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Mitmoo · 16/08/2011 21:40

Driving home this evening son ASD/OCD, mum heart disease disabled, and the tyre goes as flat as a pancake. I was on a country road so I pull into a village and park up in a safe place. Village idiot (woman) says "your car smells like it is burning"

"I have a flat" I reply.

"So you do" she says. Then says "can you move your car it's on the road outside my house". No drive, just a road, no yellow lines, nothing, but my car had the audacity to come to a halt outside her house.

I asked not in a nasty tone but more one of bewilderment if she is joking, she then looks embarrassed.

Another man from the same village came out and me being a dumb ass woman and ashamed to admit I can't change a tyre on MN, changed it for me then didn't want the £20 I was trying to give him for helping. He did take it as we were so grateful. Having him helping helped keep my son calm, and made sure we all got home in one piece.

He was absolutely lovely, happy to help, a true gent. I haven't had help with my car since I was a size 10 and wearing skirts that my Mum called pelmets.

Son is very shaken, doesn''t cope well with things out of the norm but if it wasn't for the lovely man he'd be in a terrible state now.

But we're home (obviously) am I being unreasonable to think the woman was a silly moo to ask me to move my broken down gilloppy when it had a flat and the man was a true gent and happy to help me, my Mum and son on our way?

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pippilongsmurfing · 18/08/2011 10:10

Mitmoo, I don't think people have (as you say) "jumped" on you just for your terminology.

I think you are being antagonistic purposely, and that is also what is not endearing you to other posters.

2shoes · 18/08/2011 10:14

i have reported the post where the op uses posters names that arn't even posting on this thread.
I will continue to pull people up if they use disablist terms and refuse to be educated as mn hq seems to think us hard pressed posters from the sn community should do..
think this thread proves some people are beyond the reach of education.

joric · 18/08/2011 10:15

Mitmoo-
It isn't the mistake of calling someone a village idiot that is riling some people. That can be easily corrected.
It's the fact that you don't seem to acknowledge the fact that you continuously defend your use of a phrase by implying that if others can (use words like loon etc) I can ( use similar- VI etc.)

2shoes · 18/08/2011 10:16

Mitmoo Thu 18-Aug-11 08:23:46
2shoes" I saw you all over the *loon thread shouting disablist there, whoops actually no I didn't, you didn't say a word. A total zero.

Did your clan jump on it? nope just the sound of silence. Still you had a lovely day on the attack with your faux outrage, MNHQ saw it and removed your posts and others and one of mine rightly so. There is language that you may find disablist all over this site but you ignore it.

I wonder why? Actually I don't.

Well done MNHQ. Perhaps some posters might use this as an opportunity to reflect on their own posting behaviour. Let's hope so.

might shock you, but I don't educate about everything(using the mn hq term) just stick to my own subject, don't have the energy to fight every corner. but will when it affects me

joric · 18/08/2011 10:16

Xpost pippi

Original poster
Mitmoo · 18/08/2011 10:16

glitter this entire thread which was started off in a lighthearted way, has been hijacked by you and others to bash me for using the term "village idiot".

Are you now saying that you don't find the term "village idiot* offence, and was simply giving me a metaphorical kick in for the hell of it?

I also cannot quote abusive posts of yours that were removed for their offensiveness.

So do you find the term "village idiot" offensive or not, because if you don't then I am truly confused.

That's the third one outed.

It's like shooting fish in a barrel.

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joric · 18/08/2011 10:19

OP,Do you think it's an inappropriate phrase to use?

Original poster
Mitmoo · 18/08/2011 10:20

might shock you, but I don't educate about everything(using the mn hq term) just stick to my own subject, don't have the energy to fight every corner. but will when it affects me

Translation: You will go on the attack if I post a term that you find to be disablist, but ignore all of the other hundreds on MN. :::rolls eyes:::

Hoisted by your own petard.

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pippilongsmurfing · 18/08/2011 10:22

Mitmoo, it is not a contest to see who can "win" AIBU.

glitterkitten · 18/08/2011 10:24

Mitmoo once again- please substantiate your rantings with evidence of my posts? the ONLY post i had deleted off here was the post in which i wondered what the view was like from under your bridge.

you really do live in a fantasy world don't you?

apology ?

2shoes · 18/08/2011 10:24

I
you have misunderstood me, I will pull anyone up on it, this is not all about you,
we have spent a lot of time as a community trying to get mn hq to take a hard line on these words, we were winning, but now mn hq have gone back to the educating route,
that is what I am angry about, that they will leave disablist words, then tell us to educate, but do you want a lot of people "educating" you? I doubt it, so why do they insist on doing it.
you say you have asked for the thread to be removed, others have reported it, so why is it still here?

