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to think that falling in your plate is not on at lunch?

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Hullygully · 10/10/2011 11:51

So, Sunday lunch at a friend's yesterday. A couple that we know slightly are also invited. The woman who is very bright and very pleasant for the first hour, drinks so much that she is literally unable to speak (but doesn't stop trying), and we all carry on with lunch pretending that everything is normal and not laughing where she can see.

Is this normal? In any way?

OP posts:
BupcakesandHaunting · 10/10/2011 13:48

Your life experiences make you inclined to think that every pissed up person has a problem. Many others don't.

You have chosen to be rude.

That is it, really.

VampiresWearBlackVelvet · 10/10/2011 13:48

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

cheekeymonster · 10/10/2011 13:49

Ha ha! Now hully is 'fish and chips'! Grin

Hungrydragon · 10/10/2011 13:49

Clarence.....you've basically called EVERYONE who has posted on the thread a twat Confused

BecauseImWorthIt · 10/10/2011 13:49

My comment about 'have a go at Hully' was based on the fact that she's being singled out on another thread, quite unnecessarily - not just in relation to this one.

Clarence - you clearly (and not surprisingly) have issues about alcohol which do seem to be affecting how you are responding. But resorting to rudeness is not on.

BupcakesandHaunting · 10/10/2011 13:50

What Rhubarb said.

I like it.

Where is the OP? I hope she hasn't run off, I want to kiss her arse a bit more. And also get rid of some of the eyes/sprouts that are forming on it, with me new potato peeler.

VampiresWearBlackVelvet · 10/10/2011 13:55

FWIW, I've reported my own comment for being offensive, sorry Clarence.

My comment to MNHQ

MNHQ
Can this be deleted please, It was an off the cuff spur of the moment comment and I do not intend any offence, however can see that it could be taken. Offering someone who clearly has issues with alcohol some Wine is not on.
Thanks

AgentZigzag · 10/10/2011 13:58

You say so many people are coming to the OPs defence Rhubarb0, does that mean you think anyone disagreeing with an OP is attacking them?

Does the OP need anyone to come to her defence because posters have disagreed with her?

I thought the idea was to discuss what the OP has posted.

I've had my fair share of pissed up inappropriate situations, but I disagree it's funny her and her friend were having a laugh at the womans expense, instead of wondering why she wants to be getting shitfaced at lunchtime and why her DP just sat and held her hand not saying anything.

AgentZigzag · 10/10/2011 14:00

And doesn't everyone post referencing the experiences they've had?

So what if Clarence has issues with alcoholism because of what happened to her?

She can post what she thinks along with everyone else.

BecauseImWorthIt · 10/10/2011 14:03

Of course she can - as can anyone else - but there is no need to resort to personal insults.

bibbitybobbityhat · 10/10/2011 14:03

I experienced this with a friend's dh at a dinner party a few years ago. It was on a Friday night and he had already had lunch out with colleagues which had probably gone on all afternoon. Then we went to our hosts for dinner, Mrhost being an expert and enthusiastic cocktail maker (as well as fab cook) and this dh had a couple of cocktails. Whilst we were eating dinner, I suddenly noticed he had become utterly silent and wasn't eating. He was pissed rigid. The odd thing is that his dw started talking for him - you know how you do for a baby. We left at about midnight, apparently he sobered up a bit and carried on til 1.30, but he didn't touch the lovely meal the hosts had cooked.

The hosts had us round again recently but decided not to invite this other couple cos its really no kind of fun to have to prop up an incoherent 40 something at a dinner party. Sadly I think this guy probably is an alcoholic.

BupcakesandHaunting · 10/10/2011 14:04

She certainly can.

Doesn't mean that she can give out instructions on how everyone else should behave though, does it?

ShirleyKnot · 10/10/2011 14:05

Clarence blew it with me when she said something scathing about the drunk thread.

There are fucking limits you know?

Hungrydragon · 10/10/2011 14:06

Agent, I agree with you it's not right to laugh, but I didn't read the strikeout like that.

You cannot help but laugh at certain situations or behaviours, I took it as in the same way as when someone falls or slips, you can help the laughter but you also show concern by picking them up and checking they are ok.

The fact that her partner was resolutely not taking any notice would bring out the nervous giggles in myself too if she was falling asleep in her dinner and mumbling.

BupcakesandHaunting · 10/10/2011 14:06

I've seen the drunk thread been thrown back in poster's faces on too many threads like this. Does my nut in.

CumbrianCooBeastie · 10/10/2011 14:07

instead of wondering why she wants to be getting shitfaced at lunchtime and why her DP just sat and held her hand not saying anything.

Having worked out that your parties are likely to be duller than a lead bar in a therapy session, I'm off out of this thread. I'm new and I agree with Hully, so can only conclude I am a very bad person indeed.

p.s. (I am x-alcohol dependant and still think it's funny that everyone tried to carry on as normal.).

TheRhubarb · 10/10/2011 14:10

No Agent, what I am saying is that yourself and Clarence have been quite rude to Hully and that is why she is getting support. I experienced this on a thread last week. Discussion and debate is fine, but rudeness is not.

This is a woman you do not know, have never met but which is a friend of Hully's. Based on what little you know you have presumed she is an alcoholic. It was the first thing Clarence said.

Your posts have been judgemental, both of Hully and this woman you have never met.

We have all made tits of ourselves whilst pissed and can all relate to Hully's incident. Does that make us all alcoholics?

You might have had a good point to make about this woman, but that was lost in the rude tone.

Hungrydragon · 10/10/2011 14:10

I have never been rejected from the w/e drunk threads despite the fact I don't drink. Nor do I find them offensive.

BupcakesandHaunting · 10/10/2011 14:10

"Having worked out that your parties are likely to be duller than a lead bar in a therapy session, I'm off out of this thread. I'm new and I agree with Hully, so can only conclude I am a very bad person indeed."

:)

bibbitybobbityhat · 10/10/2011 14:10

Dag nammit! Once again I post a top notch grammatically perfect reply, full of wit an interest - only to do so in the middle of a bun fight, destined only to be stepped over.

GetOrfMo1Land · 10/10/2011 14:10

I think it is very odd for a partner to act as if someone getting blindo was somehow normal - as in the partner of the woman hully met yesterday, and the wife of the pissed bloke that bibbity met. I would say it is normal for a partner to try and get the pissed person out of there asap, rather than just sit there and act as enablers.

Mind you if nobody has told these people that what they are behaving like is absolutely not on, perhaps they don't realise that their behaviour (and their drinking) is out of order and/or damaging.

Mind you - I don't think it is the responsibility of someone's aquaintance to say something. if you don't know someone very well you can't exactly ask if they have a drinking problem. Sadly, they will just get excluded socially/at work until someone close to them hopefully does step in.

ShirleyKnot · 10/10/2011 14:11

haha! Bibs!

AgentZigzag · 10/10/2011 14:13

It's sad you find the scenario where a woman is so pissed at lunch that she can't talk, and her DP is sat silently holding her hand with fuck knows what going through their head, while the rest of the guests are giggling at their situation, Hungry.

How did you read the strikeout remark?

BupcakesandHaunting · 10/10/2011 14:13

I read your post Bibbity. :)

Why didn't he eat?! Is it just me who acquires the appetite of a stegosaurus when blottoed?

GetOrfMo1Land · 10/10/2011 14:13

I also totally understand the fit of giggles thing. It doesn't mean that someone is horrible - it is just a normal reaction to awkwardness I think. I can't imagine hully was sitting there pointing at the woman and laughingly shrieking 'look at that pissed up twat'

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