To expect dh not to eat the Peshwari Nan? Warning - ranty and trivial.

[Carrotsandcelery]

We had an Indian takeaway tonight which is a big treat in our family.

We ordered 2 nan breads because dh doesn't like Peshwari Nan and the rest of us don't like Garlic Nan.

Dh also gets a meat curry and me, dd and ds share a veggie one.

Dh gets a rice to himself and I share a rice with the 2 dcs.

So, to recap, dh gets a whole curry, whole rice and whole garlic nan to himself while I share all of my food with the dcs.

Am I being unreasonable to complain when he eats the peshwari nan, meaning I got none and ds only got one small piece, when there is garlic nan sitting there uneaten?

When I commented - in a calm tone - about him having a whole nan and that I now had none his comment was, "Oh, here we go!"

I know it is trivial and hardly life changing but am I being unreasonable to be a bit annoyed with him and his selfish currying ways.

If it is relevant it was me who drove the 16 mile round trip to get the curry and me who paid for it too

If you want I can come around and stink your dh out of the house. We went for a (huge treat) Curry last night. I had the Chicken Boona and a peshwari Naan to myself dh and I shared a rice and he had a plain Naan and Jalfrezzi he has had no problems with wind. Where as I nearly killed myself in the car this morning with the smell. He would never eat your Naan again I promise you. As it is, I have spent more time in the garden today than in the house!!

because dh doesn't like Peshwari Nan

why was he eating Peshwari if he doesn't like it!?

lol at a third of a veggie curry and rice being a "big treat" and at DH eating a whole naan before you had chance to get some drinks!! also he clearly does like peshwari naan quite a lot if he managed to gobble it so quick!

Just to clarify, dh didn't eat the whole naan. He ate the last piece. The dcs were munching on it while I was getting stuff organised, which is fair enough as it was their meal. His own naan was there on the table waiting for him too though.

looloo the portions are epic - I have a massive appetite and I was very full up, despite no naan

I know they are different depending where you go as, when we have been on holiday, we have been seriously disappointed when ordering the same meal.

Believe me that from our nearest Indian there was plenty of food.

i'm a bit jealous of your epic portions!

BUY ONLY PESHWARI NANS NEXT TIME.
oops sorry capitals!

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You''re being a girly martyr...oooh let the BIG man have the BIGGEST dinner because I, as a female am made up of air and fairies dandruff...I simply don't NEED as much.

Bolix.

My DH knows better than to expect the biggest portion....I am capable of eating a whole meal so I have one....he never gets the most meat/rice ...it's all equal.

Mumbling where did that come from?

If you met me then you would realise that I am neither girly nor a martyr.

I ordered plenty of food for me to eat and plenty of food for dh to eat. I am just annoyed because he ate mine.

If I was a martyr then I wouldn't make a peep about it.

I would be a fool to order more food than I need just to make a point.

Dh does eat more than me, despite my aforementioned ability to trough. I am not a delicate wee soul. I just don't need to eat a whole portion FROM THAT PARTICULAR TAKEAWAY.

is he normally selfish?

No he is a lovely guy. This seems to be a momentary blip in his good character. I suppose we all have our moments.

YABU for making me order an indian tonight!

Tee hee!

Mumbling, don't men have a higher recommended calorific intake than women? So they do need more, generally speaking.
However, if I list the last bit of peshwari naan that I had driven for and paid for, I would be massively pissed off. It would be Naangate.

That's lost. Lost the last bit of naan. I'm so upset at the thought I can't spell.

Calorific reccomendations...depends on what you do. I am very active, sports and walking...so I need more than my office bound DH.

And I like food.

OP don't be offended I was taking the piss but wasn't meant a mean. I am like Joey when it comes to food. VERY hard for me to share as I gre up in a LARGE and hungry family where it was every kid for itself!

DUnno, OP, are you just having a mildly humorous strop because your DH (who is otherwise lovely) ate your share of food, or is there a problem with him having a massive sense of entitlement (he gets three times as much expensive food as anyone else and then eats yours, too)?

I'd have resorted to physical violence, for the original offence and then again for the "here we go" comment.

If you're driving to collect it, and you're paying for it, and you're getting the family's drinks when you sit down to eat it, then it's only fair that you get to choose it too. So no meaty curry and no garlic naan. (My DP can't comprehend a meal without meat.)

Next time buy only what you like, so whatever he eats, there'll be some left for you. When he complains, you can roll your eyes and say "here we go."

So is that garlic naan going spare?

Pass it over here......

Yanbu. He owes you now. Big time. I suggest he runs you a nice bath, then gives you a long massage afterwards, then watches your fav film with you and then you get to sleep in late the next day.

Definitely order 2 next time and skip the garlic one. We always have some left over. For 4 adults, we order one veggie meal, plus an order of a meat dish, plus extra nan because we love it. Or if ds and his dg order, it is only a veggie meal, and they always have enough for the next day.

Did he do it unthinkingly or was it calculated?

It wasn't calculated, he just ate whatever was closest, without thinking through the consequences. He is generally a nice guy.

He clearly did feel bad too as he folded a massive pile of laundry and made me a cup of tea and offered to sleep beside ds instead of me, while I lounged on the sofa, not helping a dot.

I slept beside ds in the end because I had promised to - otherwise I might have taken him up on that offer too.

We also watched Stardust but he loves it as much as me, and I got the lie in because the dcs are on hols and he had to go to work.

I don't really mind ridiculously about the naan, although I would have liked a bit. It was the, "here we go" that made me more cross, as though I wasn't entitled to be annoyed by his thoughtlessness. It is a ridiculous thing in itself to be upset about but that comment stung a bit. I am not stroppy with him in general and we have had a truely horrid time recently and it was uncalled for.

Thanks everyone for making me laugh and see it for the nonsense it is. In future I will be ordering 2 Peshwari Naan and sending dh to pick it up

I really want a garlic naan now!

At least he made it upto you afterwards! That was nice of him [hsmile]

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