Original poster
Mitmoo · 18/08/2011 10:25

Joric It's all a matter of context. As I have now established, it is nothing to do with standing up against people who are perceived to use disablist terms to protect those with SN. That smokescreen has been truly crashed to the ground as all other terms that could equally be perceived to be disablist they have zero interest in.

I knew it all along, it's an established pattern, it was just nice for them to confirm that this morning with their posts.

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joric · 18/08/2011 10:25

It's all a bit.
A....' please don't use inappropriate words B'
B....' but A why are you having a go at me, everyone else does it'

I give up.

joric · 18/08/2011 10:27

Mitmoo- If you call people names you will get flamed....

Original poster
Mitmoo · 18/08/2011 10:30

2shoes I've given you loads of threads you would perceive to be disablist, but you are still here bjtching at me. Why? If you care go sort them, if you don't stay on here bjtching.

I reported the thread myself and told MNHQ that my autistic son was not fair game for the bjtches on here to use to attack me. I wanted it gone because it was thoroughly sickening vile vicious behaviour done laughably in the name of protecting people with SN.

Sadly they left it up but removed several offensive posts one of which was mine others were posters using my sons autism to attack me.

Still as no one is going after any other threads which use words that could be perceived to be disablist. It is clearly evident at just how genuine the outrage yesterday wasn't.

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pippilongsmurfing · 18/08/2011 10:31

Are you this much hard work in RL?

Original poster
Mitmoo · 18/08/2011 10:31

Glitter what do you want an apology for? Are you now saying that you don't find the term "village idiot" offensive?

You either do or you don't n- which one is it?

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festi · 18/08/2011 10:32

two words spring to mind chip and shoulder

ObiWan · 18/08/2011 10:33

Mitmoo, villiage idiot is a phrase with unpleasant undertones.

Someone called you on it, and the reasonable thing to have done would have been to apologise or at least take on board that the term implied something that you may not have intended.

Unfortunately you do have a posting history which suggests that you were looking for a reaction, and your behaviour on this thread seems to confirm it.

You drag your son/mother/weird neighbours into your threads with wild abandon, and throw a hissy fit if anyone questions your motives for doing so.

I think a lot of people have reacted the way that they have simply because your behaviour is wildly irritating, it's like trying to have a reasonable discussion with a tantruming child.

Basically, you come across as being really rather horrible and more than a bit stupid.

ShirleyKnot · 18/08/2011 10:33

I'm a bit unsure why anyone is bothering to engage anymore to be honest.

2shoes · 18/08/2011 10:35

Mitmoo i have never attacked your son and nor has anyone esle. please stop fabricating things, just please accept that the term you use was wrong and lets move on, this is just getting silly now. you can call me a bitch and a bully if it makes you feel better, but as a parent of a child with sn I will not be scared off.

solidgoldbrass · 18/08/2011 10:38

Mitmoo: if everyone around you seems to dislike you and want to argue with you all the time, there must eventually come a point where you realise that your own behaviour is the issue. The world is not that full of arseholes, but most people react negatively to shrieking self-obsessed drama queens who want their own way all the time.

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Mitmoo · 18/08/2011 10:39

shoes they did that is why I got angry and reported the thread to MNHQ. No fabrication was needed I will not be scared off say the poster who came on this morning saying you were sad and angry that I was still here.

Laughable.

It is clear that bjtchfest that happened yesterday now was nothing to do with "village idiot" being used because if it was you'd all be all over the "lunatic" and "moron" threads and you're not.

Job done here, nothing more to see. I'm moving on.

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TandB · 18/08/2011 10:40

Shirley, I think some posters, myself included, live in hope that people can take on board the feelings and sensitivities of others and move forward from a staggeringly bad start on MN.

It has happened before- I remember one poster who made a bit of a fool of herself over a couple of things, had a rethink and now posts perfectly sensibly and contributes usefully to the forum.

Sadly, I think the OP is not going to take on board anything that has been said and is going to carry on thinking of life, on and off MN, as a war to be waged and won. So yes, you are right. Probably no point trying any more.

glitterkitten · 18/08/2011 10:44

Mitmoo

"this entire thread which was started off in a lighthearted way, has been hijacked by you and others to bash me for using the term "village idiot"."

i didn't hijack the thread, nor did i get involved in the "village idiot" debate, hence the suggestion that an apology might be in order.

if i were you i'd be shouting bully right now.

once again, check my posts. you will see that you are wrong here. that's W.R.O.N.G in case you are unfamiliar with the concept