...to think that DH ought to know our DD's names by now?

[SpeedyGonzalez]

He's known her for 16 months.

It took him 5 full minutes to recall DD's middle name. Needless to say I am not impressed.

DH says this is perfectly normal and acceptable. Which impresses me even less. Would your DPs remember? Could you go and ask them, and see what they say? DH is waiting to be proven right. Grr.

Dp never remembers our kids birthdays, or any of his familys. He is shite at names. And Thought he was 27 for three years on the bounce, (he had actually been 25 and 26 during most of that)

DD2 is always known by a shortened version of her first name and when filling out the forms when she started nursery DH got her first name wrong (along the lines of Isabel instead of Isabella), gave her DD1's middle name and then gave her DS's birthday .

DH once forgot when DS2 birthday is. We were talking about how i remember dates so i quizzed him. Although tbf he does have a VERY bad memory. He once had to go to our front door to look at the number on it.

I'm sure everybody does the name-jumbling thing at times. You know, when you call your H by your sister's name, your children by the pets' names and your best friend by your husband's It's one of those frazzled-brain things, where you know who you're talking to/about, but the brain just chucks out the first available dearly-beloved name!

Last time I rang my old friend for a catch-up, I asked after her H, as you do. "How's Mark?" I asked. "Who's Mark?" she replied. They have been happily married for 27 years

I agree it's a recall issue. My mother has 3 granddaughters and is guaranteed to call them by the wrong name. She does it every time. And she can never remember my brother's name and he's 36. She calls him "that lad there". She's been like it for years so not an age thing.

You're making a big deal of nothing.

I still call my 2yr old by his younger bother's name and vice versa.

Dp knows oldest son's full name but he can't pronounce or spell ds2's middle name so he just say's I don't know!

My DP didn't know he even had a middle name until about a year ago. Forgot at some point during his life and only remembered when I found his birth certificate. He also has no idea how old he is, when he was born or where most of the time but can perfectly recall everyone else's details - even the cats!
I on the other hand called my still cooking LO the cat's name the other day. Hopeless!

My Dad routinely started conversations with me or my sister with 'DD1, no, Dog, no DD2 - there's too many bloody women in this house, even the dog's female, I know who I mean!' We never considered it an issue, just laughed at him. We even had years of ammunition for teasing him when he got both our birthdays wrong on our passports (in the days when you just got added to a parent's passport. Never stopped us travelling!). It certainly didn't show us that we weren't important to him because we were/are and he shows it. It's just he's got a crap memory.

NotJustKangaskhan I find it quite funny if a little at how DH manages to remember all the DD's details etc but not his own.

My grandad used to go through the name of almost every female member of the family before getting the name right (usually either myself or my female cousin) In the end he just clicked his fingers at us and said you

I am awful with names, the first name I always recall best is Chyna (one of our dogs) then I do the grandad thing and go through the other dogs name, a few more plucked out of thin air to get the the name of whichever DD I am addressing at the time