Hi. :)
I'm fine, it's just really hard. I have begged the school since my student was 4 to keep her back. And they won't. And now I don't want them too as she's 8 and is used to this group of children, but...
When she had just turned 5 her mother was insisting she was going to kindergarten. I told the school to recommend she stay in preschool another year, as she would be one of the youngest in the class. Additionally, at that point she was only attending school for two hours a day and screaming for most of that time. But off she went.
So in kindergarten all my time was spent getting her to sit still, getting her to wait her turn to talk, starting to write her name, stand in line, etc. And we were finally making progress and I begged them to keep her in kindergarten another year to really hammer out those skills with easy words, easy addition, etc. But off she went.
Then in first grade I spent half the year teaching her everything everyone had learned in kindergarten. She fell farther behind. I asked them to please consider keeping her in first grade so that she could get her confidence up with reading out loud, etc. At that point she would have a tantrum about every third word, like "The...boy...went...to..the...star? Starry? Story? I don't know that word! I don't know that word!" But off she went.
In second grade things started to move even faster. She fell farther behind. I half heartedly asked them to delay moving her to third grade, even for part of the year. But off she went.
Now we're in third grade. She's even farther behind in every way. Also, in third grade they start taking standarized tests to see where our school is in relation to other schools and if we are making AYP (which stands for Adequate Yearly Progress and is a very big deal ) She's become more independent in a lot of ways but not school work. She needs me to sit beside her constantly because it's gotten so hard and she can't read all the words, and so much of what she's supposed to be learning now depends on skills she doesn't have. And they move so fast ...on Monday they were talking about estimating to the nearest ten, i.e. 23 is almost 20, 87 is almost 90, etc. She didn't understand, but was getting close. And then on Tuesday I was meant to teach her to estimate to the nearest 100, like 470 is almost 500 and 318 is almost 300. She didn't get it because she was still confused. Then Wednesday I was supposed to teach her to look at a number like 676 and estimate that to the nearest 10. Then on Thursday they were supposed to be looking at two different numbers, estimating, then adding them. This week's been a total loss, math wise.
So she's getting farther behind, and getting pulled out of class for every subject to work on it in the special ed room. And now they're talking a "modified curriculum." And some kids really need that and it's great, but it didn't have to be this way. That's what gets me.
First grade would have been a perfect year to stay back. She could have really built up her confidence and gotten a really solid set of skills in early math and reading. She has such anxiety issues; even if it's something she can do she has to be threatened
coaxed into it. And now she really can't do it and she knows it.
She could have done it, given more time. She could have fit in better with the other kids. But no one would give her that, so as the years go on and she gets more and more behind she'll be pulled out all the time and taught different things.
And it didn't have to be this way, and then I think, if I'm unbelievably frustrated with all this, how does it feel to be her ?
And that breaks my damn heart.
Sorry for such a long post. Feel free to ignore! But that felt good. :)