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To be sick of hearing how wonderful it it to have baby Harper after 3 boys

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oliandjoesmum · 28/09/2011 13:39

Beckham at it again today. Know am being petty, and sure will be told I shouldn't care, but as a Mum of 3 boys do hate this constant insistence in the Western World that girls rule and boys are devils spawn. It makes me feel sorry for the Beckham boys, like they have been sidelined. Feeling a bit personal about this one at the moment, sister having girl to provide my Mum with first granddaughter after 4 grandsons. Really quite fed up with conversations about how amazing it will be compared to having noisy/ never sit still/ crap clothes wearing/non ballet dancing/ non horse riding/ dirty/ raucous boys(mothers words - not mine!)

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pommedechocolat · 28/09/2011 18:59

cheeseandmarmitesandwich - Sometimes it feels like an exam that you've failed doesn't it? Like something you do can control it. That's what I hate most. It's just a lottery!

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 28/09/2011 19:03

I actually beat Posh to it by 4 yes 4 years. I have 3DS's and then DD. I am sick of the "well you got a girl in the end comments"
FFS I wanted 4 DC's, if after 3 DS's my motivation for trying for a 4th DC was purely to get a girl I had a 50% chance of being dissapointed. It also makes me feel sad for DS3 as if somehow he was a disappointment by being a boy. I take great pleasure in telling these people that I was planning on 4 DC's and am thrilled with 4dc's boy girl or otherwise.

WishIwereAtTheWiesnProst · 28/09/2011 19:07

I've announced PSB to be is going to be a boy and have had a few people tell me how lucky I am I got one of each first time around oh well

ilovesprouts · 28/09/2011 19:11

i had boy-girl- boy

5inthebed · 28/09/2011 19:16

My friend has just had a girl, she has a boy already. She has mentioned a couple of times people have told her she can now stop as she has the perfect family. I mean, WTF!

5inthebed · 28/09/2011 19:17

The WTF is about people saying it, not my friend, she is in the WTF camp with me as well.

soverylucky · 28/09/2011 19:19

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fannybanjo · 28/09/2011 19:23

Have to laugh that people assume that you have girls that they are all going to be feminine ballet dancing, pink wearing princesses! I have 3 and only one of mine is like that. The other two totally boyish.

pigletmania · 28/09/2011 20:38

Oh no I had it the other way round, I have a dd, and was constantly asked 'when are you trying for a baby' 'oooh I hope its a boy' So it works the other way round too. And when Jamie Oliver had a boy there was much celebration as he had 3 girls, so a boy at last.

ThePosieParker · 28/09/2011 20:42

I definitely know people who would stop if they had a girl....they still are head over heels in love with their boys though,

pigletmania · 28/09/2011 20:45

Oh and I am 24 weeks pg with a boy, so people are saying, oooh I bet you don't want anymore you have one of each flavour

Kayzr · 28/09/2011 20:47

Posie, I think I would stop at 3 if I have a girl next. I have always always wanted 4 but if the baby we are ttc is a boy I will certainly persuade DP to have 1 more.

But if all 4 are boys I will stop and just hope my best friend/SIL has a girl

zukiecat · 28/09/2011 20:49

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chicletteeth · 28/09/2011 21:01

Zukie that is really sad.
For you and your son.
I'm glad you're seeing a therapist to work through this rather than allowing an article to run in the Daily Mail about how you don't really love your child (awful woman did that last year about her own daughter )

zukiecat · 28/09/2011 21:21

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troisgarcons · 28/09/2011 21:26

Oh Lord - 3 boys and everyone asks if we would have liked a girl.

I think a girl would have upset the equilibrium of the house (had No3 been a girl). Boys I can deal with, easily. A girl, hitting puberty as I hit menopause... oh dear - I can only imagine what that might be like!

My husband would have a liked a girl though! Not that he would ever tell anyone that!

chipmonkey · 28/09/2011 22:20

oliandjoesmum don't you look at the photos that go with the Beckham articles? VB looks just as miserable as ever, never cracks a smile!

