Friendship/conversation is a two way thing, right?
So what is it with people who CONSTANTLY interrupt/butt in/talk over you?
A friend of mine. Nice enough woman. Heart in the right place and all that. But I recently spent a day with her and jeeezus - I wanted to kill her by the end.
Whenever I start a sentence, I get about 4 words in and she's off. Either she's reminded of something similar that happened to HER, or one of her family, and she goes on and on and on and on.
Even if she's actually ASKED me a question, she won't let me answer.
EG:
Her: So, did you buy that bike in the end?
Me: Yes, the one we ordered online wasn't any good so we sent it ba.........
Her: Oh, my cousin ordered one online and [blah blah blah blah for a good 5 minutes]
Me (after waiting patiently for her to finish): ... oh, really? Yes, well anyway, it was all scratched and....
Her: Did I tell you about that car we went to look at the other week? Blah blah blah blah blah [goes on at length again].
It is CONSTANT.
The thing is, I'm not sure why she bothers meeting up; she clearly isn't the slightest bit interested in me or what I've been doing or what I have to say. I suspect that what she wants is an audience, not a two way conversation. But I think she'd be devastated if I cooled contact; I think she's lonely. But then I suspect the reason she doesn't have many friends is because they're sick of being expected to sit and listen to her without being allowed to join in!
So - what can I say? It has got to the stage where I'm struggling to keep smiling, so I am going to have to say something
But I don't want to hurt her feelings :(
I'm especially interested to hear from those of you who are butter-inners/interruptors - why do you do it, do you realise how rude it is, and what could a friend say to you to shut you up without upsetting you too much?
Honestly, I've asked about this before (not on here though I don't think) but it's now beyond a joke. It really IS crunch time. I can't stand it any more.
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CalamityKate · 12/08/2011 15:56
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