AIBU to be pissed off that DP has gone camping with 2 other girls and NOT been in touch?

[throwhimtothepanther]

So... DP is a teacher and has commenced his six week holidays, he asked me if he could go camping with 2 of his FEMALE colleagues from work that he's only known for only one (academic) year. One girl I have never met and one I barely know! I reluctantly agreed. They even set up an (exclusive- no invite for me) facebook group to arrange said camping trip! So I left for work yesterday morning, no word from him, I text him at 3pm to ask if he'd set off yet. An hour and a half later he text me back to say he had no signal earlier (fair enough) but that he is switching his phone off so that he can call me later. Half past 9 at night and still no response. I had just returned from tea at my grandad's to find that he had even taken the only tube of toothpaste and left me without any! The house was in a mess (why do Men think it's ok to not do ANY housework? He's a teacher, he works less hours than I do, lives five minutes away from his place of work whilst I have to commute 40 mile round trip and still thinks that cooking tea is the be all and end of all of the housework, even though he's currently on holiday!). So (still no word) I text him this morning to say I hope for his sake he's been eaten by a black panther and that if I don't hear from him soon I'm going to start auctioning his things on ebay! So... Was I BU?

Nothing like threesomes alfresco, especially with clean teeth :o

I mean, seriously OP - his tidyness is not the "ishoo" here is it?

Do you know where he is? Could you pop in to see him?

"could you pop in and see him?"

Jeez, how to look like a bunny boiler! If you weren't happy about him going then you should have made that clear to him, so yes, YABU because who has phone reception when they are camping. I don't even really see why he needs to call - you know he got there safely. If he is shagging one of them, what good will it do to call/text you.

The housework thing is another issue, and it is annoying, but he can be trained ime.

Oh, forgot my question marks in that post - sorry, bruxeur!

op no it wasnt you who made the silly cancer comments,i believe you quoted a post which has now been deleted. I am not really offende but i though that i should point out that it is highly inappropriate especially coming from someone with such superior intelligence as bruxeur!!
Have you heard anything as yet?

I make no apologies for lack of grammar/spelling mistakes,i come on mn for fun not to be examined

I know its not funny but I've enjoyed reading this in one go, even without knowing what the deleted post said I can imagine and the mixture of the situation and the grammer police has made me smile.

No way is it "text" as a past tense and I thought bruxeur was a man.

I would be mighty upset also if I was in your position, the crapness of usual distribution of housework just adding to the anger and frustration at the whole thing.
However, I would also try to get my brain to think logically. Do I really think my bf would cheat on me? Could his phone battery be dead, or have no reception? Have things been weird between us lately?
I would still feel shit, would plan to book a holiday with some guys, go out a lot as soon as he is back looking as stunning as possible, with guy friends, (would think that those acts would make him realise how I had felt, however he may have no problem with you doing those things), and talk to him about the whole camping incident. Men can be completely clueless about how certain things can upset others...he may really see it as no big deal whereas you do. Case in point - a bunch of my bf's female colleagues organized a baby shower for him to the strippers. Was very upsetting to me, but he couldn't really see what the big deal was.
Hope he calls you soon.

he is AT IT , to think you are okay with this., he needs taught a lesson himself, so i guess your gonna have to take some action , like the girls said arrange a weekend and say it is with 2 males, well what is sauce for the goose and all
that!

What is the past tense of to text?!?

Leave the housework for him to do when he comes back. You're too busy working and going out enjoying yourself to do it.

What I want to know is even if he couldn't get enough of a signal to phone he could to text so why didn't he text at the time he said he would phone?

If was shagging someone, he'd go away with just them, and he wouldn't tell you about it. You're being paranoid.

TartyDoris he lives with the OP. It'd be hard to explain a couple of days absence.

OP, I was once in a similar situation (BF went off in a campervan for four days with female friend), and I was completely on edge the whole time they were away (this was in the days before mobiles phones were the norm). I was also gibberingly furious with him for thinking it was ok, but it was early days in our relationship, so I didn't want to come across as a bunnyboiler appear to be jealous. He's an ex now.

I think you have to separate out the issues here. Housework. Condescending attitude. Buggering off (when you've probably said you're ok with it when you're not). Not getting in touch when he said he would. Altogether they add up to a lot of bother. Take each case point by point and you may feel differently.
FWIW, I would be fucking furious whilst cutting out the crotch of all of his trousers, but I am prone to going mascara arse mental at the merest sussurration of infidelity.

It's "texted", surely?

You send a text. If you are in the process of sending a text, you are texting.

If you have sent a text, you have texted.

Surely??

Ooh, the word "text" looks really weird now.

Love the phrase "mascara arse mental".

hope dp only brings home his dirty washing from camping and nothing else

OP - tell him you're going hiking with "Tim" and "Nick" next week. No phone coverage. Shouldn't be a problem with your OH since he expects you to be relaxed about stuff.

it must be TEXTED

TEXT just sounds lazy, like you can't be bothered adding the extra syllable.

There's no English word I can think of where the noun and future tense is the same as the past... is there? You wouldn't say "I have video it for you"

Away for a week with Big Jim and Barry sounds spicier.

that big jim is a right tart!

and barry is no better!

Isn't it "Big Bad Barry"? Or have I been watching too much Ben & Holly?

OP, ignore, ignore, ignore. Don't text. Don't respond to any texts you receive and be brief and polite if he calls you. Go out, have some fun and let him wonder about what you're doing.

Ok.

1. It's textED.

1. 2 girls, 1 toothpaste.

1. The number of you loons who are saying you would/wouldn't let your partners go away without you never ceases to amaze me.

1. OP, someone way upthread said something about them laughing at you. I think she's right.

STOP THE PRESS! A MAN WENT ON HOLIDAY WITH SOMEONE WHO IS NOT HIS PARTNER! CRIMES AGAINST HUMANITY! LIFE OUTSIDE OF RELATIONSHIPS! OMG! OMG! WAAAAAA!

If you couldn't tell ..YABU.

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