AIBU to cry for three hours?

[FabbyChic]

Am I?

My son has gone.

He usually sits on the other sofa with a Skype headset on, always there never moved for two years, now he has gone and I miss him so much.

I worry that he is sitting in his Uni room all alone without his laptop cos he left the charger here. Has he even eaten? What if he doesn't make friends, what if he is lonely.

I've no one in RL to talk to, I've no family.

Is my son going to be okay? Will I myself survive this cos it really hurts. It's just me and the dog, I'm even worried I'm neglecting the dog.

He'll bring all his washing back Fabby. You just wait and see. And you'll always be a mum.

Thanks for responding peoples, considering my posting style, I was worried no one would!

I remember my dad telling me that when I first went off to uni, he and my mum were really worried about me, as I was a bit shy, v close to my parents, didn't drink, had never been to the pub or spoken to boys, and my mum did everything for me at home.

I had a whale of a time, didnt ring home for over a week (no mobiles back then) cos I was so busy going out etc . I was never homesick even for a second, so am sure your son will be absolutely fine. I did shrink a lambswool jumper in the wash tho on my first week..but that was about the worst of it

I think it was a bit easier for my parents as at least they had each other to talk to. I second giving the dog a hug :)

Fabby, it's fresher's week. At the moment, he is out, spending his student loan (if he already has it) chatting up someone you won't approve of, wondering which flavour pot noodle is the best hangover cure, and just being a teenager.

If a completely socially awkward so and so like me can make friends during freshers, he'll have no problem. Someone will have forced him out, regardless, and helped him drink the bar dry. There'll be someone with a laptop charger he can borrow, if need be; If not, he can buy one from the nearest CEX

Ring him tomorrow, about 3, maybe 4pm. He'll be waking up around about then, wondering what his name is because he forgot after the sixth jaegerbomb. He'll be glad to hear from you, but at the same time, Saturday night is the worst time to phone a student... Alongside Thursday, Tuesday, Monday, Sunday, Wednesday and Friday.

DISCLAIMER Not all uni students are like this, I know... Anyone who fears their DC is up to the activities listed above, don't be silly.... They were in bed by 8pm, have had their five a day, and have already completed their required reading for this semester.

Hello there. Congratulations on your son getting to university. You must have done something right, it's what I hope for my own children. The way you're feeling is totally understandable. Hey, it even has a name, empty nest syndrome.

And as for you, this is the start of a new happier phase of your life. You can concentrate on feeling well, and have more time and energy for new endeavours. I hope things look better in the morning, no scrap that, I know things will.

He'll be having a ball Fabby.

And now you've got more time to yourself, can you work on getting your own social life together which is about you as a person, and not you as a mum?

It'll make term time go a lot quicker of you're busy, and he'll be home for the holidays (with a giant sack of washing) before you know it...

I cannot imagine Fabby on the phone to her ds crying and demanding he come home - it just wont happen shes well hard lol

My son is on another continent at University. He's having the best time of his life and the one and only time he got sad was when I told him I'd shed a tear for missing him. Now we speak on Skype and he doesn't get told how much I wish he was here - it's just one of those things you have to do.

Aaaaw you guys make me feel all warm. Its really nice.

Appreciate it, I might have to mellow in my posting!

I know it's a good thing, and I shant tell him how I am feeling, wouldn't be fair on him. He had to leave home sometime, and he will be back at Christmas.

Have to make it special this year.

janiston thats such a shame about your uni experience. I do agree with you though - my parents never told me they missed me (well not in a needy way) or that they were worried about me, even though of course they did and were.

Ditto Janiston's post, btw.

Fabby, could you enrol on a part time course or something? It'll take your mind off missing him, give you something to do, and I found it an easier way of making friends than heading down the pub etc. Pubs are scary for some of us, eh?

He'll be fine, Fabby. As much as it's exciting for him, I expect he feels a bit out of his depth just like all the other new students and they have to get used to the place and each other and manage with their mums. It doesn't mean that he won't need you, he'll always need you, however old he gets, but you've done a good job as his mum so you needn't worry about him looking after himself.

Now... what can you do for yourself? Take the dog on a nice long walk tomorrow and blow away the cobwebs? Have a look at the local courses to see if there's anything that strikes your interest? Buy something frivolous for yourself? Buy yourself a dvd set that you've long wanted to watch? Something else? Anything that distracts you from your 'loss'. Come and insult us all on MN...

He'll be back, Fabby and you'll get used to him being away and it will never be this bad again. :)

fabby dont change the way you post! I may not always ever agree with what you say, but I like your honesty :)

My OU studies resume soon! and I've been told by my son to take the dog out more so that keep me busy.

Don't you dare mellow up. Makes life intereting.

Please don't mellow in your posting! That is not the Fabby we know and love (well the majority of us).

I second all those who said he'll bring his washing home next week, but this is now a time for you to see what you'd like to do too. I must imagine it's really hard but start thinking about yourself now too, alongside your sons.

Get thine Arse over to the single parents student thread Fabby and you can help me rant at Student Fucking Bastard Finance who have royally screwed up on me and I am beyond broke.

(And BTW he will be fine, you will be fine, I cried for weeks weeks I tell you weeks three hours??? you lightweight )

I think it's been harder tonight because his older brother has his phone turned off and he generally never does I'd have talked to him about it, he just graduated this year.

Oh don't start me on student fucking finance. I was on benefits the year they wanted earnings, tax office said I earned zero! Zero! So they wanted proof I was single before he got the maintenance grant, as it stands he pays more rent next week than he gets in student loans! Good job he has his own stash.

Oh my god. Fabby has a soft side? This is amazing!

Fabby he'll be fine. We won't be if you mellow your style tho. I rely on your bluntness to make me smile

Apparently my dad spent the first three weeks I was at uni wandering from room to room as if he'd lost something. Now he gets annoyed with me if I'm home for longer than 24 hours! You'll adapt fabby. He'll have a brilliant time & youll be the proud mum at his graduation.

Ha ha! your poor dad ATruth

:( My friend sent in the evidence SFE needed in July. They wrote to him this week to tell him he wouldn't be getting the aintenance grant, etc, as they still haven't received his evidence of his mum's earnings. :(