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to tell snotface doctor to fannythefanny off!

125 replies

BullyBeefBadgers · 29/09/2011 14:03

at appointment yesterday to discuss completely unrelated problem the (male) doctor looked at me and said "I am concerned that after 5 months and at your age that you haven't snapped back yet" My response: ShockShockShock.

I promptly picked up DD, stood up, told him that I was appalled and stalked out. I really wanted to shove his stethoscope where the sun don't shine. I am not even overweight. I have put on 1 stone since pregnancy which hasn't gone yet but I am not massive! Clinically, medically, scientifically and technically I am not overweight! Yes I am 21 and many women at my age ping back after childbirth without any problems but I was ill with appendicitus 3 weeks after having DD and so haven't been as active as some.

Please tell me that hes an utter wankstain or have I got this totally wrong!?

OP posts:
thunderchild · 29/09/2011 21:33

@worraliberty >>> are you a doctor? I aimed my comment at you because you seem unable to grasp what a lot of us ( the vast majority) are saying.
Namely that, although his concern may have been geniune, his approach was inappropriate.

I never spoke to my patients like that, and if I had concerns, I asked them whether they minded my voicing them.

And during my working day, I often saw as many as thirty.

And please do not attack my vernacular. That's rude.

[wine glass]

worraliberty · 29/09/2011 21:33

Who thinks Doctor's are Gods?

Give the guy a break, he was showing concern for his patient.

So what if he didn't dress it up in a way that suits everyone. The most important thing is the OP gets herself checked out.

hiddenhome · 29/09/2011 21:35

Showing concern for his patient? Hmm

He was being a patronising git who didn't want to hear about her DP. That's not concern. It's called being rude and fobbing somebody off.

I work with doctors. They're morons, believe me. I have more faith in my vet.

worraliberty · 29/09/2011 21:36

thunderchild Get over yourself love.

I don't agree with you...can you grasp that?

I don't care how you 'spoke to your patients' because this is the internet and for all I know you could sell double glazing for a living, so it's pretty pointless bringing that up isn't it?

thunderchild · 29/09/2011 21:36

AND none of MY patients stalked out in high dudgeon.... except the one who didnt like needles... and I kinda sympathise with THAT.

worraliberty · 29/09/2011 21:39

So because you 'claim' to be a Doctor, we're all supposed to bow to your opinion and we're not allowed to have a differing one...is that it?

Patronising much?

zippy539 · 29/09/2011 21:44

Apologies if someone else has said this as I'm dashing and haven;'t had time to read the last page or so of posts BUT -

It might be that he was uncomfortable discussing your DP'S issues. I've tried talking to our doc about DH's depression (without DH being present) and the doc was all but wriggling in his seat because he felt the confidentiality thing was being compromised (DH was his patient also, is your partner with the same doc?) . No excuse but his discomfort might have lead to him trying to change the subject?

Alternatively, and a bit off beam, he might be trying to do some amateur psychology and suggesting that your concern with your DH's eating issues reflect your own body issues iykwim? So he thinks that you're over-playing your partners non-eating because you have issues with over-eating. However this would be an odd assumption given your own description of yourself physically.

Either way I would be tempted to go back and ask him what the issue is. No need for a big confrontation but, as the original issue hasn't been addressed (your dp's eating issues) then you are well within your rights to go back and ask for his solutions for the original problem.

thunderchild · 29/09/2011 21:45

@ worraliberty.... please stop being so nasty. I seem to have touched a nerve haven't I??

By the way, Im a retired Emergency Care Practitioner ( as the RN want to call us nowadays).. we are used to replace doctors on short deployments and shoreside we run all " casualty type " clinics, vaccination, general fresh case and health promotion clinics.
I was in short, an LMA .
google it

And use a better strategy than personal attack.

worraliberty · 29/09/2011 21:47

I'm sorry but I don't give a flying fuck what you claim to be...it has no bearing on my opinion at all...just as what I do should have no bearing on yours.

