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To be furious with school over this?

270 replies

pink4ever · 15/08/2011 15:18

My dc is starting school on wednesday. A few weeks before the end of the summer holidays the school gave out the uniform order forms. They had to be completed and returned with payment by a certain date. However due to many parents failing to do so by said date we did not receive our orders in time. We were assured we would get them before school returns.

I go to school this afternoon to collect mine and hear a mum in front of me querying that there is no blazer in her pack. I decide to check mine, Hey ho-no blazer. When I ask about this I get told it is nothing to do with office staff and I have to speak to head of pta. I am also told that I should have had a phone call informing me of incomplete order. I hadnt(order has been paid for in full btw)

I phone the women supposedly in charge who doesnt seem to know anything about incomplete orderHmm. She tells me she is trying to get to the company who supplies uniform this afternoon and that I hopefully will be able to pick up order tomorrow.

I am beyond furious. At the parents who handed orders in late,at the pta who dont seem to have a clue what they are doing but mainly at the school for their shrugged shoulders attitude.

I want my dc to have the proper uniform for the first day-it is an important moment. Also as I said I have already paid for it so as far as Im concerned thats theft-they have not supplied what I paid for.

So am I BU?

OP posts:
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pink4ever · 15/08/2011 17:00

No this is not a wind up. I have posted before. Cant remember when I joined-maybe a year ago? I asked if I BU you lot think I am-doesnt mean I have to agree with you. I was only asking really to vent and also to get a bit of perspective.
Music-no I am not usually rude you are correct but was merely responding in kind to the tone of some of the comments on here.
Re my dh-he is still far from wonderful but is slowly improving after being told some home truths that I learned on here. So mn does have it's uses-even if not on this thread.

OP posts:
Katisha · 15/08/2011 17:03

But have you now GOT some perspective then?
Or has the whole reaction been a mystery to you?

SiamoFottuti · 15/08/2011 17:03

I only pointed out you spelled my name wrong repeatedly when you patronisingly questioned if I could read. Stones and glasshouses, you big drama queen.

You must be so proud of your husband, how important he must seem when reducing unpaid volunteer fundraisers to tears. Does he have a very small penis?

Groovee · 15/08/2011 17:04

About 2/3 years ago an interfering mum was annoyed with the price of our uniform and changed our supplier. It was the worst summer of our lives for anyone who was friends with the PTA uniform co-ordinator and she'd arranged for parents to be in at 10am to collect the uniforms and the actual order arrived at 9am and wasn't bagged up like we'd been told it would be. Then discovering they'd taken our orders for yellow summer dresses and hadn't told us they'd run out in June. Cue the treasurer being called to go to the bank and get money to allow the co-ordinator to start refunding people.

Cue everyone who was able turning up kids in tow to do 200 uniform orders. Our kids were running wild in the school playground but the 10 of us managed it and did apologise to every parent.

By October we were back to previous supplier with an easy life and similar prices to before and not one issue since then.

If you want to complain to anyone it's not the PTA but the supplier. Plus just get an M&S blazer as they're much nicer.

HappyMummyOfOne · 15/08/2011 17:04

Can you imagine the outrage when the child doesnt get the main part in the nativity Grin

Pandemoniaa · 15/08/2011 17:04

Don't put yourself down, pink. This thread is most certainly not useless. Even if my tea has also gone cold twice. If nothing else, it's been a great start to the week.

SiamoFottuti · 15/08/2011 17:04

and I'd keep looking for that perspective if I were you.

meditrina · 15/08/2011 17:14

Goodness - this thread has exploded whilst I was picking up DCs!

AgentProvocateur thanks for replying about the "mum who slapped the janitor".

OP - the sensible answer is a cagoule in a school colour - heaven only knows you'll be needing it enough even when the blazer does arrive, as they're not exactly waterproof.

thesortinghat · 15/08/2011 17:18

OP I know your a regular, I recognise your name, which is why I thought it may be a wind-up. Seems to be a bit of a newbie error to post in aibu when to yourself yanbu. What could we have said to change your mind? Confused

BuntyPenfold · 15/08/2011 17:18

I can't help thinking that pink is outed in her home town by now.

prettybird · 15/08/2011 17:20

Our school's office staff, not the Parent Council, do the uniforms. I wouldn't dream of berating them as I know that they are working extra hours to provide a service for the parents and to bring in a little bit extra for the school (which the school uses to help subsidise the school outings). There is no obligation to buy via the school - it's nice to have the logo-ed stuff, but not a requirement.

