to think that falling in your plate is not on at lunch?

[Hullygully]

So, Sunday lunch at a friend's yesterday. A couple that we know slightly are also invited. The woman who is very bright and very pleasant for the first hour, drinks so much that she is literally unable to speak (but doesn't stop trying), and we all carry on with lunch pretending that everything is normal and not laughing where she can see.

Is this normal? In any way?

[PinotScreechio]

I may even do a facemask, Sjue. I may just do that. Fuck it.

[SuePurblybilt]

Face mask? I cannot as I will be Immac-ing my beard.
Bet the others are well jel.

Am weirdly fascinated by the icky third nipple. But it will be invaluable if he ever spawns three young.

[PinotScreechio]

Well if you're throwing down the gauntlet of de-fuzzing I may Veet my fanjo. Oh yeah. I know how to have fun dagnamit.

Should I tell him I'm discussing his extra nip to the www?

[SuePurblybilt]

I would. But then I'm single

I shall put my elbows in half-lemons and balance cucumbers on my eyelids as we type, Pinot.

[PinotScreechio]

We are CLASS, Sjue. Pure pure CLASS.

















Innit.

[SuePurblybilt]

Innit though?

[BecauseImWorthIt]

I think, Hully, that this thread confirms (as if any confirmation was required), that you are clearly designated Mumsnet Royalty.

[ScarahStratton]

Wayhay Buppers, finally I get to stroke your norkage.

[Hullygully]

No way Biwi.

I think it just confirms some people are grouchy groos no matter what.

[Hungrydragon]

Hully, royalty? Bwah ha ha ha

[TandB]

Snorbs - I am sorry you had to go through that with your ex-partner, but I absolutely stand by what I said about agreeing with my colleague's comments to this bloke.

Maybe he was fed up, maybe he had tried everything, but that certainly wasn't the impression we had from his conduct and that of his colleagues. I am afraid that sitting around smiling feebly while making no attempt to reduce the constant flow of drink to the table does not give the impression of someone dealing with a difficult situation to the best of their ability.

There is also the fact that the impression we were given by the comments from the couple's other colleagues was that this is a regular occurrence and that it hadn't occurred to any of them to take any steps to prevent this car-crash of an evening. A couple of my colleagues also had words with a senior member of their firm who was present - the event was strictly invitation only with our head of department being told he could bring a table of 10. We had a member of staff who was notorious for getting drunk and making inappropriate comments - she wasn't taken along for that very reason, and our head of department had a word with her after a couple of drunken performances.

So assuming that their firm was issued with the invitation in the same way, everyone chose to overlook the fact that she was highly likely to behave like this and to sit with her and drink large quantities of wine with her while she got more and more out of control. The senior colleague did concede that he should have seen it coming, but I didn't get the impression that any of them had genuinely taken on board the epic scale of her behaviour and humiliation.

Maybe you did everything you could in your situation, but I simply don't accept that this man, or this group of people, did the same. And I absolutely do not accept that it was appropriate, whatever the background, for him to walk away as she lay on the ground with her pants on show - by that time all she could do was flail around and rant at us as we tried to sort her out - her party could have physically carried her out of the room - they did eventually physically remove her but they let us try and deal with it first.

In the same way that not everyone who gets horrifically drunk is an alcoholic, not everyone who sits by and watches it happen is a loving but powerless partner - some people are just a bit crap.

[BupcakesandHaunting]

There'll be a queue for my norkage.

A queue to get away from it.

[GetOrfMo1Land]

snorbs you should come to the meet up.

[Snorbs]

I'd love to but I'm going to be washing my hair that night.

[GetOrfMo1Land]

I have an overwhelming instinct that that is not true

[SayGhoulNowSayWitch]

Duck anyone?

[SayGhoulNowSayWitch]

Like

[PrincessFiorimonde]

Hully, I love you very much. You are absolutely my favourite person on Mumsnet.

But your friend/acquaintance drank 8 large glasses of wine at lunchtime - meaning this was over a short space of time? - while trying to talk as if she had a modicum of sense . And she has done this before, and fallen in to a pot plant while doing so? And you still don't think it is/was your place to comment on that?

I know there have been many times when I have been the shitfaced person in this story. And I've hated it when I've woken up the next day and cringed about it.

Sweetheart, you need to talk to her about this. Take her out for a skinny latte and a cupcake, and just talk.

Good luck!

[CheerfulYank]

I never get to go meet ups! NEVER NEVER NEVER!

Sigh. How are ya, Princess ?

Once I drank too much and yakked all over my grandfather's carpet. When he was recently released from the hospital. And he was sitting there with his oxygen tank watching me in horror. Oh God the shame.

And once I drank too much and ran into a glass door because I didn't see it. And I had to play it cool until I got into the bathroom and wept over my aching nose.

And once I was drunk (and engaged) and saw this guy I'd always fancied and starting telling him how gorgeous he was and how I would keep him in mind if things didn't work out, whilst gesturing wildly with my wine glass and splashing him a lot .

Last week I got tanked and PM'd a MNer and had almost no recollection of it the next day. Yet managed to spell everything correctly and remembered a poem . I am was extremely pleased with myself, actually. :o

Oh goodness, I could go on. And oonnnnn....

But I am not an alcoholic, I'm just a bit of a tit sometimes. As I suspect this woman might be.

Was anyone else hoping Hully would fess up and say she was the woman in question? :o Has someone already said that? (Chorus: RTFT!)

[Hullygully]

No way Fliffy.

Honestly, I barely know her, it was the first time I'd actually spoken to her.

Plenty of people know her well, they can do it...Believe me, I have quite enough errant friends to deal with.

Not me, Cheerful. Not this time, anyway..

[GetOrfMo1Land]

cheerful you will have to come to the meetup.

Minnesota is only 5000 miles away.

Come on, show your committment!

[Hullygully]

Yeah, lightweight.

[Jins]

Huls, it's a right ballache doing intervention type stuff with people like her. I'm in the midst of it and wouldn't wish it on anyone.

Yeah I'm stacking up merits but it's really dragging me down.

[Hullygully]

I've had bleedin' cheerless years of it.

Let em drink themselves to death.

[Hullygully]

And it doesn't work, all that stuff about they have to get there themselves etc etc is all true.