Dh want's me to take kids on hol with His family without him

[CoffeeDog]

Had a chat with DH last night and he thinks IABU

Due to go on a week long caravan hol with DH entire family next week...

MIL booked it as a 'treat' for us back in jan as we cannot afford to go this year.. she annouced last month that she her DH - her mum and dad will also be sharing the caravan with us making 6 adults and 3 kids in one caravan - with all our kids squished into the little room and me and dh on the fold out bed bit in the living room.
SIL & her DH have a caravan there and will be there with therir 7 kids - shes 7mth pregnant and isnt very mobile so MIL idea is that we entertain the kids while SIL has a break..ermmmm what about me?

DH isnt really good at speding alot of time with his own family (due to probs when he was a kid) as said last night that he thinks he will stay home and decorate for a few days while me and the kids go and have fun...... I have told him NO way i am spending a week being the glorified au par with no sleep(Dh grandad gets up at the crack of dawn and his mum with be at the bar till late )
I have said if he want the painting done i will happily stay behind on my own and paint the house whilst he takes the kids after all its HIS family and he has never had the kids on his own and just come back from a fishing trip with his dad - would be lovly to have the house to myself!

He thinks i ABU as i get on with his family better than him..???

Is he deaded yet?

I would go IF I was writing a play and wanted to do some research using the Mike Leigh meets Carry On genre.

No Way YANBU

I think you're barking to even consider it. Sleeping in the lounge would be a massive no no for me. I wouldn't like it even if it was just me, DH and the kids in the caravan (never mind the motley crew you are having to contend with). Also it really doesn't sound like there is enough room for your youngest to sleep. No child of mine would sleep on a caravan floor out of choice.

I can't believe you're still going after this thread.

As for Grandma's sex noises; the mind boggles..

No, I wouldn't go. I think you should do all the packing, pack up the car, wait till your husband's got the car started, shout "Only kidding!" and jump out and lock yourself in the house.

If you really are going to go you definitely need a cooking and cleaning rota to be shared between all the adults.

I would also agree a couple of times when you and DH will take all the kids out for 1/2 a day to give your SIL a break. She must be knackered and should really appreciate that without the whole holiday being you running a kids club.

tood luck - let us know how it goes

Excellent suggestion ImperialBlether!

Have to admit I had trouble sleeping last night, because I kept thinking about you, OP! In the end, I decided YABU for not going (hadn't seen your update yet).
You see, I'm catholic and we always need new saints. I think we should already send in the paperwork to nominate you for sainthood now, and then, if you and all your inlaws come back alive and intact, the whole process can be completed and you can be a saint even before the next family holiday.

(apologies to my fellow catholics, if they find this suggestion offensive)

Errrr - isn't the point of a holiday that you come back relaxed, refreshed, chilled out and with new energy to face the world? I'd rather work a week of night shifts than put myself through the "holiday" that's being described, I'd get more sleep!

I completely don't get why you should take all 10 kids for any length of time to give SiL a break - if she can't handle 7 kids she should not be expecting another one!

You are going to need a proper holiday to recover from this one - and this is coming from someone who likes her MiL so much she's moving in with us.

He can fuck right off. I'd tell him exactly that.

You either all suffer enjoy the holiday or you all stay home. Your MIL probably means well but hasn't really thought this through. imo.

Ooh I like that suggestion Imperial that's probably exactly what I'd do. So long as I hadn't already throttled my DP for even jokingly suggesting that.

There are some cheeky gits out there...

Sorry haven't read it all, but WTF! So you think you're getting a nice caravan holiday and then your MIL announces that actually you will have no privacy as you'll be sleeping in the living room and you will be the childminder for 10 kids all week!

Fuck ooooooofffffffff!

I WOULD NOT GO AT ALL!

Nuts.

You are nuts.

I'm a bit about your DH's promise to "stick up for you" re: babysitting, cooking etc... How about he pitches in and does a bit himself, rather than planting himself in the bar and mumbling over his shoulder "oh yeah, mum, that's not fair on coffee, she's got my tea to cook, not everyone else's."

I wouldn't go and I wouldn't be sending the kids either. Too many kids, not enough adults, and the adults that would be there don't sound like the most responsible.

bloody hell. i think your week at home sounded brill this week of hell will leave you in need of a real holiday! what a horrible MIL booking a 'treat' then turning up with the world and his wife dumping sour SILs kids and everything onto you :( at least your DH got it thru his head that he was taking the piss.

Sorry, OP, joking aside, I think you will end up getting used and abused on this "holiday". If your DH hasn't managed to grow a pair wrt his family thus far, it's not going to happen on this holiday. Do you really think he is capable of "sticking up for you"? Do you really think he will take his sister's brood and your's off for a bit to give YOU a break? Really?

eeh imagine the kids hearing their nana at it aswell?! poor blighters :( and having to sleep on a cold floor all cramped whilst your rushed off your feet looking after everyone and getting no sleep. its just so sad i really feel for you :( there is not a cats chance in hell i'd be going or putting my mini me's thru that.

CoffeeDog, If you give me exclusive updates and I write best-selling indie film on this, a la Bridesmaids, I'll give you half the money.

Deal?!

i think that you are nuts to go but, if you are going then i'd just use the caravan as a place to sleep in and make sure you go out with dh and dc all day every day - eat out as often as you can!

I hope you have a good time (maybe you and dh could disturb everyone else with some noisy sex of your own!!!)

I certainly wouldn't go on holiday to help someone else look after seven kids and give them a break!!!

Of course, I am all for pitching in and lessening the load...but SEVEN kids??

No. No way.

Looking after someone else's children is, in any case, the sort of thing one ought to offer to do, not be signed up for, not even agree to do (after the offer has been made by someone else).

What are you going to say to MIL, CoffeeDog?