A relative pinched my 14 month old baby on her face

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My partners sister pinched our baby on the face, causing a bruise that lasted 10 days. I saw the aunt pinch my daughter just as I walked past the room. I assume my baby might have pinched her first (but that's no excuse as the aunt is 43 and my daughter is only 14 months old). My baby daughter screamed in pain and sobbed for several minutes afterwards. As soon as I saw it happen I scooped her up and removed her from the room but now I don't trust this woman with my kids. I have 3 Pre-schoolers and this aunt has moved in with us for 12-18 months!
I didn't say anything to the aunt at the time as I was too shocked and upset. I haven't mentioned it since & it was 2 months ago. I asked my partner to speak to the aunt (his sister) which he did & she seemed surprised about the deep blue bruise on baby's cheek. He apparently said that only we (parents) are to discipline the children.

My daughter also had a large cut on her top lip a few weeks before (obviously a fingernail cut from the aunt) which the aunt said was caused by baby's fingernail. She had only been with the aunt for an hour. It definitely wasn't from baby as it was too wide/thick to be from a baby's fingernail. I couldn't understand why she would lie about an accident. I wouldn't have been upset/angry about an accident! Why lie about it?

However, I don't trust her now & I sure as heck don't want my kids to have to live with her if something ever happened to me & my partner (that aunt is in our will as being guardian and I want that changed now).
Has anyone else had something similar happen? How did you handle it? Thanks for any advice.

Exactly pag its just a story to the likes of you. Bravo, carry on gal keep up the good work.

Oh damn. I had my Mouth Twat? t shirt all printed

Shoni - what is it with all the exclamation marks?

And why do you have to watch Enders because your hubby does?

I don't have a record.
I should though.

Why do you use two exclamation marks all the time? Just wondering.

Three commas. And another PA smiley. And a lol. And a huuuuge dollop of missing the bleeding point.

Froth is obviously the word of the day.

BeerTricks!

Child abuse isn't funny.

The pious, deeply stupid, sanctimonious blusterers who don't really give a shit but quite enjoy giving the op a kicking are quite amusing.

Seriously, I would be horrified, incensed and furious if someone did that to my dd. It would probably had ended in a stand up shouting match there and then.

However as the OP didn't say anything to her, got her husband to have words, and is still festering about it 2 months later, it would point to a difficult family dynamic which means that however much we all shout and say 'kick the bitch out' it is unlikely to happen. So there is no point in doing that. Yelling at her is only likely to scare her off, if she gets rational responses she may stick around and reveal more about her situation which will enable people to help her.

Proudnscary... Or should I say sockpuppet...

I am not the aggressive one, the aunt is. The aunt that any sane person would have booted out a long time ago. The seven people were friends I met up with for coffee who saw it on my iPhone so what's weird about that?!

The only person being unreasonable here is the op. By the way, my baby bf's a lot so I flick through my phone sometimes when she does bf in a sleepy way, hence the time to check the thread.

It is odd to me that the op never answers a straight question and she hasn't removed this aunt. I fins it odd and negligent

dam = damn
hit = shit
your = you're

So much hysteria in one place. WTAF is going on??????!!!!!!

Pag, I am not here to give the op a kicking, really I'm not but I do think she needs to wake up and realise that having the aunt there is doing her kids no favours and it is negligent. That's how I feel.

To be honest,i haven't read the whole thing,but it sounds awful that a baby was bruised in this way.

Lots of us have been telling her to do that. She is just more likely to listen to people speaking to her rationally.
As most of us do.

Why do people do < > instead of ( ).

Hmm, but no need for all the headless chickens. A simple 'The aunt is being abusive towards your child. Aunt should not stay in house. Remove aunt.' would have sufficed.

Not all this incredibly unMNy weeping and wailing, gnashing of teeth and breast beating.

Talking about The Archers, Bert gave Rhys the funniest recap of the Clive Horrobin saga in tonight's episode, for the benefit of those lost souls who haven't been listening for the last 15 years. It went ON and ON and ON, and Rhys had to repond to each new outrage with ever increasing protestations of shock and disbelief, until you could almost hear him frothing at the mouth. And then Bert would say " And arrrrrfterrr thaaaat, he........" and the whole would ratch up another notch.

Bit like this thread.

"and the whole thing would ratch up"

hahha pag And the constant Mnetters are taking much joy and entertainment from this thread while as I said before being the voice of reason. HAHA

I think the only irrational one is the aunt

Just taken me twenty minutes to read this thread.

OP, and any lurking newbies, the lesson from this story has to be, don't post anything you are seriously worried about in AIBU, and try and avoid posting a new potentially controversial thread after 10pm uk time...

Sweaty - they do to show an action - like this

It's a mumsnet thing!

Thanks for the English lesson, again something you lot areso much better at than the rest of uneducated unworthy lot. and have a hun hun while we are there