to be pissed off at Mumsnet?

[robotlollypopman]

They deleted what I considered a valid thread because a few people failed to understand the point of it and chose to overreact and get offended instead. Perhaps I should try and remove any thread I disagree with? How do I go about doing that?

Oh FFS you started a thread about paedophiles and decided to say that we had the definition of the word wrong. It was hardly tomato tomatoe was it.

Bloody iPhone... That should be 'it seems that if we are NOT in agreement... Etc

You started a thread about paedophilia, compared it with other philia words and you fail to see how that might be offensive?

How long have you been a member? Just today? Are you a parent? A mum? Are you feeling very bored perchance?

What would you prefer paedophiles to be called? Jolly clowns? You took offence with the word only meaning child abuser and chose to post that thought on a parenting site?

Thicko.

In years gone by cunt was a commonly used word, it meant the same thing but didn't really have the same offensie meaning as it does now. Language changes, and your thread title was really very offensive op. Sorry but it deserved to be deleted and on that thread YWBU.

Yes you could have used another word. There were a few examples cited on the deleted thread.

I will repeat again.

There are posters on here who were abused as children. Having a ridiculous, abstract "discussion" about the meaning of a word with such emotive connotations in that context is just not very nice is it ?

Only people with next to no emotional intelligence would think it was ok to do that...hence the deletion

You do also realise don't you that the word is a triggering word for fucking weirdo's who trawl the net for the use of such words

Would you be happy to draw such people here for a right fucking juicy thread takeover ?

Op is too clever for us mere mortals

I had my childhood wrecked by a 'child lover',it often makes me feel furious.

You got a thread deleted? My heart bleeds for you deary.

too many "words" there, but you get the gist

YANBU. I saw that thread. I thought it was a valid question about the meaning of a WORD. Just a word. I didn't think your question was offensive.

Yes AnyFucker - if that person wanted to do that then they would make such a thread title wouldn't they?

Hmmmm.

The only picture I have of op is a dirty mack and greased back hair laughing at the posters, a truly sick, individual trying to make light of a disgusting breed of individuals! I truly hope it's not a mum? That would be too disturbing.

Again, agree with anyfucker

I just wrote a great fucking message and it said an error had happened - very fucking pissed off.

So now extremely pissed off at you OP

As i was agreeing that linguistically you are right, but having put the thread in the wrong arena, you are likely to have faced these emotive responses. You seem to forget that most people on here are parents trying to protect their child from these people.

I call a lover of children a parent, a friend, a family member; not a paedophile...

This thread will also be removed

if you're pissed off at Mumsnet, piss off, eh?

You are shit at Greek.

Please someone call for a ban on this thread and the op

Pointless pointless thread about a pointless pathetic thread

attention seeking and not very bright

Oh..paedo..then phile?

Then bibliophile?

Saw it ealier and ignored it.

I do love mumsnet (Gits like the OP aside)

You've got to love a site where somebody can criticise another poster's use of an ancient language. Nice one Linerunner

Never saw the thread, wots crack?

YABU

Is it so hard to understand that those who were abused as children would find an intellectual discussion about the word "paedophile" distasteful?

You could talk about the word, "dandelion". I find that one interesting.

Btw, this isn't a thread about a thread. It's a thread about Mumsnet policy.

Northern - I don't know how to word this any differently. My whole point was that certain words can only have negative connotation. Everybody has heard the story about the paediatrician's house that was burned down. Media furore and frenzy can whip up storms of fury.

I accept that words can evolve and change but it isn't always for the better. I've heard people call others 'Mong' to mean stupid, but that isn't right either. And yet it's acceptable to some. I've heard some people describe bad situations as gay.That word has evolved extremely! I had no intention of offending anybody. It was a valid argument and fascinating study. It wasn't meant to be controversial, it was something I have long pondered.

It's unfortunate that so many chose to overlook my point and still are.
It's also unfortunate that I was threatened by somebody who 'knew exactly who I was' and was going to out me as that person unless I went away. I honestly have no idea who this person thinks I am and she wouldn't even do me the decency of explaining but nothing was done about this potential defamation.

I understand the word paedophile might have once meant a lover of children, but now it means an abuser of children. Meanings of words change and they always have, all through the English language. Just as bastard once meant an illegitimate child and is used throughout Shakespeare, it is now used as an offence swearword. There are many more examples of the meanings of words changing.

That particular word has unpleasant connotations. There are people on this forum who have been abused as children and whose children have also been abused by those they trusted. So starting a discussion with that in the title would be considered to be insensitive at the very least.

If you don't get that, well then I guess you're a bit of a s**t.