To think that "place marking" is just fucking rude

[Catslikehats]

I've just read a distressing thread (as opposed to an amusing thread where I don't really mind so much) on which the OP needed help support and the number of posters who have just typed ".", presumably to place mark has really pissed me off.

It's not fucking entertainment folks and if you want to treat it as such at least have the decency not to be so blatant about it and try one of these approaches:

i) Add something useful

or

ii) type something appropriate: you've clicked on the message box and are going to click and wait on the post button so why so hard to type "good luck" of "OMG that is awful"

or

ii) Add to your watched threads

AIBU to think it is really not that hard not to behave like a rude rubbernecker

[belgo]

I never do this but it's never occurred to me to find it offensive, surely it's just a way of trying to remember to post on the thread when they have time?

[worraliberty]

I've never marked a place and it doesnt' bother me when other people do it.

I'm a bit confused at how anyone can be 'rubbernecking' on a public forum when the OP has put whatever problem they have, out there in public for all strangers to read?

[gillybean2]

I saw this thread near the begining last night and I added it to watched because I didn't have anything to add to what already had been said at that time but I did want to know the outcome and to see if the OP needed further advice once the immediate situation was resolved.

I did find it a but to see the obvious place marking. Why mark your place? If you are interested then watch the thread.

IMO there was no need to bump it for more advice - there was plenty of advice and the OP had already taken action anyhow by the time the bumps and "." started

Using watched threads isn't that hard is it? Or is it more tricky on a mobile or something which may be why people choose this options...?

[usualsuspect]

I agree ,worraliberty.if you write on a public forum

It is there for all to see

[belgo]

What does bother me is when the OP bumps a thread without acknowledging any of the replies. I find that very rude.

[ZZZenAgain]

the term "rubbernecking" riles me, riles me totally. Argh

I had a . comment on one my threads come to think of it. Or even twice on that thread - and I assumed that the poster meant something along the lines: what a stupid OP/thread.

I didn't realise anyone was marking a place.

[worraliberty]

I find that rude too belgo...or when they only aknowledge those who agree with them.

[ZZZenAgain]

that is an annoying one belgo, especially if they are ignoring your post!

[Catslikehats]

Saul You misunderstand me I am neither offended nor do I ascribe any intention to those that "." on serious threads - I don't care what their intention is it is rude. And I don't understand why anyone would do it.

I am happy to be told their are valid reasons for doing it - hence this thread but thus far have not heard one (although thanks to crazynana for her comment )

If you want to come back to a thread bookmark/watch it.

If you care but don't know what to say there are numerous three word comments that would suffice. Hardly more effort.

[ggirl]

yanbu
also hate the way some posters treat all threads as if they are in the aibu section and try and cause arguments , pick holes in the OP
mn has changed

[SoupDragon]

[meh] I think swearing in thread titles is fucking rude but each to their own.

[SaulGood]

Sorry, to be clear Queen, I was referring to the debate between lissie and Mardy re what decides something as rubbernecking/rude/offensive. Your belief that it is or the intention behind it.

There are lots of reasons why people put a "." on a thread and it's fairly accepted behaviour on a fast moving chat forum. Like I said, I don't do it, but I don't ascribe any particular meaning to it. But as long as others do then it's a valid discussion.

[LongWayRound]

I don't understand why anyone posts to "mark their place" in a thread either, it justs wastes space. Isn't the "Watch this thread" option available to everyone on mn? lissielou's post about being a "TIO poster" suggests it isn't, but maybe I've misunderstood? (What does TIO stand for? Should it be added to the mn acronyms?)

[bananamam]

I put a . On that very thread. I was running out the door to pick up my kids, with the intention of returning later to add to it.. YABU to judge those who do it at "rude". I for one genuinely hope the op is ok. It's never struck me as rude.

What does strike me as rude is a thread about a thread.

[SaulGood]

TIO= threads I'm on.

I never use the watch facility because I'm just used to using active convos and tio. I would like a bookmark facility though but it's only for the modern amongst us.

[Catslikehats]

saul Fair enough - I was getting carried away

bananamam - so if you wanted to return why not bookmark/watch.

This thread isn't about that thread in isolation. It is about something that happens on many, many threads and that thread was a useful illustartion of the worst examples.

Normally I am the first to say bring it up on the thread but given the nature of the thread I really don't think the OP needed my comments on behaviour which is seen far more widely taking over her thread - so I disagree this thread is rude.

[ChrisPBacon]

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[usualsuspect]

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[HopeForTheBest]

YABU

It is, as somewhat further up pointed out, a public forum. So really, why would you be posting here if you didn't want people to read it? Whether it's bumping or marking place, I don't think this is rude.

And as for the thread in question, it was posted in AIBU, which considering what it was about, was in itself totally inappropriate, it should have been moved.

[Catslikehats]

67 posts until I got a "."

As soon as a pressed post on the OP I figured I was asking for it

[ChrisPBacon]

[TidyDancer]

I totally agree with you, OP. On a serious thread, it's entirely inappropriate.

[usualsuspect]

If it was a serious thread it shouldn't have been in AIBU in the first place

[worraliberty]

I think people simply do whatever suits them. Some will 'watch the thread', some will bookmark, some will mark their place with a dot and some will type "Hope you're ok OP"...even if they don't particularly care.

I don't think it's rude....it's just an individual thing.

[belgo]

I don't understand why any serious threads are in IABU. If I had a serious problem, IABU is the last place I would turn to.