AIBU to think that the mums on the school run

[M0naLisa]

Who turn up in their PJs are just lazy?

Why would anyone want to take their child to school in their PJs? It takes what all of 5 mins getting dressed??

Just seen a mum with black and white polka dots PJ bottoms on, fluffy ugg style slippers - they were slippers as they had bunny ears on them flapping about!!

Is it just me who thinks its lazy?

Which will be worn in the appropriate setting, Cailin?

Assuming people are lazy based on what they wear is no different to assuming someone is gay based on what they wear

It is totally different because if someone leaves the house in the same clothes they slept in then it is obviously a indicator that they simply couldnt be arsed to get dressed, ie; lazy. And I am at a loss as to how what a person wears could indicate their sexuality, unless it was a T-Shirt saying "I am gay" :o

CailinDana - yes but those assumptions on wearing pyjamas to school being lazy, are across the board. My mum dad husband would all say lazy too.

I try and make in my appearance, for meeting new clients, as whether we like it or not, we are judged by it. I don't always make the effort in everyday life, but would still not do the school run in pjs, as it would cause embarrassment. I would know that the mums, children and teachers are all judging me.

It is skanky.
Do they not freeze to death on the walk in, anyway? It can't be comfortable.

Never seen it myself-but would find it funny. Think it is cruel to judge people in this way though. I suppose it is better doing that that getting on the dreaded late list.

Sorry, that should be make an effort in my appearance...

Slightly surprised at you agreeing with me Cailin.....

Look at this beautiful day, pay day, going shopping now, (not for new PJs though.)

Cailin are you going to wear PJs when you do the school run (when your DS gets to that age)? Personally I dont think you will.

Why? because society doesn't think its acceptable, despite the protests here. This is clear because some schools have banned parents from turning up in PJ's to collect their children from school at 3:15 which is disgraceful on behalf of the parent. Tescos have banned it too - therefore it clearly isnt acceptable to walk round in PJ's.

It is lazy and I will wonder why the hell that parent couldn't be arsed to at least put some proper clothes on that morning. As for slippers ew. Just eww.

I recently saw a group of teenage girls waiting at a bus stop to go into Town in their PJ's. Now that is attention seeking and just a bit bloody grimy for my liking.

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Well yes Bogey, assuming someone is gay based on what they wear is a bit mad, but I don't see how assuming they're lazy is any better. Maybe they're depressed, maybe it's a thing they and their friends all do, maybe they work nights and have only been in bed for an hour or so before the school run (like that poor doctor mum I knew, most tired woman in the world), maybe they need to wear a uniform for work and it's not out of the drier yet, maybe they work from home and wear PJs all day as it's more comfortable. It could be a hundred different things. But some people would rather look down on others than give them the benefit of the doubt.

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BTW I normally don't care what people wear (especially for the school run) as it is not a place that deems a dress code - however getting dressed in the morning is a normal requirement and PJ's for me is a no go.

I don't notice how dressed up the other mothers are - I'm just trying to get my DS to school on time.

Cailin you are twisting my words - "And so what if we all started wearing PJs all the time? Would society fall apart?" I am perfeclty aware of this.

You are being incredibly sanctimonious, and making this light hearted judgy chuntering into something it is not.

Nope, I don't buy any excuse actually, besides lazy.

Oh fuck it I C&Pd the wrong bit - I meant to C&P "Assuming someone is gay is not homophobic GetOrf, as being gay is not a bad thing"

I probably won't wear PJs to do the school run, as mine all tend to fall down. I mooned my MIL this morning (staying with her at the mo). Not good. I draw the line at showing my arse in public, nice though it is.

As for teenagers wearing PJs out to town, teenagers have and always will done things for attention. It's normal and to be expected. I'm sure mumsnet harbours plenty of refugees of punk. Society didn't fall apart when people wore ripped clothes and mohicans, and it won't now because they wear pyjamas.

Ave said it once and wil say it again, t 'is silly, twatterising attention seeking behaviour 'ooooooohhhhh, look at me in my pjs, looooookkkkkkk, arent I FUN, I even have bunny slippers just for that extra scrape of looksy '.

Silly fools, they are too thick to realise theyre making utter fools of themselves.

I don't care about the teenagers, we're not supposed to get what they wear . That's not laziness anyway, is it? From what I've read, it's a deliberate 'look'.

But surely you could use depression and tiredness as an excuse for not adhering to any other 'normal' social constructs.

Didn't feed the child breakfast - depressed and tired.

Pushed in a queue at a shop - depressed and tired

And I have been depressed (sometimes severely) on and off for years. For me (and for many others) trying to fight the depression was a battle to appear normal and and not to 'appear' depressed to others. I would no more go out in my pyjamas when in the depths of a depression than I would go out naked (you lucky people) - it would feel that the wheels of my life were completely falling off.

Actually, forget my last 19 posts, I will just echo what apocalypse said.

I would prefer my daughter to follow the pyjamas trend rather than her Jack Wills and Abercrombie trend

I don't think not feeding your children and wearing pyjamas are comparable.

Is it a trend designed to show that they don't have to work? Like the stupidly long nails apparently signifying that the owner doesn't need to do any manual tasks?

I've never seen it so I wonder if it's a deliberate look amongst some adults too. Taking artfully dishevelled to the max, man .

For a start, I didn't read anywhere in the Op that she thought the woman should be dressed head to toe in perfectly pressed Armani, with a blow dry and immaculate make up. It's a case of putting on day clothes rather than staying in night clothes. Just changing top and bottom - 30 seconds.

I wouldn't wear slippers out, beyond the whole having some dignity and self-respect area, because they would get dirty and the soles would wear out very quickly - they're not designed to walk on pavements etc.

Anyway, I went to a talk by a Clinical Psychologist yesterday, who was saying that if someone is feeling down, in a rut or whatever, it's best to dress better and try to adopt a better attitude than you normally would, to drag you out of it. Slobbing around in your pjs and three day old underpants makes things worse, not better.

If I saw a boy or a girl dressed in ballet gear, I would assume they were going to ballet class.

If I saw a boy or a girl dressed in judo gear, I would assume they were going to judo class.

If I saw a person in nightclothes I would assume they were going to bed.