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I've just been threatened

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Mitmoo · 03/08/2011 01:37

I've had the garden turned into a camp site and three children sleeping in tents aged 14. They were fast asleep by midnight. I've just had an elderly neighbour knock the door, I've left the outside security light on so they have light, it is mainly on my back garden but lights up around a little bit not
much. The children felt safer

He has told me to turn off the security light as it is keeping him up. I said don't be ridiculous it is 1 o clock in the morning and close your curtains.

He says it is a hot night and he shouldn't have to close his windows. I say leave your windows open use your curtains to block the light.

He says, if you don't turn off the lights I'll be back at 3 am and you wont like what I'll do, there are consequences and you wont like them"

I feel like that is a threat, one of the children heard it and was scared, I've woken all three children, got them inside and left the light on.

AIBU for thinking this w shouldn't be allowed to make veiled threats, scare one child and force me to get the other two in from their sleeps in the garden just to make sure this tosspot doesn't follow through with his threats which he says will happen at 3 am?

The kids and me were asleep, it was just the security light, it's not like they were causing any trouble.

What do you think? Excuse typos sleepy typing.

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AbbyAbsinthe · 03/08/2011 16:31

I've been reading some of your other threads, Mitmoo. I think you just like making a fuss. Just saying.

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Mitmoo · 03/08/2011 16:33

abby the fuss came to my door, I didn't go seeking it out. This one and some of the other threads certainly didn't give me any pleasure, I just vent went worried or upset.

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SurreyDad · 03/08/2011 16:34

Light pollution is illegal under the same laws as excessive noise, whatever law that is...

WhoseGotMyEyebrows · 03/08/2011 16:34

I typed Jetty into google images as I wasn't sure what you meant. Do you live near water? Sorry to be thick! It doesn't really matter anyway, just nosy.

He does sound rather bizaar! Maybe in future just try to be a little more aware of your neighbours (next door etc) and aware that things that don't bother you might well bother them. Sure you will after this experience anyway! It's best to try to be considerate in case you need the same from them one day.

Ephiny · 03/08/2011 16:36

And now I think you should let it go and move on with your life - though this thread has been entertaining during a slow day at work! Neighbour has had a chat from the police, you have realised you should use a torch/lantern next time, people have generally agreed that you were BU to have the light on but he was BU to threaten you - what more is there to say really?

AbbyAbsinthe · 03/08/2011 16:41

I don't mean the incident itself really. I mean the subsequent involvement of the police and the conversation that you had with the man today when you ascertasined where he lived. I don't understand why you feel the need to make a fuss about it after the event, that's all.

desperatelyseekingsolutions · 03/08/2011 16:43

I've only read up to page 10 (only so many hours in the day) BUT, I have to say I think the old man was BU. I think people are siding with him cause he's old not because he's in the right. (My mum a pensioner stalker and no one took her seriously because of his age!!.. until he started tto steal things off my sister's grave and demand she come in person to pick them up!)
I don't think Mitmoo should have left the light on once she had brought the kids in though.

WhoseGotMyEyebrows · 03/08/2011 16:44

She's probably a bit freaked out. I think if someone came to my house at night, was being aggressive and said they were going to do something bad at 3am I'd be shaken up too!

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Mitmoo · 03/08/2011 16:52

whose got a Jetty to me is the area that is shared behind the houses where you access your garage, it might be a local thing, I've always called them jettys. Id love to live near water. Smile but I don't.

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WhoseGotMyEyebrows · 03/08/2011 16:53

Oh! We call it the alley.

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Mitmoo · 03/08/2011 16:54

Abby the man in his 70s I'd say upset the whole household last night, I couldn't let him threatening me go because people like that are bullies and he could well come back. Now he knows not to mess with me and mine.

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Mitmoo · 03/08/2011 16:56

Desperately that's awful, there are some very mean oaps unfortunately.

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AbbyAbsinthe · 03/08/2011 16:57

Are you channelling Violet Kray? Hmm Grin

limitedperiodonly · 03/08/2011 16:58

Now he knows not to mess with me and mine.

Watch out people. There's a new sheriff in town.

limitedperiodonly · 03/08/2011 16:59

x-post abby

AbbyAbsinthe · 03/08/2011 17:00

limitedperiodonly

Pancakeflipper · 03/08/2011 17:06

I've not read every page... It depends if the security light is directed at his windows. Our neighbours have a security light and one night it was shining at our bedroom window. We couldn't sleep and had to get the neighbours to adjust it.

Threats not good but perhaps at 1am he was tired and pissed off. As I guess it hadn't been a quiet night in your garden...

ifancyashandy · 03/08/2011 17:06

Just a thought - could you not just re-angle the light so it definitely shines down or back slightly?

You still get your security, he gets darkness.

No more drama innit.

TheMonster · 03/08/2011 17:07

I would have left the light on deliberately to annoy him. I am very petty like that.

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Mitmoo · 03/08/2011 17:11

Ifancy it is already set up like that. That is what I really don't understand.

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Original poster
Mitmoo · 03/08/2011 17:12

It is tempting body but I won't. I just want peace to be restored and a good nights sleep.

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AbbyAbsinthe · 03/08/2011 17:16

But you did, Mitmoo Confused

ifancyashandy · 03/08/2011 17:20

But it can't be Mitmoo as it is shining in such a way to disturb him whether - and this bit is fairly crucial- you think so or not. No-one would get out of the house at 1am to knock on someones door to complain about something that wasn't happening.

So, whether you agree or not, as many many others have already said, it must be angles in such a way as to disturb him. So, move it and then it definitely can't bother him again. Compromise!

comeandsitbythefire · 03/08/2011 17:21

OP you sure have put some hours into this thread, go get some rest :) Brew

RevoltingPeasant · 03/08/2011 17:23

.... And I still do not understand why it is okay for the OP to be aggressive because she was woken up, but not for the old man to be shirty because (according to him) he was being kept awake.

And NOT for the first night, if I've got this right, this was the second night you'd had this on.

So for all he knows, this is for the rest of the summer.

I am totally Shock that you regard it as 'success' that your neighour isn't allowed to knock on your door anymore. Anyhow leaving this thread alone as it's too depressing how unneighbourly people can be.