'All right love..'

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don't know whether to put this here but it's bugging me. People who use 'love' to refer to women when they disagree with them. 'All right love...' kind of thing. Usually men but sometimes women do this as well.

Where I live 'love' is used all the time, just tagged on the end of sentences. It is a term of endearment I think and is considered polite. Why would it offend. Different areas have different sayings...

Never do it, but I do say Oh dear before I explain something for the umpteenth time which the other person just does not want to understand.

Oh, nd I agree with swingingcat that calling young men of whom you are not the parent son is every bit as offensive (and sexist if said by a woman) as love. Please don't do it.

Wee hen in a soft Scottish accent is fab.

I use "sweetie" in a variety of ways.....you wouldn't think such a word, when needed to, could carry such malice.

'I only smile when I remember the blood'

I will use that next time a chugger tells me to cheer up.

I lived in Scotland most of my life and I've never heard wee hen, but did hear just "hen" a lot.

Oh "sweetie" gets my goat as well though I do use it myself occasionally

I grew up in Glasgow where all boys were 'son' to everyone and girls were 'hen'. In fact, old people often refer to all younger people as 'son' or 'hen'. Aged 30, I'm still 'hen' to old ladies in shops when I go back.

Agree with Damsel re hen.

In fact I can't remember a time that my great grandmother called me by my actual name.

I was always just 'hen' to her

I use love all the time, Always in a nice way though

My grandparents used to ask me, 'how's the wean?', and I'm fairly certain they never referred to DS1 by his name either.

It's just a word like any other, it's the tone thats an issue.
Nice tone, nice word, Gitty tone/ they're been a git and it doesn't matter what word they say be it Love or Bitch.

But the whole 'Cheer up it might never happen' brigade need spit roasting over an open fire before been thrown the the dogs............

swingingcat - I hate "pet" too, I don't really know why, I just cannot stand it.

From some people "love" can be ok, depends who is saying it in what situation.

Eh up duck.

I hate Hun, Pet, Peta are okay Hun a big fat Yuk!

YABU to let such a small thing bug you!

Hm... well "oop 'ere in't North' everyone gets called 'love'. Beefy men in the markets will call other beefy men 'love' without so much of a hint of irony. It's what we do.

HOWEVER, I have heard it used as a derogatory term like you mention.

Don't worry about them, love. They're not worth it! ;)

I use love or lovie as a term of affection toward women and children, but never in a derogatory way.

If I want to be a derogatory I call them a fuckwit.

HTH

^ This.

Not meaning to hijack, but am I unreasonable to think it is bloody rude when somebody asks "How is Andrew" rather than "How are you?" Is there something wrong with the second bloody person singular?

Oh, yes, that gets on my nerves too! Not so much because it's rude but because it's twee.

I don't think that's rude at all, just a little annoying on occasion!

Andrew, this term of phrase is only acceptable when uttered by Brian Blessed shaking your hand vigorously and slapping your back.

For anyone else to do it is not allowed.

There are so many affectionate terms that are regional, eg love, pet , hen and so on .
As long as words are meant in a nice or affectionate way I don't have a problem.
It only becomes an issue if the term 'love', for example, is meant in a sneering or patronising way.

I live in the North west and most local shops you go into you will be greeted with 'Hi love y'alright, what can I get ya?

Nothing wrong with that to me!

I live in Glasgow (name kinda gives it away) and I think I have been "hen" about 7 times today already!

I live in the north east, 'pet' and 'petal' or 'pet lamb' are normal, affectionate terms, or just the usual things you'll here in shops 'that'll be £1.50 please, petal'.

I never thought of it as cringey or derogatory. Admittedly, 'love' if stressed in a certain way and followed/preceeded by a patronising comment would set my teeth on edge. But so would any term of endearment used in an insincere manner.

It's love all the way round these parts, doesn't bother me.

Where i'm from, Stoke, it's "duck" love it!! Still like it when I'm buying proper staffordshire oatcakes in staffs and get called duck!