I've just been threatened

[Mitmoo]

I've had the garden turned into a camp site and three children sleeping in tents aged 14. They were fast asleep by midnight. I've just had an elderly neighbour knock the door, I've left the outside security light on so they have light, it is mainly on my back garden but lights up around a little bit not
much. The children felt safer

He has told me to turn off the security light as it is keeping him up. I said don't be ridiculous it is 1 o clock in the morning and close your curtains.

He says it is a hot night and he shouldn't have to close his windows. I say leave your windows open use your curtains to block the light.

He says, if you don't turn off the lights I'll be back at 3 am and you wont like what I'll do, there are consequences and you wont like them"

I feel like that is a threat, one of the children heard it and was scared, I've woken all three children, got them inside and left the light on.

AIBU for thinking this w shouldn't be allowed to make veiled threats, scare one child and force me to get the other two in from their sleeps in the garden just to make sure this tosspot doesn't follow through with his threats which he says will happen at 3 am?

The kids and me were asleep, it was just the security light, it's not like they were causing any trouble.

What do you think? Excuse typos sleepy typing.

Tbh mitmoo I would just let this thread go.

hatesponge the OPs response was because the man was so aggressive after geting her out of bed at 1 am. I didn't see it coming, just opened the door to abuse.

That is not nice and not reasonable.

thestring - it is the inspector morse types who worry me. On a bloody mumsney thread

snippy it's an active thread, people want to have their say, let them.

Mitmoo is loving this. Most popular she's been for a while perhaps?

Good grief, is this still going on?

Some random unknown to the OP woke her up to complain that her security light was keeping him awake when he wasnt trying to sleep and the light didnt shine into his garden.

The OP was not thrilled by this so did not invite the random in for coffee, a slice of cake and to apologise for things which had not happened. The random made veiled threats about unpleasant consequences. Said threats were heard by one of the OP's guests who was frightened.

If the OP had beaten the random about the head with a heavy object then I might think 'bit of an over reaction ....'. Instead the OP after reflection contacted the police this morning.

Where in all of this was the OP being unreasonable? I thought she was quite restrained!

If all the armchair detectives would stop fucking posting it would be let go!

I think the OPs anxiety, relationship with ex, sons ASD etc etc being brought into this thread eg 'No wonder...blah blah blah' is disgusting.

Take this for what it was, she was worried last night and started the thread, all of the bitchness from IloveTiffany et al is really not helping and makes me wonder what sad fucking lives you all must have to get off on berating someone who you know suffers from anxiety as its been brought up several times!

Seriously grow the fuck up and leave the OP alone.

ILoveTiffany - just leave it. Your posts are bullying and childish. You just want to be right. To make a fool of the OP so you can ingratiate yourself to the other bullying types on here.

Maybe you are right and the OP is as mad as a hatter and making the whole thing up for attention. But then preying on vulnerable types is easy pickings and great entertainment isn't it?

Mitmoo I don't think you are mad or making it up btw - just making a point!

Good post AmberLeaf

GnomeDePlume I think I love you. And on that note I am off to bed exhausted after a night of very little sleep. Nite Nite all. Tomorrow xx

yup marked a few more mumsnet bullies on this thread. They are about as in life

Amber thank you so much. address you too amber and you.
Thanks so much.

snippy it's an active thread, people want to have their say, let them.

I only said it because so many are so negative towards you and I'm sure I read somewhere you suffer from stress, only trying to help.

A man knocks on a woman's door at 1am and tells her turn the light off or else and some people think that's acceptable, I don't, regardless of the woman's reaction, he sounds like a dick.......and if it is shining in his window then he can approach the problem in a nice way rather than being confrontional.

OP, I would ask your immediate neighbors if the light has been disturbing them, if not then he just has thing about security light IMO.

I'm beginning to think you are enjoying the attention a little too much.

snippywoo2

She is responding to the bitchy accusations, on the other hand if she didnt respond it would be

'Where has the OP gone'

'OP doesnt like whats being said so has buggered off'

Shes damned if she does......

I can't believe this is still going on! Nothing like coming on AIBU? just to accept those posts that are on your side, is there?

I still think that unless some details have been omitted from the OP, she was rude and quite unreasonable herself before the old man became unreasonable himself. She's now managed to paint him as some mental harraser who will never darken her doors again as the police are on her side. Is this what I need to worry about if I ever need to go round to a neighbour's house to reasonably ask them to turn down some noise or turn off a light that happens to be disturbing me?

Ridiculous. Lets just all go to bed now, shall we?

Thank fark we got the Jetty translation sorted.

Gully.

"mayor when you threaten people you cross the line, he was just too angry and/or stupid."

Yes but I don't think what he did was threatening. Nor do I think you woke up to a man being abusive, you woke up to a neighbour complaining about a light who then ebcame angry when you were dismissive of his complaint and called him ridiculous.
As I said it's all subjective.

At 1am, YWBU.

I hate security lights or any sort of external electric light when I'm trying to sleep. The night should be dark and quiet, not lit up. Light pollution is a scourge.

Having said that, he shouldn't have told you to turn off the light, if he had been reasonable and asked politely would you have reacted differently?

"Intrusive security lights wreaking havoc in your neighbourhood?" on The Wrong Show tomorrow?

FoSho.

Chaos

Would be a ginnel/snicket round these parts...

still at it. good heavens

Let it drop. Express your vitriol and repressed anger elsewhere