To think this is a fair compromise

[dealer]

There's something wrong with our telly. I don't know whether it's the telly, or the freeview or what, it just malfunctions sometimes. I very rarely watch it, so I'm not bothered but I understand everyone else does.

So dh wants to sort it, I tell him that's fine, just figure out what needs repairing/replacing and sort it. He wants to buy a new much larger TV and get SKY, without actually knowing what's wrong so it's obviously just an excuse. I think SKY would be a massive waste of money and will cause arguements with the kids, but if it'll really make him happy then ho-hum, we can afford it. But I really, really don't want a massive TV in our front room.

He keeps getting the kids to 'vote' on whether they want a big telly, thus easily outnumbering me and making me out as an ogre when I veto it, which I'm annoyed about. They also keep pointing out that I never watch it, which is true but we have a small house and I will still have to have it flickering away at me all the time. I have sometimes found other people's tellies have given me headaches.

So I've told him he can have SKY if he really want it but no big telly. So he's done nothing and spends the evening moaning at me that I'm so tight and won't let him spend money on it every time it goes wrong. Which isn't true, if it's the TV he can go straight out tonight and buy himself a similar sized TV if he so wishes.

"So I've told him he can have SKY if he really want it but no big telly."
I have never told my dh what he can and cant have ever.

And nor should you, bubbles. As he shouldn't to you. Of course if it's about shared money, then that can be different. But the OP says that's not the case.

My XH used to. That's why he's an XH. Family works much better now, the DDs and I work together.

Oh you sound totally controlling and pathetic . Really. Get a grip. If you were a man behaving like this everyone would be up in arms.

We have exactly the same TV as the one in the link earlier on! And I thought it was quite modern, as it's new to us (my mum gave it to us when the old TV packed up). My son does call it the "new old TV" though, as opposed to the "old old TV".

I'd love a new posh telly. Don't care how big/small.

I think you are B a bit U, OP, although I can see why you don't.

Jeez, a 24" telly is not torture we have a flat screen 24" one and it's perfectly fine - watch telly if you want but it doesn't overpower the room. Stick to your guns OP!

Most of the stuff on telly is shit anyway so why would you want to watch it bigger???

VV good answer, cantspel

Sorry, dealer, a 32" TV is not mahoosive and is the size I want for my miniscule living room. I'll put it on the wall so it's just above eye level when I'm on the sofa - this gives you optimum lounging 'n' viewing comfort, imo, with minimal neck contortions.

Wrt the flickering - I'm bound to be repeating an earlier post, but the screen quality and resolution does make a difference. Get an LED (same as a computer screen) and, if you can find an affordable model, one that's also a computer monitor - they have a higher density of lines or something

Sony screens are generally good, and can always be found on special offer. There are also some that have a crazy sort of surround backlight - seems like a silliness to me but check them out; the extra light might help your eyes. The DC will love that, so don't even mention it at home until you've found out whether it helps your migraine!

Here's some confusingly technical stuff about screens and migraines
and here's another one about subliminal flicker and stuff.

Still looking at monitors, this says: "LCD monitors have no flicker rate, you may find you have a problem with glare. This can be solved relatively cheaply with a glare filter." HD TV monitor with a glare filter for Mummy, perhaps?

if you do not watch the tv how is it giving you a headache?

and it is probably cheaper to get a bigger tv than repair the one you have. Not sure why it bothers you what size it is if you do not watch it.

Flicker rate from wiki:

As a result, the greater the portion of our field of view that is occupied by a display, the greater is the need for high refresh rates. This is why computer monitor CRTs usually run at 70 to 90 Hz, while TVs, which are viewed from further away, are seen as acceptable at 60 or 50 Hz (see PAL and NTSC.)

This could explain why you find a PC screen ok, but have problems with TVs. The refresh rate of the computer screen is higher.

It still suggests that you're more sensitive than the average person, and it does seem unfair to have that affect the other 4 people in your household.

What about trying something like blinkers? A cap with a peak that would block the TV if your head is down reading a book?

Well, her DH has read the thread and agrees with her wimp so nothing more to be said really.

Just another I am NBU and if you disagree with me I'll prove that you are all wrong.
Bit of a waste of time and energy really.
But Ho Hum.

Oh, I dunno, I finally found out why I'm only really happy watching TV on a monitor. Which means I shan't be able to afford a 32" one. Bugger.

Yep - after all this time of him battling for his telly, he's read over her shoulder & realised how unreasonable he's been all along

Oh, yeah, and that I meant LCD not LED.
AIBU has its uses!

Ooooh! When I do get a TV/monitor for the living room wall, I'll be able to Mumsnet on it [hgrin]
And the neighbours will be able to read over my shoulder from outside!

If you don't even watch it... Let him do what he wants IMO

We are decorating ATM and DH is using
Our 32' TV to play world of Warcraft and I may have to actually steal it back from his PC room lol

I have exactly the same problem, with the flickering of TV's giving me migraines. When I needed a new TV, I did a lot of research, went into a LOT of TV shops, suffered many many migraines while looking.

I ended up getting a Samsung, Model Number LE32B450C4W. Samsung apparently have the flicker rate set slightly differently to most other manufacturers. It has made quite a difference to how many migraines I get - I am having only a qurter of the amount of migraines that I was before I changed TV. YES, it is a 32 inch TV, but that is purely because the smaller models were made with a different flicker rate.

I didn't WANT a TV this big, but as it was the smallest one I could get that didn't give me these problems, it was what I went for. If you DO cave to your DH's wishes, then look at 32inch+ samsung TV's.

There's always something left to be said LadyE

We'll just make it up as we go along if you've gone off to bed dealer

That's vv encouraging, Huntycat! Cheers!

There are only two voters - you and your DH.

You've proposed a compromise. Does he have any other (compromise) suggestions? No? Then stuff him.

Apart from anything else, it is a major financial purchase. He shouldn't get to make those unless you're agreed, IMHO - I realise that you two may have some other arrangement about how financial decisions are made, but anyway, that's my two cents.

Oh - and DON'T buy a sony - they were the very worst - I went into the Sony shop and within literally 60 seconds, had the most painful migraine ever!

Refresh rates! Thank you to the person upthread! The Samsung is at 75Hz rather than 50/60Hz like most normal TV's. It was a little harder to set up the dc's Wii on there I had to pay someone who knew what they were doing to set it up but it does make a difference.

The resolution was important too, for a reason I cant remember, but it needed to be higher than 1000x700 - which this TV is, it's something like 1300x750-ish. Any TV that has a resolution rate over 1000x700 will be better but also dearer than one under that, and will cause less migraine-type problems.

i bet it wasnt her husband name change methinks lol

Yabu and being a diva.