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Too not move in this cafe.

263 replies

toobreathless · 15/10/2011 20:33

First post in AIBU, just curious to hear what others think.

Had a lovely day wondering around a pretty local town. Time came to feed DD, who was getting a bit noisy. Went into the nearest cafe (there are about six) & sat down at a table to feed DD while DH got in the queue for drinks.

Had DD firmly attached when two ladies approached (in their 50s?). I was sat at a table for two. One said to me 'you will have to move we have already bought our drinks & have nowhere to sit.' Stunned, I looked up & realised this was true. I wasn't the only one 'saving' a table.

I politely suggested the ask the gentleman sat alone at a table of four if they could share. They gave me evil stares & swept off.

I feel a bit mean now. Was I BU?

OP posts:
FanjoForTheMuahahammaries · 15/10/2011 22:50

Yes, troops and breastfeeders are really relevant to each other, well done for shoehorning that in

LadyEvilEyes · 15/10/2011 22:51

Thanks seven
I hear it so much on MN, it needs another thread I think.Grin

Sevenfoldedbloodybodies · 15/10/2011 22:51

LadyEvilEyes it does, it really does, we need our own thread all about agism on mn

mosschops30 · 15/10/2011 22:53

Sorry i coulsnt find anything relevant to 'nations support' and 'breastfeeding'

MrsBaggins · 15/10/2011 22:54

Actually its against the law to stop or ask a mother of a child under 27 weeks to stop BF in any public place including a cafe

Pass the wine mosschops - think you have had a wee bit too muchGrin

mosschops30 · 15/10/2011 22:55

Dont drink Grin

Maybe thats my problem Grin

MrsBaggins · 15/10/2011 22:56

Hahahahahaha ! Cant imagine what you would be like if you did !

mrszimmerman · 15/10/2011 22:56

I think anyone feeding a baby should have our support too, feeding a baby anyway.

KittyFane · 15/10/2011 23:02

Mrs Baggins right, it's late for me... A law? No, there's not a law?!
(BTW, I don't drink either! :o)

begonyabampot · 15/10/2011 23:03

Sure the last thread on this hit about 20 pages plus but have to wonder at the gormlessness of people queueing for food or drinks when they might have to stand and eat their lasagne in stead of making sure there were enough tables to go round first.

KittyFane · 15/10/2011 23:05

Equality Act 2010 stating mothers cannot be stopped or banned from breast feeding by public service providers.
There is a law :o

ShellyBoobs · 15/10/2011 23:09

but have to wonder at the gormlessness of people queueing for food or drinks when they might have to stand and eat their lasagne in stead of making sure there were enough tables to go round first.

So again, I'd love to know what lone people are supposed to do?

Or are they the 'gormless' ones? Nice.

helpmabob · 15/10/2011 23:11

I told you what lone people do: I either ask to share a table or hover near people who look closest to finishing. I do it all the time

Sevenfoldedbloodybodies · 15/10/2011 23:13

great so a BF can go and sit anywhere and BF even if it means they take up a seat a customer who has paid for goods, can't then use the services provided
(not talking about op but othe rpost).

ShellyBoobs · 15/10/2011 23:14

I told you what lone people do...

No. You said what you do.

helpmabob · 15/10/2011 23:17

I said I do that when I am alone. What is the difference?

MrsBaggins · 15/10/2011 23:17

Seven I think it is assumed the BF mother will be using the services of the cafe or library etc.

Goldenbear · 15/10/2011 23:18

misschops, why do you have such a problem with breastfeeding? It's called common courtesy, unsure if you've ever shown any to a person but in this instance the women concerned should not have asked a woman breastfeeding to stop, do herself back up and move for them. It is rude, inconsiderate and frankly petty to do so.

Goldenbear · 15/10/2011 23:22

Yes seven you've got it in one BFs or mothers who breastfeed can do that!

Sevenfoldedbloodybodies · 15/10/2011 23:26

what if they aren't though(out of interest)

Sevenfoldedbloodybodies · 15/10/2011 23:27

Goldenbear sorry I didn't see that, did the woman tell the op to stop BF. I thought they just asked her to move as she hadn't got food

helpmabob · 15/10/2011 23:33

If anyone asked me rudely I wouldn't move bf or not, baby or not. They were out of order

ShellyBoobs · 15/10/2011 23:33

Yes seven you've got it in one BFs or mothers who breastfeed can do that!

Untrue.

The law is to protect women from being prevented from feeding in public.

If someone plonks themself down at a table in a cafe, whilst not buying anything, then there's nothing to protect them if they're asked to leave.

So long as they're not being asked to leave because they're feeding, no problem.

effingwotnots · 15/10/2011 23:33

Op yanbu

Miserable old hags! Lots of them about!

begonyabampot · 15/10/2011 23:36

If I'm alone I'll bags a table first with bags or I used to park a small child there or if had to, I'd join another table and would offer to share my table with those caught out as well. You do what you think is best but at least I get a table and don't have to stand all righteous and cats bum face.