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The OFFICIAL buddy bench/naughty bench thread No. 6

999 replies

Teaandcakeplease · 02/08/2011 21:09

Come hither all those who haven't found their place on mumsnet, have scrapped in Aibu or crossed words in chat. The buddy bench shalt not judge.

The buddy bench will hand out wine and cakes, it will join you on your scoffathons getting pissed

All those who sit on the bench, will have their sins erased and be given a warm welcome and cheerful chat from CheerfulYank, gomummy, tiredmum, Elmo, valiumredhead and far, far too many more to mention.

Welcome to the buddy bench, we look forward to meeting you all Smile

Oh and don't forget, last one to leave polishes bench and locks up!

OP posts:
CheerfulYank · 06/10/2011 00:01

Oooh, very nice! :) I don't know what to do for a Halloween name...FearfulYank? :o

TiredMUMMYno1 · 06/10/2011 00:36

I like fearful

Dh says minnesotamurderer Hmm Grin

Although no one realise its you, men eh

TiredMUMMYno1 · 06/10/2011 00:37

no one would - i meant

CheerfulYank · 06/10/2011 00:40

Hahaha! :) That would have them trembling, though...

TiredMUMMYno1 · 06/10/2011 00:43

I reckon they would have been terrified Grin

valiumredhead · 06/10/2011 09:56

Morning :)

TiredMUMMYno1 · 06/10/2011 12:45

Hiya valium, are you ok Smile

valiumredhead · 06/10/2011 13:41

Fine thanks, really windy here so I have the washing on the line and a mountain to put away but I am ignoring that!

gomummygo · 06/10/2011 13:52

Morning all! :)

No Cheerful, having spent the last decade doing DIY, definitely no judging here! :) Well, that, and now I know that you are murderous and I'm the only bencher within your range.... Wink Grin

Windy here too Valium, some crazy weather across the country here now.

TiredMUMMYno1 · 06/10/2011 14:33
DEADTiredmumno1 · 06/10/2011 14:38

This is my other halloween name wasnt sure which to choose, so i nabbed both Grin

valiumredhead · 06/10/2011 16:20

French Onion soup anyone? With cheesey croutons?...

elmofan · 06/10/2011 16:30

Hello

Well I went to bed at 8pm last night and watched the TWILIGHT films back to back Smile so feel much stronger today .
How are you feeling today TiredMUMMY ?

It's Very cold and windy here today .

elmofan · 06/10/2011 16:31

I said "TODAY" a lot in my last post Grin sorry

IdjustassoonkissaWookiee · 07/10/2011 07:29

I've gone to bed by 8pm two nights in a row. So I'm missing all the chat on here. Helllooooooooooo!

valiumredhead · 07/10/2011 11:15

Helooooooooooooooooooooooooo Grin

elmofan · 07/10/2011 12:57

Heloooooooooooooooooooooo back at ya all Grin

How is everyone ?

Thank god it's Friday i'm shattered .
Anyone got any nice plans for the weekend ?

gomummygo · 07/10/2011 14:26

Helloooooooooooooooooooooo Grin

Thanksgiving long weekend here, so mostly preparing for the big dinner and then cleaning up from the big dinner, LOL!

My very favourite holiday of the year. Sounds a bit cheesy but I adore a holiday that is all about being thankful. I make everyone around the table say what they're thankful for before we eat! :)

CheerfulYank · 07/10/2011 16:10

We do that too gomummy. :)

Thanksgiving isn't until the end of November here, which is good! I need more planning time.

I am getting well fed up with my job. :(

gomummygo · 07/10/2011 19:18

:( Why, Cheerful? Bad day today, or bigger issue?

Nice that you do the thankful thing too. :) This is my favourite weekend all year, and usually the last of the nice weather too. Your Thanksgiving is the beginning of our Christmas preparations - is it like that there too?

elmofan · 07/10/2011 19:56

Are you ok cheerful?

Have a lovely weekend gomummy Smile thanksgiving
sounds lovely.

