AIBU To consider not going to my good friends wedding in three days because I don't know how I will get home.

[Shell85]

A friend of mine is getting married at the weekend.
She has picked a lovely hotel in the middle of nowhere to get married.
I had arranged for DS and I to get a lift there and back with someone, but they told me at the hen do last weekend that they can no longer give us a lift.
I have tried to find another lift, even asked the bride to ask people, but she said there is no one that can give me a lift that is coming from anywhere near where I live.
Rooms at the hotel are £180 a night, even with the wedding guest discount, and a taxi would cost over £100. Nether of which I can afford this close to the end of the month.
I even looked at public transport, but it wouldn't work either.
There are no other hotels around that are of a reasonable price either.
I have asked friends if anyone would be willing to drive me but no one is free.

I don't see any other way to get there and get home, I don't want to miss it but I don't know if I have much of a choice.
AIBU to not go because I don't think we could get home?
I know my friend would be hurt if I let her down. :(

Excellent news! Enjoy yourself. :)

Yay so happy for you working this out - that's a lovely friend. Have fun!

hurray! I loved the bold type - think that is a great idea for OP to type in bold

crickey I've watched this with no sensible advice to offer, so glad you have a good friend to help out.

Really pleased for you, enjoy the wedding

Thats great. So glad you don't have to go into debt over this.
Would've been better if the bride had organised transport for all guests herself, given it was a small wedding in the middle of nowhere - (As I did for my wedding) - so if anyone else is planning a wedding in a difficult location - take this into account to avoid situations like these !
And I can't believe the guest who was initally going to give you a ride pulled out and their reason. That is so rude - to the bride - and also all the hassle it has cost you.
Have a great time !

I would go even if it means getting into debt for this month. I would go the night before on public transport/taxi and then leave after the wedding or stay another night.Surely on the way back, another guest could give you a lift to the station?

Just read your update- that's fab. Really pleased you managed to get a lift sorted. Have a fab time. x

That's good news!

Glad you can go, have a great time

Hurrah - am so glad that this has worked out, Shell - have a wonderful time!

Queenoffeckingeverything, that is a fantastic tip - you are indeed the Queenoffeckingeverything.

Yay - am glad it worked out. Have a lovely time!

I'm surprised so many find it unacceptable that someone would opt out of a wedding in order to go on holiday... I would have thought an apology and nice gift to the bride would be enough - considering how pricey holidays are in the summer it seems logical that if you find a good deal, you take it... I wouldn't have been upset if my guests had done that...

flying - really? With less than a week's notice to the wedding. The bride and groom will probably end up paying for the meal(s) the guest(s) should have eaten at this late stage. Plus they might have wanted to invite other people but couldn't for space reasons. Those people can't be invited with a week to go.

No way would I book a holiday knowing I was dumping a wedding a week beforehand in the process. The cost of my place, the organisation, the seating plan, the fact that there might have been someone they didn't invite because of lack of space, complete lack of manners, the fact that you don't ditch someone when you get a better offer, loads of reasons.

It's a shitty, self centred way to behave.

flying - are you the guest that has let Shell down? Can't believe there are many people that selfish and thoughtless.

Great news Shell. Through fetch your wellies, it looks like rain here ....

Shocked at Flying - if anyone does that to me I will feel seriously insulted and very upset. Like the OP's friend, I'm only having a small do and will notice if someone's not there. Flying, people get invited for their presence not their presents!

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