to be pissed off that DH has just had a takeaway delivered for himself, just as I did not cook dinner tonight?

[jigglebum]

DH feels cooking is part of "my job" as I have been a SAHM for most of the last 3 years. However, I now work 2.5 days a week, am nearly 8 months pregnant, have a 3 year old and still do the majority of care of DS and all the housework, washing and cooking. He goes to work, does DIY and baths DS when he can be bothered to get in in time.

This week I really have not felt like cooking in the evenings (have lost my appetite really) but still have done most nights. This evening I am knackered so thought I would wait and see whether DH would step up to the mark (he does sometimes!) I am upstairs , he is downstairs and I hear him order take out - for himself only!!!!! I would not care but he always is negative about take outs when I suggest them on a friday as he does not like to waste money. I also did the weekly shop yesterday so there is plenty of food choice. My DH is a selfish pratt I think most people would agree!

Im off to get some toast for dinner.

That's really crap jigglebum
My DH can be a complete tool at times but I seriously doubt he would do something like that especially if I was pregnant (even four weeks preg, never mind eight months!!)

What's been the end result? Did he share any of his precious take out with you?

As I say, DH is far from perfect, and I'm guilty of letting him away with Nonsense because I can't be bothered with the argument. But I would be sending him out to get my take out of choice in your situation, with my boot up his ass!!

No I did not share the take out - was not offered but neither did I ask. Won't be cooking for him for a while it has to be said! He is selfish and always has been but I think it becomes more evident when you have kids and one of you is at home more. I definitely notice it more now than when we were first together.

My main concern about having DC2 is the further strain it will put on our relationship, which is actually pretty good when things are going well but easily disrupted when one of us is tired,fed up, being a pratt etc

Can't see that saying nothing and expecting him to notice he is being a twat is going to help. Why did you say nothing? On the rare occasions my DH is a bit of a selfish arse I say "oi, DH you are being a bit of a selfish arse actually" and he shapes up.

Georgimama - I sort of agree with you. That's what I'd do, but OTOH

I suspect it's hard when your DH does not notice things that a reasonable person would notice, and responds to any direct questioning of his behaviour by aggression. I imagine it wears you down.

sorry - aggression was over-stating it. That's not what you said OP.

I tend to agree with georgimama
As I say, I have far from the perfect marriage. But DH started acting like a Pratt when DD was born and got consistently worse when I became a SAHM. I said nothing, just generally sulked and took dd off places etc in the hope that he would somehow notice and reassess his behaviour. Needless to say that tack didn't work. Things did get quite bad but basically I just decided I didn't want to live that way any more. We had a massive talk, very nearly split up, but did for the first time in ages properly communicate and things are now completely different.

I really think you should give serious thought to having a chat with him. Do you want your DS growing up thinking that's how a relationship should be, how a man should act?

Sorry for the total butt into your business, I know you only posted to moan about take out. But I am so so happy I started talking to my DH and gave him a kick up the ass and it's made things so much better between us.

Surely it's got to be worth a shot? Rather than just sulking and 'going on strike' in the hope he notices? (and honestly I'm not criticising you, because I behaved that way for months).

Please pick up the phone and order a takeaway for you, your 3 year old, and your almost-here child. What a selfish pig your husband is.