Ds has gone to the cinema with a group of friends from his new
school. It's his first outing alone with no adult supervision
dh droped him off and will pick him up after the movie
and drop a few of ds's friends home.
My little boy is growing up so fast.

IdjustassoonkissaWookiee · 07/10/2011 20:37

Wow he is growing up fast Elmo Smile

Cheerful come and spill the beans, you can't tell the bench that one liner and leave us Wink

I love the idea of thanksgiving Envy

CheerfulYank · 07/10/2011 21:45

Hi. :)

I'm fine, it's just really hard. I have begged the school since my student was 4 to keep her back. And they won't. And now I don't want them too as she's 8 and is used to this group of children, but...

When she had just turned 5 her mother was insisting she was going to kindergarten. I told the school to recommend she stay in preschool another year, as she would be one of the youngest in the class. Additionally, at that point she was only attending school for two hours a day and screaming for most of that time. But off she went.

So in kindergarten all my time was spent getting her to sit still, getting her to wait her turn to talk, starting to write her name, stand in line, etc. And we were finally making progress and I begged them to keep her in kindergarten another year to really hammer out those skills with easy words, easy addition, etc. But off she went.

Then in first grade I spent half the year teaching her everything everyone had learned in kindergarten. She fell farther behind. I asked them to please consider keeping her in first grade so that she could get her confidence up with reading out loud, etc. At that point she would have a tantrum about every third word, like "The...boy...went...to..the...star? Starry? Story? I don't know that word! I don't know that word!" But off she went.

In second grade things started to move even faster. She fell farther behind. I half heartedly asked them to delay moving her to third grade, even for part of the year. But off she went.

Now we're in third grade. She's even farther behind in every way. Also, in third grade they start taking standarized tests to see where our school is in relation to other schools and if we are making AYP (which stands for Adequate Yearly Progress and is a very big deal ) She's become more independent in a lot of ways but not school work. She needs me to sit beside her constantly because it's gotten so hard and she can't read all the words, and so much of what she's supposed to be learning now depends on skills she doesn't have. And they move so fast ...on Monday they were talking about estimating to the nearest ten, i.e. 23 is almost 20, 87 is almost 90, etc. She didn't understand, but was getting close. And then on Tuesday I was meant to teach her to estimate to the nearest 100, like 470 is almost 500 and 318 is almost 300. She didn't get it because she was still confused. Then Wednesday I was supposed to teach her to look at a number like 676 and estimate that to the nearest 10. Then on Thursday they were supposed to be looking at two different numbers, estimating, then adding them. This week's been a total loss, math wise.

So she's getting farther behind, and getting pulled out of class for every subject to work on it in the special ed room. And now they're talking a "modified curriculum." And some kids really need that and it's great, but it didn't have to be this way. That's what gets me.

First grade would have been a perfect year to stay back. She could have really built up her confidence and gotten a really solid set of skills in early math and reading. She has such anxiety issues; even if it's something she can do she has to be threatened Wink coaxed into it. And now she really can't do it and she knows it.

She could have done it, given more time. She could have fit in better with the other kids. But no one would give her that, so as the years go on and she gets more and more behind she'll be pulled out all the time and taught different things.

And it didn't have to be this way, and then I think, if I'm unbelievably frustrated with all this, how does it feel to be her ?

And that breaks my damn heart.

Sorry for such a long post. Feel free to ignore! But that felt good. :)

CheerfulYank · 07/10/2011 21:46

Wow....that was sooo long. Blush

That's great though Elmo , is he finding this year much better than the previous one?

Yes Gomummy as soon as I clean up Thanksgiving lunch up come all the boxes of Christmas stuff. :)

gomummygo · 08/10/2011 00:05

Oh Cheerful, how very frustrating. :( I understand all too well about the standardized testing and moving children forward. Th poor girl. Are her parents involved?

Elmo how bittersweet! Makes him sound so grown up, but you also must be pleased, sounds as though things are going better for him now? How is your DD feeling?

Grin
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