AIBU to cry for three hours?

[FabbyChic]

Am I?

My son has gone.

He usually sits on the other sofa with a Skype headset on, always there never moved for two years, now he has gone and I miss him so much.

I worry that he is sitting in his Uni room all alone without his laptop cos he left the charger here. Has he even eaten? What if he doesn't make friends, what if he is lonely.

I've no one in RL to talk to, I've no family.

Is my son going to be okay? Will I myself survive this cos it really hurts. It's just me and the dog, I'm even worried I'm neglecting the dog.

I decided to reply and not read other replies first, but I'm guessing that regardless of how you often come across on here you won't be flamed fabby! What you are experiencing is normal, he's your son, if you didn't miss him there would be problems, but you do! This will hurt you more than it hurts him, you need to be strong, be confident that your som is out there making the most of life and now it's your turn! If I remember right you suffer with bpd? Which I realise must be hard, is there anyone you can turn to for company? Join an evening class? Charity work?

You WILL get through it!

deleted on a pretty cordial thread.yowsa what did you say

Frothy, how are you feeling sandwiched between stabbystabbykillkill and YouWinOrYouDie?

I'd be a bit nervous tbh.

I told her to get a grip and used the c-word. Before immediately offering chocs and grinning.

Mea Culpa, should have said, "c-ty chops" obviously

ZigZag, it's ok... I have the bread knife with me, just to be on the safe side...

Ive work on Monday, I just have to get thru tomorrow, Ive decided to paint my bedroom. Maybe move the sofas and hoover under them, that kinda thing. My garden has suffered since I've been working so I could do that too.

The BPD is doing dandy, its the depression that I don't want back, it made me a recluse and agoraphobic for almost three years.

how do deletions work,does someone have to flag it ip
or does mn know there had been a swearie word

Fabby don't take it too far now.... Hoover under the sofas???!!!!!

Actually, is that how you spell lurgy? It's too late for my brain to work properly not that it ever does

Dammit you know what I mean

I hope it doesn't come back, Fabby. Agoraphobia is a complete PITA to deal with, and my degree suffered last year because of it, so I know what it's like.

You can also do my garden if you like... It's suffered because of the agoraphobia

Wait... yes, the hoovering under the sofa is a step TOO far, Fabby

Breadknife OK Frothy, but a screwdriver's more fun I've found

Well that sounds wonderful Fabby, I've been doing that sort of thing myself since DS (4) has been gorn from 8:15 to 3:45 all day every day

It's very difficult. But take solace in the fact that you know you have done everything for the two wonderful young men you have raised and that they appreciate and love you.

not laughing at stabby / die / breadknife comments at all

My next door neighbour berated me at the front gate this week because I don't hoover and mop all through downstairs including moving the sofas and the TV and doing the skirting boards every day

You have ALL made me feel really so much better tonight, and I really appreciate it.

Thank you from the bottom of the heart that I do have.

Stabby, do you live next door to my mum?

Oh, noo. My screwdriver is too valuable... Can't be getting blood on it, I need to put a wardrobe together tomorrow... My bread, on the other hand, is sliced. No need to worry about the state of the knife

Don'tCallMe I was and I cleaned my skirting boards and windows today I felt so guilty

For putting together a wardrobe you need an electric rechargeable screwdriver it's much more efficient

Not quite so good for the stabbystabbykillkills though

A rechargeable? I'm useless with electric things... My mum still hasn't forgiven me for breaking her radio. 12 fucking years ago.

Anyway, it's more fun putting the muscle into it...

Awww - my dc are never leaving home I'll lock them in the cupboard at 16yo. Painting - Good idea. Hoovering under furniture? What is this blasphemy of which you speak? I'm missing my Dbro - He's gone back to UEA - Without any money from cunting Student Finance England the unemtionable people that can't organise a piss-up in a brewery. Less said about them the better.

You'll Get on fine - I'm sure he'll Skype you when he gets his laptop charger.

aw, you sound like my mum . . . she was bereft when my little DB moved to Uni, he was the last one at home and he would have one sofa (complete with headset) and my mum the other - they'd do their thing and sit and chat in the evenings

the day we dropped him off he was so nervous and scared, we had to promise him that we'd collect him in two weeks if he hated it, we rang him on the way home to make sure he wasn't just sitting in his room, and we called the next day to check he'd started talking to people and was eating - after that he was flying and hasn't looked back since

As another mum of two boys, (although very small ones) I am impressed you've got two fine big ones off and at uni and beyond, hope mine do the same some day - I expect they will continue to exceed your expectations, with a loving and supportive mama behind them they'll be fine. Trust them. x

Smethwick if you take one piece of advice from your Auntie Stabby, let it be this.

Never ever ever trust a teenager

Oh sweetheart- I do feel for you (although you must know I find you, er, quirky ), and I hope you get some sleep soon. You sound like you have done an amazing job with your boys.