If you think I'm being rude, you're damn right I am because of your patronising tone in your first post that mentioned me.

I don't agree with you and that's that Smile

thunderchild · 29/09/2011 21:49

Oh and Worraliberty ... I never claimed to be a doctor, I said I was a medic, which is only synonymous with doctor to those who know no better.

Dont put words in other peoples mouths.

worraliberty · 29/09/2011 21:50

Again....I don't care if you claim to be Ghandi, I don't agree with what you're saying.

thunderchild · 29/09/2011 21:52

Not that I have any delusion that miss liberty's attacks will cease anytime soon.

I could be wrong, but I'm betting she wont prove it.

Ho hum, back to my wine. TTFN

worraliberty · 29/09/2011 21:54

Yes dear.....

thunderchild · 29/09/2011 21:56

again with the word "claim". Hmmm. rude and libelous.

Get back on topic.

worraliberty · 29/09/2011 21:59

Oh ffs how is it rude or libelous?

You do need to get over yourself.

I don't know you from Adam so if you think I'm going to treat your posts any differently to anyone else's, you're mistaken.

Notchattingnow · 29/09/2011 21:59

No one knows what he meant by snapping back.
Sounds more like a comment about mood or routine.
You are all massively over reacting.
Doctors are busy and get distracted, the phone goes, you're trying to think of various solutions to things.
Unless he actually called you fat which he didn't YABVU
Thunderchild.. so you are a nurse practitioner then ? I think you are being unfair to worra who simply disagrees with you

BoulevardOfBrokenSleep · 29/09/2011 22:01

worraliberty - I will bet you ten pounds to a bag of shit that if the OP went back and 'got checked out', cleared all this up with the doctor, it would transpire he was just being rude about a bit of belly wobble.

Also, what zippy said.

thunderchild · 29/09/2011 22:03

look.... I'm more than happy to prove my credentials... so please stop using terminology that labels me a liar.

Libel (even internet) is not only shabby, but illegal.

worraliberty · 29/09/2011 22:03

I hope so Boulevard....that it's just a belly wobble, but she won't know til she's checked out, so I hope she gets it sorted soon.

NoNoNoMYDoIt · 29/09/2011 22:03

OP - i think his attitude was appalling. unfortunately, however, i have no faith in GPs any longer. apologies to those of you who are GPs... but it's based on my personal experience and that is all i have. if i were you, OP, i would complain. not that i think you will get anywhere. but you definitely won't if you don't...

i have suffered from depression since my first child was born 5 years ago. i have had another child (now aged 2), more PND, and am still on ADs. i have also separated from their emotionally abusive, control-freak father, been to court over residency and lost my battle.

i went to the doctor on the monday after my court hearing. i was utterly devastated and suicidal. i walked into the room and burst into tears. told the (young female) GP what had happened and how i was feeling. she told me 'that is in the best interests of the children. you need to pull yourself together. you don't need medication. you don't need counselling. you just need to pull yourself together'.

i walked out of the room. she SHOUTED at me 'come back here now'.

i didn't complain. i couldn't. but i stared long and hard at the train track on my walk home.

sometimes GPs have no fucking clue...

worraliberty · 29/09/2011 22:04

thunder I can't be bothered with you...sincerely I don't care if you spend all day selling donuts on Blackpool beach.

It makes no difference to my opinion which I'm more than entitled to have.

thunderchild · 29/09/2011 22:10

Now-- I'm off, to "she claimes" to have other glass of wine and "she claimes" to carry on enjoying the Shirley Bassey prog on beeb 2.

And I "claim" to bid you a good evening.Smile [glass of wine] cheers!!!

worraliberty · 29/09/2011 22:12

Jesus, is this the longest goodbye in internet history?

You're either going or you aren't?

Notchattingnow · 29/09/2011 22:14

How can it be illegal to not believe an anonymous person using a made up name on the internet Grin
who was being a bit misleading about being a "medic"

worraliberty · 29/09/2011 22:16

Perhaps 'thunderchild' is the name she practices under? Blush

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