STAND UP AND BE COUNTED AND STOP THE ATTACKS ON SN PARENTS

[4madboys]

ok NOT an aibu, but this is where it will be seen the most and it NEEDS awareness.

quite frankly, i along with others am appalled at the comments that are being made and left to stand, toward the SN community, they are downright offensive and quite simply appalling.

i am sure (or hope) that the majority on here do NOT agree with them but yet the SN community on mn are not being supported, whether this is because people do not know what to say, or they havent seen these posts i do not know?

BUT IT IS ABOUT TIME THAT THINGS CHANGED, so this a thread where you can stand up and be counted and say that you do not agree with the disregard, blatant trolling and offensive behaviour towards our lovely mn who have or are dealing with sn in their family.

they need this place for support, not the vile behaviour that they are getting.

so please post here and show your support and help make a change for the better.

all it takes is a smile next to your name to show you agree :)

It's a small gesture. But at least it's goodnatured.

Yes, I see what you mean. Am I being an [arse]?

Bof as a smilie post-and-run-er I personally wouldn't feel comfortable joining a debate I know nothing about, but wanted to pledge my support for those who started the thread and feel so strongly. I dont see it as like those godawful FB chains which I too absolutely detest; I rather saw it as more of an online petition to show MNHQ that we're all in agreement.

Just my take on it, that's all. FWIW I would always stand up on any thread I'm on where I think there's disablist or racist or badgerist posting, but would be incredibly aware of my ignorance in these matters and wouldn't want to unconsciously offend.

I think I might just need some sugar

LeBOF I often don't read a lot of the threads that have generated these awful postings, not even in AIBU, or if I have it has been before people have started to take things off track. Although I am posting at work at present I only normally get to have a quick read of the first page of threads on my phone during a break so often miss a lot of these type of things.
I feel this thread is giving those in a similar position the opportunity to just say - yes I agree with you and support you as well as making me more conscious that if something like this happens on a thread I am on in future I will "speak up" as well to support those being discriminated against instead of thinking - ooh a fight I'll avoid that (non confrontational me) - I often don't know what to say but in future will try harder

I'm like that too SayCool, I think most people without direct experience are. FWIW I can empathise with people who are in situations well outside of my zone, but i can be incrediblt tactless too. I'd hate to make a bad day worse for someone who's going through the mill.

Oh asbolouely A1980; exactly where ds3 is in fact

Piglet do holler if I can help with the meeting.

Also though be wary of the alck of emotions thing: some kids may well ahve that, but many don't- they just can't show they ahve them IYSWIM. I'm not saying that's the case for your child, i;ve never met them, but it shines verys trongly from some of the literature written by people with ASD.

Sinicalsal i;ve known you for absolutely ages on MN now and I have never known you post anything that is not nice pr suppo4rtive or wise. Just saying.

:) :) :) :) :) :) :)

Thanks peachy Its next Monday. Its only been a few days, but I think that the school don't want to be bothered with any child who has sn, like its extra hassle for them. I get the impression that they would like her to go to another school, either that or its me getting all emotional.

The meeting is about transition from pre school to reception, and how she is getting on. I do want her to go to that school her friends are there, she seems to like it, and its at the end of my road (i don't drive). Will have to see how it goes. I think that she just needs time to adjust its a big leap for any child from pre school to reception. We are doing half days at the moment. The behaviour is worse when she has not had a good night sleep, she is easy to go to bed, but wakes in the night chattering for a few hours then goes back to sleep.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-14884754
Surely Mumsnet of all places should offer a safe haven

ok firstly, lebof i am sorry about the post a smiley thing, i just thought it was an easy way to show that a poster had read and agreed with the thread, i dont know about you, but with 5 kids i dont always have time to wade through huge threads, i feel bad sometimes posting if i havent read the whole thread (incase i have missed an update etc) but wanted posters to be able to show in a simple and easily understood way that they agreed with the sentiment.

i too HATE those fb things and never do them, ditto those txt you get saying send this to blah blah many friends...

the news is :(

and i am now not standing, tho still supporting as i have broken my toe, or at least i think i have, i stubbed it, it hurt so much i almost threw up [boak] and then i had to dash and do school run (hour round trip walking) came home and my toe is an interesting shade of black and purple! and i cant bend or wiggle it at all.

can i say how glad i am that this thread has stayed pleasant for the most part, and it seems you are offering each other support and help and it has become a place to chat.

it still feels like too little too late and i still think mnhq NEED to do more, they need to read this thread and the other one by 2shoes and take on board some of the ideas and come up with more of a policy of addressing this issue.

i shall be keeping an eye out for any offensive posting towards sn (or any poster tbh) and will speak out, however if i am not around and dont see it, please do pm me and i will come and 'stand up' :)

Sorry about your toe, that sounds painful

yes horribly painful but dp is away till thu with work and so i have all the school runs etc to do, such fun

does anyone have any more ideas on what can be done to stop this hatred spouted to sn parents?

INterestingly that news article is half an hour or so from me.

I quite liked the smily. Made me feel happier anyway.

And am goggleeyes (before anyone shouts thats offensive to people with specs mine are so thick I an only wear them a little each day without migraines hence the typos) that you hurt your toe given we have shared history anyway what the 4 boys- pulled on my pan drawer and the door came off, all pans landed on my foot and now really painful. Not fortuantely brokenthough so big hugs and hope you are OK. DS4 keeps trying to jump on mine, can't deide whetehr it's empathy deficit or just him being a so and so.

Piglet hugs, hard to jknow it first few months isn't it? ds1 always takes 6 weeks to - ahem- show his colours in a new setting and he is a wek in, albeit a comp Base placement. My own experience with more severe ds3 was that givng him a shot proved to me that SN Base was right if that makes sense? If I ahd gone straight there I;d have spent the next decade worrying I held him back. I hope your DD gets on well and settles.

Count me in, 4mad.

I still think that there are posters that have gone well beyond what is acceptable on far to many occasions and should be banned.

My [arse] is my non twee sign of unity.

I think if we show our arses that is true solidarity. And one in the eye for tweeness.

(just thought I should explain)