 · 21/10/2011 20:32

omfg Tell him what an unutterably selfish piece of work he is and either he steps up or you are seriously thinking of what the hell is wrong with your marriage.
Oh and also, eat the takeaway, you need it more than he does.

Emsmaman · 21/10/2011 20:32

I think you should eat his takeaway and he can have cold toast. He's lucky to be getting that.

Sleepglorioussleep · 21/10/2011 20:32

Seriously? Good grief. Yanbu.

Kayano · 21/10/2011 20:32

I would have killed him
8 months pregnant, working, a
Toddler and you do the housework?

He should be bloody well ashamed of himself

VeronicaSpeedwell · 21/10/2011 20:33
Shock
camtt · 21/10/2011 20:34

Has it arrived yet? If not, why not get to the door first and divide it onto two plates thanking him for noticing how tired you are, what with the out of home work, the childcare, the housework and being 8 months pregnant

ENormaSnob · 21/10/2011 20:34

He is a wazzock.

To put it mildly.

KittyFane · 21/10/2011 20:34

Selfish PIG. I've got nothing else to say.
:(

Northernlurker · 21/10/2011 20:34

He hasn't ordered takeaway for his pregnant, working, mothering wife? He's some piece of work. I would be chucking things at my dh by now - you sound very calm. Is he often this much of a git?

TethHearseEnd · 21/10/2011 20:34

Sorry, but that's fucking appalling.

What kind of good points can he possibly have which make up for that?

He'd better shit gold nuggets, that's all I'm saying.

Mutt · 21/10/2011 20:34

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Shinyshoes1 · 21/10/2011 20:35

Go downstairs, pick up the phone and add what u want to the order then give him a severe bollocking. The fucking nerve of it

Have u actually said anything to him. Is he completely unaware and in his own little world or is he just being a cock

KittyFane · 21/10/2011 20:35

Although I love camtt's suggestion!!!

Maryz · 21/10/2011 20:36

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JamieComeHome · 21/10/2011 20:36

I think he's making "a point"

twot

TartyMcFarty · 21/10/2011 20:36

Are you sure he doesn't intend for you to share it? I think I would sweep downstairs when it arrives, say 'Great! Thanks for being so thoughtful!' then snaffle the lot.

Maryz · 21/10/2011 20:36

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Shinyshoes1 · 21/10/2011 20:36

OR like another poster said when it arrives be out in the kitchen with 2 plates and be ready to serve the meal BETWEEN you.

Watch his face Grin

LetTheSlaughterBeGincognito · 21/10/2011 20:37

Or ring back and cancel it. Even if you still have to pay.