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...to think that DH ought to know our DD's names by now?

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SpeedyGonzalez · 03/09/2011 21:19

He's known her for 16 months. Hmm

It took him 5 full minutes to recall DD's middle name. Needless to say I am not impressed.

DH says this is perfectly normal and acceptable. Which impresses me even less. Would your DPs remember? Could you go and ask them, and see what they say? DH is waiting to be proven right. Grr.

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SpeedyGonzalez · 03/09/2011 21:20

Sorry, the first line is unclear - I should have said that she is 16 months old and so, since DH is her father and we are together, he's had 16 months to memorise her names.

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fedupofnamechanging · 03/09/2011 21:22

Well, I asked my dh and he can recall first and middle names of our dc (and we have 4). I think it is not unreasonable to expect your dh to know his dd's name.

Kayano · 03/09/2011 21:23

I had to tell DH what his granddads first name was last week

How can it be that I know more of his relatives names than him?! He honestly had no idea!

I don't know really I mean no one uses middle names really? I don't think I'd be too bothered, just probably laugh about it and rile him for the rest of his days

pozzled · 03/09/2011 21:24

I don't need to ask DH. He knows their names perfectly well and could tell me immediately (they are 3.0 and 3 months). He might have to think for a few moments to be sure of their birthdays, though.

MmmmmCake · 03/09/2011 21:24

depends if he had a say in choosing said names

create · 03/09/2011 21:25

DS2 asked me what his middle name was when he was c. 3yo. I had to think really hard. It's not used YABU

JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 03/09/2011 21:26

DP knows all the dcs 'vital' info by heart, names, dob, weights, time of arrival, even there first outfit, when they got 1st tooth, walked etc.

He is pretty perfect unusual though, he does all the washing and washing up always has among many other things

LindyHemming · 03/09/2011 21:26

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TheMagnificentBathykolpian · 03/09/2011 21:26

My mum used to call me "Sally"

Sally was the cat.

YABU Grin

thisisyesterday · 03/09/2011 21:27

dp efinitely never remembers birthdays

i am going to go and ask him what all the children's names are... will report back!

FlubbaBubba · 03/09/2011 21:28

Does she have lots of middle names?

My DH def. knows our children's names, probably only because I use their whole names frequently when giving them a telling off and so using my grownest uppest voice :o

Shame on your DH!! Wink

thisisyesterday · 03/09/2011 21:31

k he knew all their names and middle names

no idea when they were born though Hmm

HappySeven · 03/09/2011 21:52

My DH didn't know the middle name of our DD when she was 6 months and a friend asked. He chose the name which made it worse somehow. I'm introduced to people as "number four" by my dad though so I guess it's not too bad.

occasionalposter · 03/09/2011 21:55

I myself referred to DD1 as 'whatsherface' when talking to DD2 in the supermarket. DD1 is 15........ you'd think I knew her name by now!

Slight subsequent problem arose in that she was standing behind me at the time at was NOT impressed!

CoffeeIsMyFriend · 03/09/2011 21:57

My DH knows our childrens full name. Names were discussed and he was there when we registered their births. He is also here now and thinks it is weird that your DH does not know his childrens names.

YANBU - your husband is being an arse.

FigsAndWine · 03/09/2011 21:57

Just asked DP (DD's DSF) and he knew, even though it's a bit odd (her middle name), and he's not a wildly engaged parent - present, calm and consistent, but not doting. It's my middle name too, and when pressed, he remembered that too.

DizzyKipper · 03/09/2011 21:59

If I put it this way, I came up with a joking middle name for our dog, and my OH actually remembered what it was several months later. Can your DH really claim it's reasonable not to remember your child's middle name when there are other men out there perfectly capable of remembering the non-middle name of a dog several months after the time is was used?

RedHotPokers · 03/09/2011 22:00

My Dad got to the point eventually when he used to just reel out my mum's, mine and DSis's names in one go. He could never remember who was who!

Talker2010 · 03/09/2011 22:01

I sometimes call my 16yr old daughter by her 24yr old brother's name

But then they both talk me losing marbles and are probably correct

Their Dad knew all details when just asked

Georgimama · 03/09/2011 22:01

Of course my husband knows our children's names. Not being able to remember your own children's names is extraordinary.

DizzyKipper · 03/09/2011 22:06

Hmm, rereading the OP again I'm going to change my mind. Your DH does know your DD's middle name, it is there somewhere stored inside his brain, what he was experiencing was a recall issue. Sometimes (for some reason) the info inside our brains is hard to get to when we want it. That's a bit more permissible in my mind than simply not knowing.

DorothyGherkins · 03/09/2011 22:06

As long as he loves his daughter and looks after her, maybe thats all that matters. Maybe he s just not very good at remembering names! Somebody asked me my husbands name last week, and it evaded me for a while!

BohicaWankSock · 03/09/2011 22:07

My DH struggles to call our children by their first names all the time!
And today we had to fill out an accident form and DH had to be reminded of her birthday by DD1, she is 9!

I have wondered if it's because they are all girls and all their names end in ee?

LunarRose · 03/09/2011 22:07

Just to make you feel better about DH:

DNeice is always called by a shortened version of her long name. In discussion with my mum (DNiece was about 6) my DBrother had totally forgot that she was called the long name at all.

Maryz · 03/09/2011 22:09

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