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...to think that DH ought to know our DD's names by now?

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SpeedyGonzalez · 03/09/2011 21:19

He's known her for 16 months. Hmm

It took him 5 full minutes to recall DD's middle name. Needless to say I am not impressed.

DH says this is perfectly normal and acceptable. Which impresses me even less. Would your DPs remember? Could you go and ask them, and see what they say? DH is waiting to be proven right. Grr.

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sjuperwolef · 03/09/2011 22:10

dp is sleeping but i know he knows dds middle name and date of birth off by heart. its sad that your dh thinks its acceptable to not know his own childs full name :(

Miggsie · 03/09/2011 22:16

DH does know all of DD's names, she has 2 middle ones, after both her grand mothers. So really DH would be killed if he ever forgot them.

However, my Dad often calls me by my mother's name and my brother calls me by his wife's name. Not sure what this says about my family.

2littlegreenmonkeys · 03/09/2011 22:22

My DH know our two DD's full names, dob's, weight when born etc. Although just the other day he asked me how old he is!!! Hmm

My dadc on the other hand can never remember my birth date!

2littlegreenmonkeys · 03/09/2011 22:25

Oh and I occasionally call both of the DD's by either of the dogs names and vice versa and will call DD 1 by DD 2 name and vice versa!! I am terrible with names!!

NotJustKangaskhan · 03/09/2011 22:31

2littlegreenmonkeys My husband does that - he constantly messes up his own age and birth date, but can tell you practically everything about the kids. I'm not sure how he does it.

ChippingIn · 03/09/2011 22:38

If it's a memory recall problem (had he had any other problems lately??) I would be concerned about him, not berating him. However, if it's a 'I can't be arsed' attitude then you have bigger issues than her middle name.

Goldrill · 03/09/2011 23:35

DP has the middle names sorted and can always remember DD's birth date, time, weight etc, which is more than I can. My mum seems to have registered my birth on the wrong date though, so it may be hereditary...

SiamoFottuti · 03/09/2011 23:38

My DP doesn't rememeber his own middle name.

QueeferSutherland · 03/09/2011 23:40

I don't know my DCs birthdays.Blush

DH just told me.

I agree with ChippingIn. Is this the only problem you have with him?

lostintransition · 03/09/2011 23:45

Yesterday my DP of 10 years asked me how I spelled my surname! Angry

BelleDameSansMerci · 03/09/2011 23:48

I only have one child. She is 4 years old. I often can't remember the year she was born. I also have three cats. The names of all four are inter-changeable some days Blush

MoaningMcMyrtlepants · 03/09/2011 23:52

My 3DC have three names each and my DH knows them all but couldn't tell me all their dates of birth, though did remember DC1's when I asked him just now and he is 9.

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SpeedyGonzalez · 03/09/2011 23:53

Chipping: it's the latter. Though if I'm fair he's generally crap at remembering names. DD only has 18 middle names, FFS, how hard can it be? Wink

Seriously, though, I think that even if you have trouble remembering names, you really ought to make a special effort to know such important details for your offspring - especially if you only have two kids. Your name is a part of your identity, so it should be significant enough for your parents to remember. Glad to see most posters think so too!

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lostintransition · 03/09/2011 23:56

Oh and his whole family apart from 2 of us is born in June and he forgets every year. He doesn't remember the DC's date of birth either, only the month :(

VoldemortsNipple · 04/09/2011 00:00

This thread has made me cry...

With laughter.

My mum often forgets our birthdays. Last week she forgot db birthday but remembered my dh's which is on the same day.

On a serious note to OP. This will probably be my DS in years to come, who has a very poor short term memory. As others have said, he probably just couldn't recall it of the top of his head.

SouthernFriedTofu · 04/09/2011 00:01

My mom used to call me Raspberry all the time. Raspberry was the cat.

Still, dd is 7 months and when I get asked I always hesitate and take a second to remember. I don't often use it unless I'm asked

AfternoonDelight · 04/09/2011 00:01

I sometimes have to sit and think how old I am Blush

I have also (more than once) called DP by DS's name.

DP definately knows our DC's names though. Probably. Grin

bubby64 · 04/09/2011 00:11

My DH is another one who remembers our DS's names, wieghts, birth times and dates etc, but can't remember his own age (or the fact that I was a moter on my very 1st mothers day, and we had twins, but thats another story!Angry) Memory is very selective, and at least he remembered after thinking a bit Smile

midlandsmumof4 · 04/09/2011 00:13

Just asked DH about our 4 sons aged 29, 25, 23 & 22. Remembers eldest 1st & 2nd names but not his birthday. Knows one has the middle name Richard and one was born on the 19th December. DS2 apparently has disappeared off the radar......Grin

bubby64 · 04/09/2011 00:13

Spelling awful in last post, blame it on theWineSmile Spelling corrections are as follows: weights, mother, I think thats it Grin

blackeyedsusan · 04/09/2011 00:19

it was seveal months before h knew ds's dob... Confused

midlandsmumof4 · 04/09/2011 00:20

Btw......although I can remember all of their birth weights I can only remember the exact time of birth of DS1-Blush.

VoldemortsNipple · 04/09/2011 00:21

I will often say, Shankly, SHANKLY...SHANKLY

"Mum that's Ds2"

" Oh yes, Ds2......."

TheBride · 04/09/2011 00:22

Middle names are kind of pointless though. They're usually either a nod to family (to get you out of having to call your PFB Maud or something), a nod to your outrageous side or just fillers. I don't know why they still exist tbh.

VoldemortsNipple · 04/09/2011 00:22

Shankly is the dog!