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To be furious with school over this?

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pink4ever · 15/08/2011 15:18

My dc is starting school on wednesday. A few weeks before the end of the summer holidays the school gave out the uniform order forms. They had to be completed and returned with payment by a certain date. However due to many parents failing to do so by said date we did not receive our orders in time. We were assured we would get them before school returns.

I go to school this afternoon to collect mine and hear a mum in front of me querying that there is no blazer in her pack. I decide to check mine, Hey ho-no blazer. When I ask about this I get told it is nothing to do with office staff and I have to speak to head of pta. I am also told that I should have had a phone call informing me of incomplete order. I hadnt(order has been paid for in full btw)

I phone the women supposedly in charge who doesnt seem to know anything about incomplete orderHmm. She tells me she is trying to get to the company who supplies uniform this afternoon and that I hopefully will be able to pick up order tomorrow.

I am beyond furious. At the parents who handed orders in late,at the pta who dont seem to have a clue what they are doing but mainly at the school for their shrugged shoulders attitude.

I want my dc to have the proper uniform for the first day-it is an important moment. Also as I said I have already paid for it so as far as Im concerned thats theft-they have not supplied what I paid for.

So am I BU?

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seb1 · 16/08/2011 12:57

Maybe a swimsuit, I sent dd2 to school with her blazer, better take a wetsuit down at 3pm, God help us though, they will have been stuck in over playtime and lunchtime they will be out that door like bullets out a gun. Maybe I should take some neurofen now to be prepared.

EuphemiaMcGonagall · 16/08/2011 13:01

Scottish school run dress.

whatsallthehullaballoo · 16/08/2011 14:28

Well that was a darn good read! First time in a while I have read a thread from start to finish.

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 16/08/2011 15:35

Pink4ever - during my three dses school careers I have had to deal with persistant bullying, expensive PE kit being taken and hidden so well that it wasn't found for over a year, and I had to spend £125 replacing it, one of my children having his face forced into a urinal, and one ds's 'best friend' bullying him - oh, and when we moved to Scotland, a lad took exception to ds2 being English and pulled down his shorts and boxers during PE.

These things I got cross about - furious, in fact, but dealt calmly with the schools and sorted the situation out.

School uniform order not arriving on time - fairly trivial in comparison. Save your 'incandescant rage' for something worthy of it.

And take on board the fact that the PTA members dealing with the uniform orders ARE VOLUNTEERS - doing it for nothing, in their free time, so your child will benefit, along with the rest of the school. They have been let down by the supplier, and by the parents who did not bring in their forms on time. To reduce that person to tears for this (minor) problem would, as others have said, be bullying, and it could backfire badly, if the PTA decide it is too much hassle organising the uniform orders, and you have to get them from a school uniform shop instead - where the items may well cost more, and where NO money will come the way of the school for the extras that the local authority don't pay for.

FWIW - shouting at anyone until they cry smacks of bullying to me, and I would not be proud of my dh if he thought that was acceptable behaviour. In fact, my dh doesn't have to resort to these tactics and still gets the standard of service we want and need, and gets compensation/refunds when they are warranted. I know which approach I think is better.

fishtankneedscleaning · 16/08/2011 22:57

Really?? Your DH is a solicitor who shouts at people until they cry? No wonder you had to scrape the money together to buy a blazer that is probably not compulsory Let's face it with his attitude your DH can't have much work on.

Can't you do the same as the rest of us vast majority of people and send DC into school with a normal coat? You know lightweight if its warm, duffel if its cold, mac with hood if pissing down ..........

zukiecat · 16/08/2011 23:09

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troisgarcons · 16/08/2011 23:14

OP: Also as I said I have already paid for it so as far as Im concerned thats theft

Theft: intention to permenantly deprive the owner of enjoyment of goods.

Just not happening is it?

Are the cerebrally chalenged out in force tonight? Oh we're just waning from a full moon

Minus273 · 16/08/2011 23:21

I don't buy dd a blazer. Not warm enough for a good proportion of the year and certainly not waterproof for all the rain we get. I just a buy a coat in school colours elsewhere.

BTW reducing people to tears is not something to be proud of (especially when its volunteers), neither is it the way to get good service. I am all for complaining about bad service and there are a lot places where service needs to be improved but reducing people to tears is just disgusting behaviour.

differentnameforthis · 17/08/2011 07:06

Geez, op you are SO rude!! I sort the embroidered uniform & run the second hand uniform shop at dds school & if someone spoke to me, the way you are speaking to people here, I would tell you to get over yourself!

Your blazer will turn up. There has been an error collating the orders at the school end, or at the shop & not enough blazers have been supplied, a quick phone should fix it no bother. If you want a quick resolution, ask the person organising it for the shop phone number & sort it yourself.

I hope you didn't speak to the people at school the way you are speaking to people here, you will soon find your self hitting all sorts of barriers in time & your daughter will be known as the child with the over zealous parent. It won't help.

InTheNightKitchen · 17/08/2011 07:17

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differentnameforthis · 17/08/2011 07:22

I would not even let him contact school or pta as he has been known to reduce people to tears when he has been given poor service

Poor service sucks, but reducing people to tears? That's nothing to be proud of. I have had plenty of bad service in the past & have resolved with out emotionally abusing someone.

TandB · 17/08/2011 07:24

I still don't have my curtain pole. Is it theft yet?

lady007pink · 17/08/2011 07:26

I'll be nice to you and say, from one "pink" MNer to another - best of luck to your dc on their first day at school!

Look, I understand it's a case of your first child starting school and you want everything to be perfect - when it's your next dc's turn your priorities will change.

Malcontentinthemiddle · 17/08/2011 08:59

She hasn't been reading any more and she doesn't care that everyone, without exception, thinks she is being unreasonable and also that her husband sounds like a bully. I'll bet she's in the secretary's office now, ranting and shouting and threatening to sic her husband on the lot of them....

EdithWeston · 17/08/2011 21:07

Well, according to OP, the DCs first day was today. I'm wondering how it went.

Pink4ever - how was it?

Shoutymomma · 17/08/2011 21:08

Didn't you see the news? Dozens of Scottish children admitted to hospital with hypothermia.

whomovedmychocolate · 17/08/2011 21:16

LOL @ shoutymomma Grin

Pandemoniaa · 17/08/2011 21:18

I'm waiting for the 10 o'clock news. "Incandescent but blazerless parent mans lifeboat at Scottish primary school".

Maryz · 17/08/2011 21:24

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scaevola · 19/11/2011 18:32

What happened?

Did the coat ever turn up? Or did you pursue the theft angle - if so, what happened?

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