What I've experienced with the feminism boards is the cliched outpourings of people who trot out the same old cliches without thought. Cross 'em, though, and they can be as vicious as a half-starved pack of dobermans.
There was a thread recently where an unfortunate person outlined two incidences of sex and questioned if either -or both- of these were rape.
The first incident took place while the person was drunk and genuinely could not remember whether or not she had consented to it. The sane response to this would be: "I'm sorry I do not know if you had been raped or not as you say by your own admission that you cannot remember what happened. If you cannot remember, then, yes, it is possible that he sought your consent and you refused and thus you were definitely raped. If you cannot remember, then you may have given your consent and were not raped.*
The concept that not remembering what happened after the event does not necessarily mean to say that consent was not given during the event never occurs to them. Many a person has enthusiastic consensual sex while drunk and cannot remember it next morning.
So irresponsible of them not to point this out. I would simply have to say ' If you don't remember if you consented or not, then I honestly do not know if it was rape' But, no, there is no room for doubt with some feminists.
The second incident took place where the woman remembered everything she said no to sex to the man and he continued- a clear case of rape (the fact that they had had sex before this incident is an irrelevancy to my mind. A lot would think 'She said yes before, so it is not').
But did anybody say: 'Sorry not sure about first incident, may have been rape, may not have been. But the second incident, yes, definitely rape'. Course not.