minx not quite sure why you think I'm being sexist in describing my experience growing up. My post was to explain how my upbringing was, and how having the experience of having my mum SAH did not prevent me from having or developing a work ethic. My dad was not 'at home' when my mum went to work, he was simply home earlier than she was i.e. for me and my brother getting home, and it was a miserable home when that happened. Prior to that, my dad worked abord for long periods at a time, so my experience, my upbringing, relates solely to having my mum there for me. Had my dad been around more, or had he been the sort of dad who took an interest, I've no doubt my experience once my mum went back to work would not have been the miserable, bleak one it was. This was my experience I was talking about, not a generalisation about others.
My point was, being at home with your children does not mean your children won't have a clue about how the world works, or that they will fail to develop a 'work ethic'. I've not been at home 'full time' since my DD was 9 mths old, and she still hasn't a clue about how the world works as she's more concerned with her needs and how she has them met by me. My understanding of the OP was that she objected to WOHM using the argument that you are working rather than saying at home partly to set your child an example on what they will be expected to do once they are adults. That can be learned in other ways, and as I said, I have never had the idea that I would not or should not work despite having a mother stay at home to raise me and my brother for 12 years. IMO the argument about 'setting an example' by working isn't a good or particualrly persuasive argument as I believe setting the example you want i.e. go out, get a job when you are an adult, comes from many different aspect of the upbringing. It's over simplistic to suggest that by working your child's entire life is the only way you'll get the message across that you want you child to have a good work ethic.
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at your post in reply to mine as I haven't slated any dads, SAHD, or WOHD. The thread relates to a SAHM's feelings about comments from WOHM and their reasons for working in relation to setting an example for their kids, and I was answering from the POV of having had a SAHM for a large part of my childhood, and also as WOHM as I didn't have the option my mum had when I had my DD. Granted, the topic has likely meandered since the OP, and I've already said I haven't read the whole thing. But anyway, I'm happy with the choice (part-time work) I had though, and I'm happy with the upbringing I've given my DD to date, even though she isn't always as happy or understanding of the reasons why I work. My DD gains a lot from her relationship with her childminder and ter family, and I wouldn't have her experience of life any other way. I'd have liked to SAH for a bit longer maybe, but given that I've been able to support my DD alone since becoming a single parent, I'm glad I returned to work as I'd have struggled more financially as a single parent if I hadn't.