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To be furious with school over this?

270 replies

pink4ever · 15/08/2011 15:18

My dc is starting school on wednesday. A few weeks before the end of the summer holidays the school gave out the uniform order forms. They had to be completed and returned with payment by a certain date. However due to many parents failing to do so by said date we did not receive our orders in time. We were assured we would get them before school returns.

I go to school this afternoon to collect mine and hear a mum in front of me querying that there is no blazer in her pack. I decide to check mine, Hey ho-no blazer. When I ask about this I get told it is nothing to do with office staff and I have to speak to head of pta. I am also told that I should have had a phone call informing me of incomplete order. I hadnt(order has been paid for in full btw)

I phone the women supposedly in charge who doesnt seem to know anything about incomplete orderHmm. She tells me she is trying to get to the company who supplies uniform this afternoon and that I hopefully will be able to pick up order tomorrow.

I am beyond furious. At the parents who handed orders in late,at the pta who dont seem to have a clue what they are doing but mainly at the school for their shrugged shoulders attitude.

I want my dc to have the proper uniform for the first day-it is an important moment. Also as I said I have already paid for it so as far as Im concerned thats theft-they have not supplied what I paid for.

So am I BU?

OP posts:
Tabbykat · 15/08/2011 18:52

Mad - Of course YAB completely U! And there's no need to take it all so personally -no point canvassing opinion if you don't want it - except to give the rest of us a laugh. Get some perspective. Seriously.

AnotherJaffaCake · 15/08/2011 18:52

michglas :o at the pinafore!

michglas · 15/08/2011 18:56

The head-teacher was mortified and when I saw her that afternoon after she'd rung me, she said she was very relieved that I had taken it so well as some parents would have kicked off. In the end I gained out of it, as the pinafore had cost me £10 and that is what I was given - and i got 2 brand new ones from ebay for £10 inc postage.

carpetlover · 15/08/2011 18:57

FFS, Hobnobs! No need for the 'HTH'!
I am perfectly able to see the OP is being unreasonable. I just think that sometimes we all get a little to het up and unreasonable and need to let off steam-which is clearly what she was doing. With that in mind the comments could have been a little more measured.

Ive been on MN for 7yrs now and have seen plenty threads with a more unreasonable OP than this. Sometimes the OP just needs a pat on the back and a cup of tea! It's a fraught time when your eldest starts school.

EuphemiaMcGonagall · 15/08/2011 18:58

Oh that's really funny! I bet the teacher gets slagged off for that for years! Grin

KatieScarlett2833 · 15/08/2011 18:58

Your poor DD's face when she came back from PE, can't you sue for PTSD? Wink

carpetlover · 15/08/2011 18:59

Michglas! Grin
What else could you do? The poor teacher must have been mortified!

michglas · 15/08/2011 19:01

I don't know KatieScarlett, do you think the OP's DH will give me some legal advice. He does appear to have some very loose definitions of what constitutes a crime.

DD2 was really upset when she discovered her dress until the teacher calmed her down.

Maryz · 15/08/2011 19:01

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KatieScarlett2833 · 15/08/2011 19:05

Poor wee soul, did she have to come home in her PE kit or did she wear the holey pinafore? I'm imagining you sending her to school like the children on the M&S adverts and coming home looking like Annie.

Ah, feel a bit bad for the OP, I remember my DC's first days at school, was the last time either of them wore a blazer......

michglas · 15/08/2011 19:07

The pinafore was cut into strips so couldn't have been worn lol. Luckily she had her tracksuit bottoms that she had for PE so didn't look like a tramp coming out of school.

GypsyMoth · 15/08/2011 19:08

i am 'beyond' amused at this thread!

op has years of hand wringing angst ahead of her,oh dear oh dear...and WE are going to be the ounding board for it!!

GypsyMoth · 15/08/2011 19:08

*sounding

carpetlover · 15/08/2011 19:11

Maryz, I know that but I think I could tell from her OP that she was just ranting rather than seriously thinking the poor pta woman was thieving from her!
I just think our (collective) comments got her back up and made her more angry and stressed when what she needed was to be told, 'of course YABU but it's ok! Have a cup of tea and take a deep breath' sort of thing.

We haven't got the nest of vipers tag for nothing. But hell, even after 7yrs, I'd need to be damn sure I was being reasonable before I ranted in AIBU! Grin

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 15/08/2011 19:23

Blimey everyone is very snipy on here today Carpet.

NorksAreMessy · 15/08/2011 19:25

michglas Grin thank you

whomovedmychocolate · 15/08/2011 19:35

Greetings OP from the land of Boden where the sun shines in a hotchpotch fashion Grin

It is breach of contract not theft, although it's not breach of contract until you've given them a reasonable opportunity to fulfil the contract (which you haven't btw).

I appreciate you are stressed about your son starting school, it's a big thing. But honestly you are making yourself look a bit silly. Calm down and take a step back. What would you say if a friend described this situation to you?

You seem an intelligent person, surely you'd say 'well wait a while before you react.' Yes you had a wasted trip and have to go twice but if that's all it is you are raising your blood pressure over not very much.

May the postie deliver a large box of anti-scottish-weather-blazers tomorrow morning :)

Shoutymomma · 15/08/2011 20:50

I believe this school also has uniform mankinis on its list in case of a heatwave.

samstown · 15/08/2011 20:54

Surely the OP was a wind up? If not, oh dear...

musicposy · 15/08/2011 21:38

michglas I am laughing so much! Grin

skybluepearl · 15/08/2011 21:56

volunteering on the PTA is such a thankless task. it takes hours and hours to sort bulk uniform orders out

NorksAreMessy · 15/08/2011 22:01

TBH this is why I stopped volunteering for PTA.

I did LOADS of work and the only other mums who spoke to me about PTA stuff just complained about how I was doing it all wrong :(. Nobody said thank you or well done or even thought it was a good thing that I was doing. Miserable really, but it did keep me mostly sane when I was a SAHM.

Fecklessdizzy · 16/08/2011 00:17

I'm going to bookmark this thread and lie awake worrying. Will the blazer come? Will it rain? Will we in the sun-drenched south hear the bang when the OP finally achieves critical mass?

It's all too much, I'm going to bed ...

seb1 · 16/08/2011 12:51

We started back today, cancel the blazer and get a boat, looks like I will need one at 3pm, need to find the waterproof bum covering jacket thread and buy myself one. Grin

EuphemiaMcGonagall · 16/08/2011 12:52

Oh seb1, how about a school run dress? Grin

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