To call DD's vagina her vagina?

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I don't think I am but this has now caused hell to the point where my 93 year old Grandmothet has refused to see me, my Bampi is yelling at me and everyone is up in arms.

Apparently it's a sexual term, not one to be used by little girls and I'm a bad mother. It's got to the point where my nosy grandma tried to find in laws in the phone book to complain to them about their horrible son using the word to his daughter "Get your hands off your vagina" after she was messing around.

What exactly is wrong with a three year old knowing her vagina is called just that. I'm not going to make up names for it.

Also, if DD uses this term in nursery Bampi seems to think I'll be called in for a meeting and asked not to return.

AIBU or are family just a load of bonkers twats?

I DID mean vagina but admitted to using the word as a broad term covering everything 'down there' when it comes to wiping etc. Covering my own ignorance is not necessary as I clearly stated I used the term broadly and also stated I should be using vulva.

I now understand why the Welsh feel discriminated against by the English, after this thread.

Now it'll really kick off...

BigJessie - yes, I really didn't like the pasting that OP got for talking about her bampi, a common South Walian dialect word and one that I would have thought would be widely understood in the UK like 'nan' or 'granda' - clearly not.

Just out of curiosity - do those whose children use the words 'vulva' / 'vagina' wipe their 'anus' after they have passed 'excrement'?

OP, old people are generally prudish, they were brought up in much more modest times. My Grandmother could barely bring herself to say knickers, never mind vagina, vulva or penis.
As a little girl there was never had a word for genitals, that general area was just 'bottom' so it didn't come naturally for me to use the words for DD.
I ended up singing them to the tune of heads, shoulders, knees and toes to get used to saying them!

I don't see how Bampi would be widely understood if it is a regional term malinois.

I would think it strange to hear a small girl talking about her vulva/vagina. Granted, there are lots of different words in use, but most people understand that a "foo-foo" is a "front bottom" or a "winkie" is the same part of the anatomy. I see no reason why this should be a problem; as we grow up, we learn the other words and use them as appropriate- I really don't believe that many intelligent, adult women complain to the doctor of a "pain in the foo-foo".
Does the OP ask her DC if they need to urinate, I wonder, or do they go for a wee like the other children?

Was directed at malinois, Stewie.

I personally don't particulatly like using these correct medical terms for genitals - it sounds so...so...clinical. I don't think, in a moment of passion, I can imagine using the word penis with my DP unless we were playing doctors and nurses

Then again the nurse who I go to see at my doctor's surgery calls a penis a todger which always makes me laugh :o

Stewie - you don't just find moms in Birmingham

It is West Midlands Stewie :o

My point was, Stweie, that Birmingham is not the whole West Midlands. I am from Wolverhampton and I am most definitley a mom. I live in Essex but my kids call me mom and get very indignant if anyone tres to "correct" them

I had never heard of Bampi either but really, it hardly took the brains of Einstein to work out what it was

notso - because the UK is a very small country and people, I presume, travel and have friends and work colleagues from all parts of it. So I would have assumed it was a term that most British people would have come across at some point. Obviously I'm wrong.

I guess a vajazzle should really be a vujazzle now I think about it.....

For me the issue with Bampi was that it is a colloquial term [like foof-fanny-moomoo] and yet the OP was seemingly against their use in relation to body parts [but not grandparents]

Have to say id never heard of Bampi though.

Or a VuLjazzle Rhonda!!