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AIBU to think that the mums on the school run

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M0naLisa · 23/09/2011 09:08

Who turn up in their PJs are just lazy?

Why would anyone want to take their child to school in their PJs? It takes what all of 5 mins getting dressed??

Just seen a mum with black and white polka dots PJ bottoms on, fluffy ugg style slippers - they were slippers as they had bunny ears on them flapping about!! Hmm

Is it just me who thinks its lazy?

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ShowOfHands · 23/09/2011 10:46

Nobody wears pyjamas on the school run here. Instead we have one mother who yesterday- I kid you not- turned up in fishnets, leather mini and fuck me boots. I can't tell you what was on her top half as it was minuscule and her bosoms were heaving over the top of it in a most alarming fashion. It looks like such hard work. I'd almost prefer the pjs.

I live in v rural Norfolk btw. 99% of folk are farmers. I have no idea what this young lady's hoeing but it's not a field.

pictish · 23/09/2011 10:55

I very much like the way you put that Psammead, made me laugh. Grin

This thread is becoming predictably overblown, presumptious, and bickery-over-infinitesimal-pointsery. I don't care either way about the bloody pyjamas. The fact is, another mother being a lazy sow in the morning doesn't even enter into my peripheral. My concern is to worry about me and mine. Her life, her way.
I used to occasionally see the jammie bottoms/fake uggs combo at ds1's first school (we moved house), but my opinion on it at the time registered nil.

What do any of you care if another parent is lazy, and what example they are, or are not setting to their kids? They may well excel in an area of parenting you do not. Your job is to attend to your own role as a mother and set your kids in the playground of a morning as you see fit. Beyond that, from my pov, it's all a blur. I have enough on my plate without bosom hoiking over fucking pyjamas.

CailinDana · 23/09/2011 11:01

Fair enough psammead, so the next time you see someone out and about in their pyjamas, assume they're going to bed, don't assume they're lazy or a bad parent. Voila you've made the world a slightly nicer, less hostile place.

MurunBuchstansangur · 23/09/2011 11:03

these?

I would judge judge judge. It does affect me what these people do. I don't want it 'normalised' to go out in your jamas (freely admit to being sat in mine, DS not at school until this afternoon Wink) as I think it shows that you are lazy and do not care about what others think about you. That in my mind equates to not wanting to be part of a community that has values or standards.

CailinDana · 23/09/2011 11:09

Maybe they don't want to be part of your community murun. If I was part of a group that started gossiping about and judging what others wear I'd start to wonder if it was right for me. Your standards aren't automatically the right ones.

Psammead · 23/09/2011 11:10

Well, I never said I would assume they were a bad parent. If the children were the ones in PJs, mind....

But I do think it's lazy unless their bedroom happens to be located on the cereal aisle.

Right I'm off to do a spot of gardening in my ballgown.

CailinDana · 23/09/2011 11:13

I suppose people might think I'm lazy. I don't wear my PJs outdoors due to the arse problem but I'm not immaculate nor is my son and my house isn't particularly tidy. If someone considered me lazy I would wonder why they thought their opinion about my life mattered and what they want me to do about it. If you consider pyjamas wearing people lazy, so what?

pictish · 23/09/2011 11:20

Quite.

Lougle · 23/09/2011 11:21

I just don't know how you can run out of time that badly though. I have 3 children under 6. The eldest needs full assistance with dressing (SN) and the youngest needs pretty much full help (2). Middle one can dress herself mostly.

I have 1 that goes on a bus to school, then the middle one goes to school a car journey away.

I start getting them ready at around 7.10, breakfast.

Eldest dispatched 8.25.
Middle one at school for 8.45.

Plenty of time.

Quenelle · 23/09/2011 11:27

My personal, untested theory is that they are imagining themselves as movie stars on a film set. They've seen Hollywood women hanging around their trailer in some sort of PJs/Ugg boots combo and think that's what they look like when they wear the same on the school run.

TheProvincialLady · 23/09/2011 11:34

I have never seen this in RL except for a couple of dirty looking student girls on a Sunday morning. I couldn't help but hold my breath as they passed me. I don't want to smell your sour pyjamas thanks very much. You look like you don't wash your pyjamas, your sheets or yourself often enough.

Danielsmammy · 23/09/2011 11:41

Each to their own i say i probably won't even notice got better things to worry.

spiderslegs · 23/09/2011 12:03

I don't understand why people keep making the point it 'hurts no-one' if people go out in their PJs.

It would hurt me, it would hurt my eyes. Quite alot.

GandTiceandaslice · 23/09/2011 12:04

I get dressed but I don't wear make up daily. I don't have the time.

I have a small suitcase full of makeup.

HoHoLaughingMonster · 23/09/2011 12:32

It's a fashion (or anti-fashion) statement like everything else.

Women in Liverpool have been doing this for years.

In some areas you see them out shopping, on the bus, you name it - in pjs and / or massive velco hair curlers. On a regular basis.

They even buy pyjamas for 'best' ie. specially for wearing outside the house. They change into their best pjs, put full slap on and do their hair and then go out.

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 23/09/2011 12:39

It is not a fashion statement.

It is a look the fuck at me statement.

wahwahwah · 23/09/2011 12:41

I have never seen that! I sleep in the buff anyway, so probably best not to attempt.

TheProvincialLady · 23/09/2011 12:43

I've got a floor length high necked Victorian nightgown somewhere. Maybe I should wear that one morning and see what middle class suburbia makes of it and ruin my childrens chance of friendship forever.

dexter73 · 23/09/2011 12:43

I don't think people wear their pyjamas because they are lazy, they do it deliberately so that people will look at them.

HoHoLaughingMonster · 23/09/2011 12:46

Isn't that the purpose of a fashion statement apocalypse? Like goths, or punks or any fashion tribe - they all scream look at me! I'm different! This is just another example I guess...

catgirl1976 · 23/09/2011 12:49

I have never seen this in RL - but am dying to as I would have a good old judgey tut session and then feel all smug about myself for a bit just for managing to get dressed when others don't. Ideally I would be with my bf when we saw the pj-clad slattern - we would probably go for a coffee for extra judgey bitching time.

HoHoLaughingMonster · 23/09/2011 12:56

catgirl come for a day trip to Liverpool. I can point you in the direction of some guaranteed pyjama watching hotspots. And proably a nice cafe for your bitching session afterwards Grin

catgirl1976 · 23/09/2011 12:57

Grin oooh thanks hoho - that sounds like a marvellous day out! :)

I have heard it is all the rage in Liverpool and most of these girls look more glam in their pjs and curlers than the rest of us do on a night out.....I would love to come and have a good gawp!

capricorn76 · 23/09/2011 13:07

If I was looking at a school for DD and noticed mum's were turning up in musty PJs, my kid wouldn't be going there. Yes I'm that judgemental about this type of thing. It's lazy and rank and shows a serious lack of standards. I bet they're the type to only bathe their kids on a Sunday.

aftereight · 23/09/2011 13:16

Lazy, yes, or maybe making some sort of anti-fashion statement?
I've never seen this, but then DC's school is a little far towards the other end of the spectrum. DS scooted into the back of a mum in 4" leopard heels in the playground this morning.