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to hate the phrase "yummy mummy"

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NewbeeMummy · 02/08/2011 10:24

and MILF for that matter... Hmm

one of the girls I work with is expecting soon and keeps going on about how she loves the idea of being a "yummy mummy".

I really cannot stand the phrase, and even worse when I'm refered to as a MILF, by my male colleagues, and expected to take it as a compliment.

Why do people think these terms are at all acceptable? or am I just being a miserable bitch?

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catgirl1976 · 03/08/2011 10:39

We could share him lost :) I am nice like that (but I get him first!) x

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NewbeeMummy · 03/08/2011 10:46

Just googled Jake Gyllenhalls, wow, can I join the queue?

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bringmesunshine2009 · 03/08/2011 10:47

I'd take the compliments where I could get them. I look so shit nowadays that the only reason I hate those terms is I have no chance of ever measuring up!

catgirl1976 · 03/08/2011 10:48

Of course newbee. I will ring ahead and tell Jake to eat a good breakfast this morning as he is going to be needing his strength :)

StewieGriffinsMom · 03/08/2011 10:57

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catgirl1976 · 03/08/2011 10:59

That is lovely. But I don't need him to talk.

CupcakesandTwunting · 03/08/2011 11:04

Yummy mummy makes me want to hurt people.

MILF I like. DILF I like. GILF I like.

catgirl1976 · 03/08/2011 11:09

Am worried now. What if Jake is actually a feathery-stroker? :(

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NewbeeMummy · 03/08/2011 11:50

no no no cargirl - we don't need that sort of thing - what a waste...

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NewbeeMummy · 03/08/2011 11:50

erp - that should be catgirl

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catgirl1976 · 03/08/2011 11:56

The term "feathery stroker" is offensive??? Do you even know what it means SGM?

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catgirl1976 · 03/08/2011 12:00

No worries :)

howabout · 03/08/2011 12:13

I live opposite the local secondary school and as a woman in her 40s I am shocked that little boys of 14 and 15 think it is acceptable to wolf whistle etc at me. I therefore loathe the terms MILF, WILF and GILF. I have no objection to men of my own age and equivalent hotness appreciating my finer qualities if they are discreet about it and as long as they don't mind me reciprocating.

I don't really have a problem with yummy mummy as I don't think it is about objectifying women. Never likely to be one though as I don't always remember to brush my hair let alone put on my makeup.

startail · 03/08/2011 12:38

Our yummy mummy at school is also DHs MILF. I don't mind because I've told him that's fine he just has to set me up a date with her BIL firstGrin
Also our YM is just one of those people who is effortlessly elegant, she doesn't do it to annoy, she's really nice.

LostMyIdentityAlongTheWay · 03/08/2011 12:53

OK, not exactly the point of the thread, but what is a 'feathery stroker'. I guess it's not a bird fancier?

I'd stroke Jake. I'd also like to lick him all over. Mmmmm.

catgirl1976 · 03/08/2011 12:57

It is a term coined in a Marian Keyes book to describe the type of man who will light 100 individual scented candles, then spend 2 hours lightly stroking his "laydee" whilst gazing deeply into her eyes and then asking her if she would like to "make luurve". During the luurve making, he will repeatedly ask her if she is ok, if he is hurting her, and will continue to stroke her lightly etc.

"Jacqui's Feathery Stroker test is a horribly cruel assessment that she brings to bear on all men. It originated with some man she had slept with years ago. All night long he'd run his hands up and down her body in the lightest, feathery way, up her back, along her thighs, across her stomach and before they had sex he asked her gently if she was sure?.And so the phrase came about. It suggested an effeminate quality which immediately stripped a man of all sex appeal?

LostMyIdentityAlongTheWay · 03/08/2011 20:57

Yes, I can see why. Oooh, that would just make me reach for the fly swat, I think!!!
Yuck. Ewwwww. And, in true MN tradition...

wtfhappenedtomauricetinkler · 03/08/2011 21:11

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G1nger · 03/08/2011 21:21

A couple of friends have already made jokes about how I'm going to become a yummy mummy etc in a few months (currently pregnant with first child). They meant it as some sort of compliment...

Like I need to move into a different category of attractiveness, because somehow what - I'm going to be different to the people who're attractive before they become mothers. Somehow in need of pity, or...?

Yes, I'm a miserable cow too. I don't like being patronised (and I told them so).

wtfhappenedtomauricetinkler · 03/08/2011 21:25

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G1nger · 03/08/2011 21:34

wtfhappenedtomauricetinkler - I hope you won't mind if I borrow your phrasing. It's better than mine, and exactly what I was trying to get across.

superv1xen · 04/08/2011 09:47

why should being a mum preclude us from being attractive anyway? the term suggests to me that even though someone's a mum, she is still attractive, like most mums arent or something.

still want to be one though!! although that definitely probably means i am not one :o

FantasticVoyage · 05/08/2011 15:45

'MILF' always strikes me as a term of male origin, so could well indicate any number of things that men find attractive about women, no matter how odd they may be.

Whereas "yummy mummy" strikes me as a term engineered by women themselves - a certain group of women who'd ostracise one of their own for not wearing the right kind of flip-flops or something equally trivial.

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