AIBU to ask why you hate mum & toddler groups?

[nomdeploom]

I am a sahm to to two dc (a 2yo and a 5mo). The toddler group I go to is on 4 mornngs a week and without it I would go slightly mad. I have noticed a few comments on here by people saying that they hate them and never go and I just wondered why really.

Ah but true Baby-led weaners should eschew Annabel Karmel and all she stands for, so that would never work.

Baby Jake is driving me slowly insane. Gog-gee-gee-ya and the hamsternor.

Use real words damnit!

Oggy-oggy-oggy with a hamsternor, even. And DS is convinced the rabbit is called Nipples and has named his own happyland rabbit after it.

AlpinePony, I stand by my assesment that you are a humungous twat of the highest order. And I'd like to see you put on a wrap safely. you couldn't though, as you're too up your own arse to learn.

Is there something pathetic about the fact that my SN child couldn't be transported in a pram and needed a proper sling, which I had to learn to use? Really, you think thats worth derision and sneering at me? Because I didn't instinctively know how to use a 6ft piece of cotton in a safe way?

You're a tool.

Scottishmummy what's a precious moments mama?!

I was at m&t this morning an felt a bit self conciously dull whenever I spoke about babies (which was every time I opened my mouth )

I am still glad I have a reason to get us all dressed and out of the house in the morning

Gotart the topic of conversation one sounds interestin. Altho conversations with toddlers around arent always easy...

Siamo Have you considered group therapy for your anger management? You're a very rude little girl, but at least in group you'll be able to show everyone else arts & crafts. e.g., tying knots, painting with fingers, etc.

Have you considered biting me?

ha ha that last comment was genius

Very aggressive aren't you? No wonder these groups aren't more popular.

I also find it quite sad that you believe I'm "smug" because I can i) make a decision and ii) tie a knot. You don't know the half of it toots!

this is really good
glad someone is having a pointless ruck

say something else mean now

go on

Really? Do enlighten us why one would choose a podegi instead of a mei-tai, or tell us 27 different ways to tie a wrap.
Whats that you say? These are just a few of the very many things that you know fuck all about? Shocker. Maybe you need a class or two?

Thanks wildspinning! I thought it was just me that didn't just miraculously have friends on giving birth!

is a mei tai at all like a mai tai?

Other than the middle aged men who I work with...

I wouldn't choose anything over a mai tai...

mai tai or cosmopolitan?

definitely mai tai over cosmo

vanilla stoli on the other hand...

Here's a tip. If you really can't stand the things, quite like the idea of your dc mucking up the church hall rather than your front room and live in an urban area, just hit-and-run. I try not to go to anything too regularly or you have to join a clique. If you drop in every month or so but find there's no one who chats to you or that you are interested in chatting to, you can even be REALLY rude and do things like read a book while keeping one eye on the sprog. This requires some pracrtice but it is doable..

I don't do it that often but while I have no interest in the social side of p and t groups, I do quite like the fact it wears my young man out and about and he just loves those cars you can drive around but we have no space for. I enjoy watching him navigate the social jungle from time to time too but I'm not looking for friendships. I've been lucky in that I have met someone in a group that I think might become a genuine friend, but it was just by chance and happened long after I had decided I couldn't stand p and t groups. It is harder when you are at home all week and really need the social contact, I can be a "tourist" and just take it or leave it because I work too so it's not socially necessary to me.

what about if grey g lemon vod in the cosmo?

oh that's better, i quite like it with absolut currant as well.

rum punch or frozen daiquiri? god it's too hot....

I've never been to a toddler group and never wanted to either tbh.

I had DC's of three y/o and under...I had my own toddler group thing going on everyday anyway.

I am also one of those mothers who actually doesn't like toddlers/babies very much...so being stuck in a room with a whole bunch of them would send me into dire panic mode!

I much prefer my DC's now they are all in or approaching the teen years...there are half a dozen toddlers outside next door at the minute screaming their heads off. I shall be off to close my windows soon, as the noise is driving me nuts!

Tbh I would think most other mothers in my area would be very glad I didn't attend the groups/meetings!

both sound lovely
with the blackcurrant do you still use coin

nooo, just absolut currant and a splash of cran, very very well chilled

actually a lemon drop sounds good right now too (chilled vodka citron in a martini glass, coat the rim of the glass with sugar -- makes a very tasty lemonade!)

It's mindless conversation and small talk about babies - but at least it is conversation and talk about something. That said, I wish I'd get more of that at playgroup - DS rarely gives me a break. Hope that will change as he gets a bit older.

Being long-term sleep deprived, and basically not doing much apart from looking after DS, doesn't make me the most interesting person to talk to. I suppose it's similar for others at the playgroup, so I'm not holding them to standards I can't fulfil myself.

Still it's good to go there. It gives me a reason to leave the house, I get to see people other than the cashier at Tesco's (even if the conversation is limited), DS gets to try out new stuff, spend time with other kids, and wear himself out. There are toys and stuff that he really takes to but we'll never get for at home. I don't have to clean up the mess afterwards.