To think school have said no for my child absence for a family holiday

[HidingInTheBathroom]

We are going on holiday next month. My DS (8) school have refused the leave.

I handed the form in yesterday and got a reply today. I wouldn't mind but he never has time off school. He has not had 1 day off this year and last year he had 1 and half days off because he was sick at school and was still poorly the day after.

We have never been on holiday in school time and out of all his school life I think he has had a total of 4-5 days off ill.

They say if I take him I could get find. Going next month so my DS will be off school for a total of 10 days. We have been waiting for this holiday for 4 years.

AIBU to think they should off not refused this absence.

You've obviously made your mind up to go.
And you obviously don't care about the school's regulations (which, I agree, seem a bit ridiculous) so you're just on here for some valedation.

You knew the school's stance, you ignored it.
Take it on the chin, enjoy your holiday, and help your ds to catch up.

However, don't plead poverty when you're jetting off to Florida.

And make sure you can explain to your ds why he should follow all school rules but you shouldn't have to.

I am not pleading poverty it has taken years to save up for this holiday. We don't go out much we save and save.

So what is wrong with going on holiday to florida. If I went to Spain yes it will cost less to get there but it costs you more when your there because it is that expensive. We are not big drinkers and enjoy taking out kids to theme parks and which other themed park is more magical than Disney.

So if you think AIBU for taking my son out of school you are entitled to your opion. However if you hurling abuse because where I choose to holiday then that's out of order.

Enjoy your holiday YANBU to go . The school will probably close when there are 2 flakes of snow in December ,
My DH used to be a hotel manager and was not allowed to take leave in school holidays , so , we had to go in term time , or not go at all .

Regardless of the wrongs or rights of taking your child out of school, why did you not tell school when you first booked (or even better before you booked) your holiday?
Filling in your form now basically says to the school that you don't care whether they authorise or not, you are going anyway.

OP, you have many, many answers. Some think you are BU, but enough think you are NBU for you to go on holiday without feeling too bad, I should think.

And you are quite right about responses to your chosen destination (not my choice, but you probably wouldn't like my hols - like that 'holiday swap' programme that used to be on TV!).

Maybe someone should begin a thead entitled 'is HidingInTheBathroom BU to go on holiday to Florida?' then everyone could have their say!

I would just go [and have done in the past although always authorized].

A friend at my sons school did not get it authorized because of his sickness and she still went and nothing was said.

The school will not put it down as unauthorized because it will make their figures look bad, and I will doubt you will get a fine because that will also be a black mark against the school.

I'm not abusing you for going to Florida.

But if one of the reasons that you are taking your ds out of school is because this holiday costs so much compared to your income, then you can't be suprised when people raise an eyebrow.

redskyatnight I was thinking exactly the same.

I have only handed it now because I didn't think there was a problem. Yes naive I know now. But at least I'm honest in my answer.

On balance I think if it's go now and have a wonderful family holiday with special memories vs. a fine, then in all honesty I would go.

YABU to expect the school to approve it, and if I were you I'd be keeping it under my hat with the other parents too.

yabu to have thought the school would of said yes, but yanbu just to take him any way.

in my works, if you have not got your school hoildays hoilday request in by 3rd january for the next finacal year, you have no chance of having time off. Family hoildays are important

look at this: www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/Schoolslearninganddevelopment/SchoolLife/DG_4016103

explains should be allowed if dictated by parental leave dictates - ie only time OH could get time off

sorry - now linked www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/Schoolslearninganddevelopment/SchoolLife/DG_4016103

The school can't authorise it.
It's for two weeks and many schools don't authorise any term time holidays.
I'm a teacher and I think you should go.
If your DC was year 6/9/10/11, I'd say you shouldn't.
As others have said, don't expect the school to make up the time with your DC.
The reason I think you should go is that this sounds like a 'once in a lifetime' trip. Your DC will have an amazing experience.
It's not my kind of thing but that isn't relevant and I don't know why others are asking 'why Florida' it's your choice after all.

YANBU to go on holiday; YABU for thinking the school should ok it just because of past record, and YWBVVVU to attempt to tutor your child in grammar to catch up on the 10 days, based on your replies here.

Thank you wibbly i my self have have dyslexia and find it very hard to proof read so thank you for pointing it out. I have always struggled to get by. But if you can read and understand it then what's your problem.

wibbly are you for real? totally irrelevant remark only aimed at attempting to make the op feel small. very petty.

I am amazed by those of you saying the EWO would get involved after taking children out for a holiday that otherwise have good attendance. Your EWOs must be very underworked! I work in one local authority and my dd goes to school in another and in neither authority could you get an EWO to come near or by unless attendance was below 80% at least! And attendance doesn't start from September each year, a cumulative attendance record would always be looked at.

OP enjoy your holiday, don't even give it another thought. Just write to the Head saying thanks for your letter I plan to take ds out of school between x and y dates for our family holiday.

'I also think that holida companies should not be allowed to charge so much in school holiday time.'

You could say that about alot of things, though, that work through supply and demand. Surely holidays are a business like any other and charge what people are willing to pay. They would also have increased costs themselves. Not to mention that many people want to go in the hottest months.

YABU

Why do you think the rules don't apply to you?

I have in the past taken my children out of school for trips. Sometimes an opportunity comes along that is too good to pass up. I'd be damned before I ask for permission from the school!

OP I hope you have a good time.

My parents used to take us out of school for a holiday every year, even in the first year of secondary - to go skiing.

Family holidays are very important.

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