to want this cat? I think DH is being vvvu.

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Me & DH have agreed to get a cat, now that our DC are at an age where they can respect an animal and hopefully won't torture it.

I absolutely adore devon rexes - mainly for their huge affectionate personalities, but I also find their looks exotic yet sweet at the same time. They also have the benefit of not shedding too much.

DH, who knows nothing about cats, has refused to let me get one, saying they look like gremlins and are 'freaks of nature'.

I am really upset about his dismissive and judgmental attitude. So what if the cat looks different? It will still make a wonderful family pet - more so because they love human company. My response to him is how would he have reacted if one of our children didn't have conventional looks - he would be devastated to hear anyone making such unkind remarks.

I know it seems irrational, but I really, really want one of these cats. I am also really upset that DH is vetoing the cat based only on looks.

Please OP, don't breed or buy while shelter cats die. Please.
Also, if you do choose to buy a posh cat you may have to make it an indoor cat as there is a chance it might get nicked. An indoor cat or cats can be a logistical nightmare if you have kids and their pals coming and going now or in the future.
I speak as someone who has rescue indoor moggies and kids.

Why does what you want matter more than what dh wants?

Do some research first about potential health problems that your cat may have due to inbreeding.

Consider if you could afford the vets bills that may result.

LadyBeagle They are reading this, they are watching you now

cavemum i am the crazy cat lady six masters in this house ranging from 17 year old grumpy gus to loony siamese cross at 18 months, its great and yep would deffo be a good idea to get a kitten or two to keep your five year old company

issey6cats I must live near you, I got a beautiful ginger kitten from Haworth cat rescue in 2005. Sadly he was hit by a car when he was about a year old :(

Do you need any volunteers or staff at the moment?

I suspect devon rexes to be a not the sharpest crayon in the box, but very cuddly and lovely - of course I'm only basing that on the shared pointy face and big ears

Yep issey, she's practically attached to me, it's very affirming to have a cat adore you - I've got a wee moggy too, but she just tolerates me for food, lol

Well I think your'e all being very devonrexist.

I'm with your DH. Get a rescue cat or even find one in an ad. We can't get a rescue cat because we live in a non-ground floor flat and the cats can't go out. Plus, we have young children.

But we have two lovely moggies we got from friends.

You can even get pedigree cats this way. We had a lovely Persian for years. He was a stray.

he he

i love my siamese - they are so much more of a pet than a moggie

I love Rexes, he is BVVVU

popsiclekat they always need volunteers give them a ring between 1-4pm during the week not wednesday or 10,30-4pm saturday and sunday and someone will take your number and get back to you, awww sorry to hear about your ginger cat, i lost my whiskas cat garfield to a car last year, he was a silver tabby british short hair and was that devastated i still cant buy whiskas products, he was from haworth aswell

Wasn't it a Rex that Rachel got once in 'Friends' and Ross said: 'It looks like a hand'.

lachesis, too late now for you but rescues will rehome to flat owners where the cat is an indoor one for whatever reason to start with.

The problem with buying from people breeding moggies, be they friends or from an ad, is that it encourages them to keep on doing it as they enjoy the kittens around and make a nice profit. Sadly that results in even more unwanted cats and kittens in shelters and the poor queens being bred season after season by these idiots.

It's not really about wanting a 'posh' cat. I suppose it's the same with some dog owners - they want a specific type, whether that is a King Charles spaniel, alsation, jack russell or chihuahua - and it is a combination of looks and temperament which attract them.

We had a 1/2 siamese before, and I loved the way she chirped and talked rather than meiowed. It is the active and engaged personalities which attract me to the devon rex, but I also find the quirky, almost bat-like ears really sweet.

DH is fine with the idea of a cat, just not this type of cat.

What is the point of shelling out hundreds of pounds to buy a funny looking cat when there are lots of lovely cats in rescue centres who would love to find a good home? Plenty of affectionate moggies around, it doesn't really matter what they look like.

we have a georgous white deaf cat at the moment who would love an indoor home, bacause shes deaf she cant go outside, and despite being deaf she has the most loving personality, and its not just kittens at haworth we rehomed an adorable 13 year old last week

We recently got 2 Siamese cats from rescue and they're fabulous friends. Ok they're very bossy, loud, dismissive and at times stinky. But they are SO gentle and clever. They actually respond to me when I tell them to do something.

How could you say no?!

[wonders where Pinot is. She normally shows up on cat related threads ]

We have a posho bengal rescue cat. He's neurotic and very irritating.

Your DH may be right in that it's not something you should wander into, having a rare breed. However he could always knit the cat a suit if it's appearance offends him. And look at it this way, you could then refuse point blank to depilate anymore saying 'well you don't want me to look like the cat do you'?

Surely if it's going to be a "family pet", all needs/views should be considered, rather than just what you want/need.

'The problem with buying from people breeding moggies, be they friends or from an ad, '

Oh, I've never purchased a cat. I've had 'free to a good home' ones. No kittens, either. Too much like work. :o Although our wonderful ginger is only about 3.

snigger at whomoved.

I've told DH that he should be grateful that looks don't figure too highly when I fall in love.