To think i dont deserve to be treated like a prostitute

[firstly]

Im fuming.
I have a sort of no strings thing with this man. But basically this weekend ive been treated like nothing more than a whore.
friday night at gone midnight i got a text of his cock. I hadnt spoken to him for over a week, no contact ( which is fine.. but not even a hello?) he was then annoyed at me that i refused to get out of bed ( i was asleep) and go see him.

Saturday night the same thing happened, but i was out with friends, so he just got annoyed that i didn respond at all.

Last night the same thing happened again, but it was a bit earlier, 9pm. I said i was free tomorrow and if he wanted to do something then, i would but i wasnt going to go round. He got really pissed off and said i didnt do it (!!!!) properly anyway and if was either NOW or not at all.

I am not a prostitute and do not deserve to be treated like one. Yes, i have slept with him in the past, and am not in a relationship with him, and i dont want a relationship with him, but how on earth does he think he can just text me things like that??

Or AIBU?

Nice one! :o

i know. i was just a bit surprised to get the same thing as i had the night before.
no hello or anything. just a cock.

takes you a bit by surprise.

Nobody has ever sent me a cock picture

one night i got 3. ( from 3 different men)
all unpromted.

noone of my friends have had them either.
I dont know why i have, i wasnt dating, seeing or had given any hints about anything to these men.

just got a cock pic.

YABU to expect more than booty calls from a no-strings relationship. That's what they're for, and is the beauty (or the downfall, depending on how you look at it) of them.

He sounds like a right knobber, though.

One of my friends once got a cock poem...all about his 'phat cock'

But to return to the OP: there's nothing wrong with a mutually agreed no strings arrangement, the only thing wrong with your particular set up is that it's with a complete knobber. Get rid, he's just rude.

It's appalling, isn't it! I've met a few who think that just because I'm OK with no-strings I'm also OK with no respect.

Hope this makes you laugh, esp you, firstly - one wanted to come round of an evening. I had just gotten home from a dreadful day and didn't even want company, let alone a shag, and said so.

His reply: "I'll be gentle with you".

AS IF!

If I don't want it, you're not getting it from me. End of. But to say what he did rather indicates he believe women "let him" and are there for his pleasure.

BTW, firstly, don't delete TinyPhonescreen's number, but do re-name it to include a word like "Jerk" or "Git" or "Do Not Answer" (I have a few of these, all filed together). Mobile numbers start to look like each other eventually, so if you delete, you might not remember to avoid that call, a few weeks/months down the line. And make sure you tell him ASAP any kind of contact from him is no longer welcome.

YARRRNBU!

a booty call is fine. one with an hours warning is fine.

a cock pic is even fine if at least its got a hello attached

having a go at me because i refused to get out of bed at midnight and drive 30 mins to go see him, is not.

do you really have to ask this. just kick him to the kerb, and don't ever sleep with him again.

yuck.

no. im really not.
I have no idea. i just didnt respond.

I think certain "dating" websites are populated by a certain kind of cock-obsessed twat bloke

Just wondering where this pseudo-man's head is. I mean, really, standing there past midnight, photographing his willy, thinking "That's sure to have her gagging for it!". Press send. No interest. Willy heads south. And repeat next night. Tantrum at lack of interest. BUT I WANT! Creeping realisation that firstly is actually only interested in no-strings sex, when he had convinced himself that he was so splendid she was willing to pretend to want no-strings just to get close to his magnificence. Willy heads south at high speed.

Yeah, it makes no sense does it.
Last nights one had ' come and get it' attached to it, which i found hysterical and only made me say more firmly that i would not be doing so.

It was gone 10 for goodness sake. Im not going to jump up, have a quick shower, shave my legs and stuff, get dressed, put make up on, drive 30 mins for that.

NO WAY,

Exactly, firstly. Hence his ideas of your attitude to /desire for him must have been well out of whack with yours.

YANBU. You don't deserve to be treated that way at all. Find someone better as I'm assuming you have no feelings for this twat man.

Hahahahaha @ 'come and get it'!

Like a photo of an erect penis is particularly attractive in the first place.

Now, if my partner texted me a photo of a big sandwich at 10pm (or any time) with the message 'come and get it', I'd be there like a rat up a drainpipe.

Toby

a cream cake

I'm there

love the idea of a cock pic being ok if it has a hello attached

As if the cock is a little woodland creature, popping up to give you a cheery hello

Almost like a little cock Tamagotchi living inside your phone.

Re-christen his mobile number Tamacocki

3 from different men? Do you think maybe you attract a certain type?

ah, bimbo, you are just jealous

you want cock pics too, dontcha ?

It's after posts like this that I am glad I'm not on the dating scene right now. It sounds horrible- do men not even pretend to like you anymore?

dear OP, YANBU. Great thread, just because you only want sex doesn't mean you have to put up with this, and you would be surprised you are not the only woman in the world to have been where you are! My "take" is that you got a bit above yourself in his eyes when you decided you didn't want to put up with new crap, that irritated him, and so he decided to get a little bit nasty e.g. sending you insulting texts etc. I suspect its over in his mind anyway but like a nasty kid he just wants to throw the final stone.