Anyone who is starting this Wednesday is almost definitely at a state school and at primary school is highly unlikely to have a draconian dress code.

OP: you did ask specifically at the end of your post "am I BU?" - you didn't say you were just eventing - so you shouldn't get pissed off if there is pretty much a unanimous judgement that yes you are being unreasonable.

As others have said, there will be plenty of occasions which will be far more worthy you expending your energy on. Ds has "lost" his lunch box on 2 occasions (he's now in P7), his "good" logo-ed fleece was swapped for one that was much older and bigger (tip for you: in addition to labelling your expensive blazer and/or other clothes, put a "secret" mark somewhere not immediately obvious) - but these are things that happen. If a child takes home something by accident and their parent then dishonestly "changes" the ownership by cutting out your label, then there is not much the school can do about it.

What is will be worth you getting involved with the school is the quality of its teaching. That way, if/when you have concerns about your child, then they are far more likely to listen.

carpetlover · 15/08/2011 17:22

Well, clearly the OP needs to chill out a bit but I think there's a little too much ganging up on her here.

I think what she's really annoyed about is the fact that the orders went in late due to people being late returning the forms. That would annoy me too.

It's not theft that the order is late. It will be if they refuse to either forward the blazer to you in reasonable time or refund your money. But I'm sure you know that and I'm sure you know that is very unlikely to happen. Clearly what has happened instead is that for whatever reason, the suppliers have only sent parts of the order. Or maybe the woman doing it forgot the column with blazers. Either way, I'm sure it will be sorted soon.

It is a stressful and nervy time when your eldest starts school. But really, you do need not to sweat the little things because the big things will come along soon enough.

As for those saying it's easy to be part of the PTA, I'm not sure I agree. All our meetings are in the evening. My DH is away Mon-Fri almost every week plus lots of weekends. We have no family whatsoever on either side. I have 3 children and another on the way. How can I ever make evening meetings? I have never managed to help at the summer fayre either because I haven't been able to make the planning meeting hte week before. Maybe if they alternated between evening and daytime meetings more people could help?

dexter73 · 15/08/2011 17:26

This is the best thread I have read in ages - well done Grin

MoominsAreScary · 15/08/2011 17:28

Think it was the use of the term " jog on" enough to get anyone's back up on my opinion! Very chavvy and annoying

MilkNoSugarPlease · 15/08/2011 17:29

"I would not even let him contact school or pta as he has been known to reduce people to tears when he has been given poor service."

Frankly he sounds about as delightful as you are nuts

exoticfruits · 15/08/2011 17:29

I wouldn't worry-a good excuse not to wear a blazer at the start-the weather should be warm enough.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 15/08/2011 17:29

So everyone telling the OP YABU is ganging up Hmm
OK OP YANBU there is that better.

carpetlover · 15/08/2011 17:37

Oh no, I agree the OP is being unreasonable! Grin Of course she is!

I just think it's a bit more than just telling her that though! All the comments about blazers and her DH and her not joining the PTA.

I just think sometimes we come on here and mouth off because we're bloody angry at something (possibly irrational) and just need to be told, 'oh you are being unreasonable but it is a pita' rather than told she's a nut job!

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 15/08/2011 17:38

But in this instance she is being a nut job.
HTH

KatieScarlett2833 · 15/08/2011 17:38

Take the blazer refund and buy teenie something with a hood from JD.

Get used to that shop, you will live in it for the next 12/13 years.

KatieScarlett2833 · 15/08/2011 17:39

And no, the forecast for Scotland is to piss down all day tomorrow, as usual.

meditrina · 15/08/2011 17:42

Where's OYBBK when you need her?

This thread is beginning to convince me that there will be a freak outbreak of absolutely blazing sunshine and 40+ temperatures somewhere in Scotland on Wednesday. There's got to be a chart showing that somewhere!

zukiecat · 15/08/2011 17:42

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AuntieMonica · 15/08/2011 17:42

and she's only responded to the negative responses, totally ignored anyone who tried to reason with her. i call this being unreasonable

meditrina · 15/08/2011 17:43

JD Sport is a purveyor of gangsta style sports equipment, many branches heavily looted last week.

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