'All right love..'

[cornsilx]

don't know whether to put this here but it's bugging me. People who use 'love' to refer to women when they disagree with them. 'All right love...' kind of thing. Usually men but sometimes women do this as well.

Being called "Missus" makes me want to grab marshmallows and shive them up the utterer's nostrils.

[gah]

alright Missus?

I don't mind it - but if it's being used to patronise me I generally drop in a couple of 'darlings' or even a 'sweets' a bit later in the conversation to even up the score

I grew up in South Wales where it tends to be 'bach'. Which can be quite FULL ON if used in a certain way. 'Alright BACH???' 'Come on BACH time to GO NOW'

Beefy men in markets

The north is HEAVING with them

Fickwut.

Can you stuff those marshmellows in my gob instead missus

I doesnt bother me unless its meant to patronise

I use "love" all the time

I am from Manchester, that's what we do

corny...you should know that love

Men do it with 'mate' to other men just as much. Can't stand it.

I use 'love' or 'lovey' quite a lot, btw, but only when I mean it.

I use "mate" sometimes, but only with blokes

I dunno why

I call male friends matey. I find they call me matey too, but all other females darlin'. Clearly I have no femminity left at all.

Hate it on mumsnet.

Also "run along dearie" etc the person saying it always thinks they are being really clever as well... Yeah very original

I will stand for being called many things, but I absolutely loathe being called 'mate' by a man or a woman.

The only one that gets my goat, is Dear... Ok with shopkeepers, bus drivers, trades people etc but otherwise , I do do a tiny inward mental wince..

And it should never, ever, EVER be used in a chat up line

A chat up line with the word Dear in it sounds like something only a feathery stroker or Ken Barlow would say.

I hate being called mate by men, find it funny when other girls do it though

AF -I don't mind the term in itself.... it's when it's used in a sneery way that annoys me. When you know that the person saying it is really using it instead of something like twat.

I like being called 'Miss'. I'm 40 Perhaps it's the hidden dominatrix in me!

I remember being highly amused when I moved to Edinburgh for a while being referred to a "Doll" - I think women used it for women and men and men used it just for women (obviously!)

I didn't mind it and preferred it to "Hen" which people use round the Glasgow Central belt areas.

Don't mind "darlin'" or "love" if it's just a cheery greeting.

Glasgow and Central belt

feathery stroker - arrgh

You knew my ex neighbour didn't you MrsBradley

He said dear and clutched at my arms .........

I read somewhere once that a photographer once called out to Princess Anne "give us a smile love" to which she replied "I'm not your love, I'm your Royal Highness". Don't know if it's true but it is funny.
For the record I don't mind being called love or babe or sweetheart. :o