AIBU to cry for three hours?

[FabbyChic]

Am I?

My son has gone.

He usually sits on the other sofa with a Skype headset on, always there never moved for two years, now he has gone and I miss him so much.

I worry that he is sitting in his Uni room all alone without his laptop cos he left the charger here. Has he even eaten? What if he doesn't make friends, what if he is lonely.

I've no one in RL to talk to, I've no family.

Is my son going to be okay? Will I myself survive this cos it really hurts. It's just me and the dog, I'm even worried I'm neglecting the dog.

Fabbychic - come the hols you will see just how much you are still needed for coking/ironing etc etc.......!

I shall file that one away stabby. God help me.

Hoovering under the sofas is a GREAT idea.

at BOFs affectionate 'quirky' description

HuntyCat, if DBro is still having problems, tell him to visikt dean of students. He might be able to get a hardship loan or an access to learning fund payment. I'm at the UEA myself (year out atm) and they're lifesavers though. He can also appeal against SFE decisions where need be.

Hoovering under the sofas is a GREAT idea.

Hey I have a dog, my dog does shed some hair, it all seems to reside under the sofa, and it's not a sofa where the bottom hits the floor, it has wooden legs and is raised by 4" or so. So technically I do have to hoover under there cos it's been a year since I last done it!

Pffft, shave the dog. It's easier...

If you want to know what your student son is doing in his first week, just don't watch Fresh Meat (C4, first episode was last Wednesday).

I don't want to know! ha ha no, not my baby.

Like, I said, Fabby. He's already read all the required material for next semester and got an early night. Honest

Just keep telling yourself that, anyway

How you doing fabby? Did you manage some sleep? Take that dog out for a walk and pick up some chocolate on the way if you're still struggling.

hey fabby, dont worry about your son he'll have a great time!
I was worried about making friends at uni because i was older and had a child, but i still ended up with loads!
It'll be the best days of his life.
Do you have any hobbies you could focus on? It must be hard having an empty nest, but he'll be back for christmas!

Morning peeps!

I slept okay just awake.

Im going to remind myself all the time that whilst I am not hearing anything from him he is busy. If he was sitting in his room alone he would be texting me or ringing.

Need to let go, but it's hard.

Of course it is, don't beat yourself up.

You have a soft side .

He'll be fine.

What about swimming / library / de-cluttering etc? Take the dog for a long walk, the weather should be nice today.

Just don't take the dog anywhere muddy if you're planning on cleaning take the dog out first

not that my dog ran upstairs last week when covered in mud and dried himself on my cream bed sheets oh no not my dog

Aww Fabby I feel for you. It's so hard to let our boys go. Try and find something to distract yourself with today so that you have news to tell him when he does get a chance to call.
It's been nice to see your more vulnerable side you know

Wow Fabby, I too am shocked shitless a touch surprised to find you have a soft side.
Hope you are feeling better today.
Stuff yourself with chocolate, walk the dog, and remember we are all here for you if you need us.

Glad you slept well. Lovely day down here in the south, hope same where you are.

This thread is the real mn!

I remember that i have challenged the attitude towards Fabby a couple of times and i'm glad to see these posts today and the sense of humour. The true mnetters!

Fabby it is a glorious day (at least in london it is), forget the hoovering behind the sofas and go for a walk and then lunch in a nice cafe or bistro?. Take the i-phone with you and post from the cafe. If you like give us your area, who knows maybe someone is close to you and fancies coffee or lunch?.

We will be in Epping. Enjoy the sunshine everyone!!!

Fabby - you know, your job as a parent is to rear them and let them go.

It's the hardest thing in the world to do.

You're doing a good job, you're doing the right thing for your son and I'm sure he's a lovely young man who will make you proud

Now go out and do something less boring instead (and if you lot are old enough to remember Why Don't You then there's hope for me yet )

I;ve taken the dog out, and Im getting ready to go to Wilkinsons yep cheap Wilkinsons to buy some lilac paint to paint my room, my son and I damaged a wall moving furniture down from the loft and I needed to touch in, unfortunately every lilac I have tried does not match, so I have to redo the whole wall.

My garden needs doing to.

So today Im on a mission.

Have spoke to son he was sleeping, so Im pleased that he took my call.

My goal when they was born was to see them to go University and do more with their lives than I had the opportunity to do. I've achieved that and I;m real proud of my sons.