I have just had a girl after four boys and tbh, I was a bit surprised at how everyone kept going on about how I had finally got my girl. Yes, I did get my girl but as she was born at 28 weeks, the last thing on my mind was her gender, all I wanted to know was, is she OK? But then again, a week after she was born, some people assumed that she was home with us, so maybe people don't understand how serious it is when a baby is prem?

I did keep calling her "he" as I was very surprised it wasn't another boy. And I do find myself looking at little boys' colourful clothes and feeling a bit wistful for the days when pink was not the only colour.....

PeachyWhoCannotType · 28/09/2011 22:34

How is she doing CM?

SoupDragon · 29/09/2011 08:00

I always said that if I had two the same I would have third to try to add the "missing" variety but would stop at three nonetheless. It is nothing to do with not loving the first two but more to do with wanting, say, a cup of tea after two coffees.

I assumed I would get a tomboy when I had DD. Turns out she is a fluffy wuffy pink princess, god help me. I don't understand her at all :o

4madboys · 29/09/2011 08:29

hope she is doing ok chipmonkey? i also have a girl after four boys and know another mum that has as well, the comments will continue, dd is 9mths now and i still get them.

and re the pink, you can get lots of lovely girl clothes that arent pink, i do as i am not a pink fan, tho she does have some pink stuff, but i try and even it out and she doesnt wear 'all' pink, she might wear pink leggings but under a denim pinafore and with a multi colour stripey vest etc and she still wears her older brothers clothes as well!

chipmonkey · 29/09/2011 09:10

She has done very well so far and fingers crossed we will get her home tomorrow!
There is a question mark over her eyes so I am going in to see the ophthalmologist at 5 am tomorrow morning to discuss it. I am hoping it is a minor issue which will resolve itself but if not she could need a laser procedure. Worrying but she is in good hands.

PeachyWhoCannotType · 29/09/2011 09:11

That's fanatstic and I guess at least if her eyes are damaged then she ahs the best Mum she could ask for!

4madboys · 29/09/2011 09:20

oh wow home tomorrow, how exciting and thats an early eye appointment! fingers crossed it goes well and look forward to see you posting to say she is home and enjoying cuddles from all her big brothers, if they are anything like mine they will positively dote on her :)

chipmonkey · 29/09/2011 23:10

The 5am appointment is because the ophthalmologist is a very busy man and visits all the maternity hospitals, the main childrens hospital, the eye department in one of Dublin's main hospitals, a laser clinic and a private clinic. I am not sure if the man actually sleeps! I suspect he comes to the SCBU at 5am as the babies don't object to the early start.

Peachy, I'm afraid I was very rusty on retinopathy of prematurity as it was one of those subjects I swotted for exams and then pretty much forgot about as all my patients were considerably older! I am hoping the oph will say that it is resolving itself and won't require intervention but if not, she is in good hands.

rhondajean · 29/09/2011 23:22

Yeah I get OP. Its lovely for the Beckhams that they got their little girl though.

I am the proud mother of 2 DDS but I wanted sons and I make no bones about it (mostly because I hated growing up, other girls were so bitchy and I didnt want my children to go through that). If I knew for absolutely definite DC3 would be a boy, Id have another. DM on the other hand only ever wanted a little girl and has told me if I was a boy she would have had another but she got everything she wanted with me.

My cousin is due a baby any time now, her first, her sister already had two boys. DM is a bit spooky at predicting sex and I asked her what the baby is and she said, its a boy, Im really sorry it is, I was hoping for my sister (thats my aunt, the cousins mother) it was a girl after the two boys....

I just hope its healthy and shes okay!

Why do we thinka girl is so wonderful in our culture? Ive been a disappointment - Ive got myself a proper education, and a proper job, and wouldnt even let DH keep me ffs.....I dont do shopping or girl films, watch football, and have even been known to drink pints - my dearest hope is both DDs follow my example - and if I had DSs it would have been the same - they are little individuals not little Barbie and Ken dolls!

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