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To think i dont deserve to be treated like a prostitute

138 replies

firstly · 15/08/2011 09:43

Im fuming.
I have a sort of no strings thing with this man. But basically this weekend ive been treated like nothing more than a whore.
friday night at gone midnight i got a text of his cock. I hadnt spoken to him for over a week, no contact ( which is fine.. but not even a hello?) he was then annoyed at me that i refused to get out of bed ( i was asleep) and go see him.

Saturday night the same thing happened, but i was out with friends, so he just got annoyed that i didn respond at all.

Last night the same thing happened again, but it was a bit earlier, 9pm. I said i was free tomorrow and if he wanted to do something then, i would but i wasnt going to go round. He got really pissed off and said i didnt do it (!!!!) properly anyway and if was either NOW or not at all.

I am not a prostitute and do not deserve to be treated like one. Yes, i have slept with him in the past, and am not in a relationship with him, and i dont want a relationship with him, but how on earth does he think he can just text me things like that??

Or AIBU?

OP posts:
SardineQueen · 15/08/2011 19:40

Because of course all women really aspire to being "the wife".

Honestly it's too good to be true. Do people really think like this?

minipie · 15/08/2011 19:41

It's like something out of The Rules, isn't it Sardine.

AnyFucker · 15/08/2011 19:42

maypole she doesn't want to be a wife

do you not understand that ?

supadupapupascupa · 15/08/2011 19:42

maypole i repeat, I was the fuck buddy, and I am now the wife.

sometimes people don't want to be in a relationship for a start you end up less inhibited because it doesn't matter if you make a fool of yourself if you don't have to see them again.
experimenting in this way can be a very positive experience, and for us in the end brought us very close together.

so please don't generalise. you have no idea about OP's experiences.

noblegiraffe · 15/08/2011 19:44

I don't see why anyone should expect anyone to have sex with them if they're not nice to them. Lack of manners is hardly a turn-on.

LetThereBeRock · 15/08/2011 19:45

YANBU,and I'm someone who generally doesn't approve of sleeping around,but everyone is entitled to respect. People are never just a 'receptacle' and shouldn't be treated as such,whether they're a partner,a one night stand or a prostitute.

I'm amazed at how many people on here believe that people don't deserve to be treated with respect because they aren't in a long term relationship with their sexual partner.
It's a disturbing and worrying attitude,along the same lines that it's ok to sexual harass and made lewd remarks to women because they're dressed in revealing clothing.

LetThereBeRock · 15/08/2011 19:46

'Sexually harass' sorry.

LetThereBeRock · 15/08/2011 19:50

And it is possible to have respect for one's 'fuck buddy',and that should be the standard. Perhaps a lot of men don't have respect for theirs but that doesn't make it right or acceptable.

FreudianSlipper · 15/08/2011 19:55

oh dear do you think all women are desperate to be married to the man they are having sex with Hmm oh dear it is 2011 and some still think like this

the reason the guy i was seeing and enjoyed no strings great sex with ended was becasue he wanted more not me. the respect was already there the emotions were not and then for him oer time they grew. it sometimes happens (as they do when you fall out of love/lust with someone) but i was not willing to have a realtionship with him, i did not want more involvement so we decided to say goodbye. we had a fantastic goodbye fuck :o

never did i feel he had no respect for me or did i feel no respect for myself or for him, but i have in previous relationships with ex's who i have been in relationships with

MissBeehiving · 15/08/2011 20:05

He sounds horrible. Why would you want to shag him if he whinges at you and makes you cross?

Does anyone get turned on by cockpics?

AnyFucker · 15/08/2011 20:11

MissBee... nope

FreudianSlipper · 15/08/2011 20:14

me neither and have no desire for one to be text to me

have never had one sent to myself, my fried has from a guy she was seeing for sometime and she promptly went off him

i think its that some men watch too much porn and this turns them on and assume women are turned on the same way

maras2 · 15/08/2011 20:19

MissBee and AF.Hard, hairy errections are not the most pleasant thing to look at even in RL unless one's in the throws of passion.Even then i'd rather keep my eyes closed.Blokes and their bollocks eh ? sheesh.

AnyFucker · 15/08/2011 20:20

It's not that they are unpleasant , more faintly ridiculous Grin

MissBeehiving · 15/08/2011 21:43

I feel so much less uptight now I know I have company Grin

My Dsis received one once from an anonymous bloke Shock. Oh how we chortled as we drafted replies along the lines of "is that it?" and "my phone doesn't have a zoom function" Grin

Whatmeworry · 15/08/2011 21:47

^It's not that they are unpleasant , more faintly ridiculous

SardineQueen · 15/08/2011 21:49

Any body part photographed on a mobile looks gopping.

A RL erection can be a thing of beauty Wink

Whatmeworry · 15/08/2011 21:50

It's not that they are unpleasant , more faintly ridiculous

Unplucked boneless chickens :o

AnyFucker · 15/08/2011 21:53

I like what they can do not what they look like Grin

SardineQueen · 15/08/2011 21:55

The beauty in looking at a RL erection is in the anticipation, yes, probably.

AnyFucker · 15/08/2011 21:55

< excuses self for a few minutes >

SardineQueen · 15/08/2011 21:55

I wouldn't put a big picture of a cock up on my wall or anything Grin

SardineQueen · 15/08/2011 21:56
AnyFucker · 15/08/2011 21:58

you know you wanna Smile

SardineQueen · 15/08/2011 22:01

You can buy kits on the internet to "make your own vibrator" in the form of your beloved partner.

And that's all I'm saying.