ajay I thought that you had gone into a bit of detail above about you organise your day based on having a baby. I was simply saying that I don't organise my day like that - I have moved beyond the baby years. I meant 'unlike you' as a straightforward comment, but can see how you might have perceived it.
I only commented because you wrote that you didn't know I'd left the baby with someone else - a comment I think was meant to be rather provocative. In fact, all your posts have been provocative. You said at the beginning that you didn't want to get involved with a ruck with a 'chopsy' OP and yet that is what you have deliberately done.
'Agitated' is needling - it is a rather patronising word to use. I have admitted that I was BU about some of this way before I said so to you - but that wasn't good enough for you, you were only satisfied when I said it to you. And then you deliberately put in a passive aggressive pop about not putting one child's needs above the other's.
Overall, I realise that this friend has a habit of only doing things on exactly her terms - no one else's, there is never any negotiation - and yes, this has bugged me. I am run down at the moment, I haven't been getting a lot of sleep because of my baby and I have a health condition that I found out yesterday is going to require surgery to fix; it is affecting my mobility and, i realised yesterday, is making me a bit depressed. I'm finding it quite difficult to motivate myself to do social things at the moment. So I didn't feel like putting myself out a little (i.e. meeting at a time and place that didn't suit me that well) for this friend. With other people, I wouldn't have been irritated and would have been happy to meet on their terms or negotiated meeting later. With her, I decided I couldn't be bothered and would rather not meet as this was a pattern and I don't feel she is interested in finding an arrangement that is suitable to me, only to her.
Yes, I have spent time responding to people on here. What of it? You have spent time repeatedly and deliberately provoking and being argumentative with someone you view as 'agitated'. I don't do that on MN or indeed in life. So, while I may not be a paragon as reasonableness, I don't feel I'm being as pathetic as you. And yes, just so we're clear, that is a personal attack.