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Is it gross for an adult to only get a shower 3 times a week?

265 replies

AngryChair · 23/07/2011 17:22

3 showers a week, AIBU to think this is a bit gross?

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StrandedBear · 24/07/2011 14:25

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LRDTheFeministNutcase · 24/07/2011 14:27

esta, 'before' means 'prior to'. I don't think I've ever spoken to you before I made those comments, so why you think I need to 'make up my mind' I don't know: I've only once said I don't believe you're a woman - no idea where you got this 'man or child' thing you mention from, but it wasn't from me!

Crikey, it's like talking to a 10 year old.

LRDTheFeministNutcase · 24/07/2011 14:28

talc would you want a 'daisy fresh' fanjo? I always reckon daisies smell a bit like wee, myself.

BulletWithAName · 24/07/2011 14:40

I bath everyday. I don't really care if people think it's obssessive, or whatever. The thought of only showering three times a week with not even a fanny and pit wash in between is fucking gross.

Esta3GG · 24/07/2011 14:50

Steady on Bullet - advocating fanny washing can get you into serious bother round these parts.

Apparently they had a meeting and you are not supposed to wash it - unless you are issued with a specific approval slip. Even then you can't just have a quick sponge - no no it has to be kissed with morning dew on the first morning of the month and dried with fairy's wings.

BulletWithAName · 24/07/2011 14:55

Oh I did LOL at your above post Esta Grin

I must admit, I do enjoy a good MN washing debate!

Really, if you only want to wash your fanny once a week, that's up to you. Wouldn't catch me doing it though.

Debs75 · 24/07/2011 14:59

I shower maybe 3 times a week, I never have a bath. I am in and out in 5 mins tops. I then spend another 30 mins slathering cream on for excema/psoriasis . If excema is particularily bad I put cream on beforehand as well.
We don't need to shower/bathe everyday. If I did then my skin would suffer as water dehydrates it, then it would get infected again. Then I would smell.

I suppose I do smell a little but as I can't use smelly deoderants it is an au naturel smell. Smell never hurt anyone. Did it?

BulletWithAName · 24/07/2011 15:02

I will, however, freely admit to 'only' washing my hair twice a week Shock

scarletfingernail · 24/07/2011 15:26

I shower daily, twice daily if it's been particularly warm and hair is washed every other day. It's not that I find the smell of people who haven't showered offensive, (unless it's out and out BO) but I do think I can tell the difference. For example when doing my supermarket shopping and someone leans over to get something from a shelf, I can tell whether they're shower fresh or not. Unshowered smells like a bed that's not been changed for a week. Not particularly unpleasant, just not particularly fresh.

FWIW I've had to tell people in my previous employment that they've had body odour issues. They've all disagreed and said they'd know if they smelled and that their spouse would tell them if that were the case. Two of these spouses then ended up working at the same place, and guess what? They both smelled too. Surely most of us are as clean or dirty as the people we live with and share the same hygiene habits? So relying on loved ones to tell you if you're whiffy probably isn't the best theory.

amothersplaceisinthewrong · 24/07/2011 15:30

I shower every morning and wash my hair every day. In hot weather I shower on coming home from work and again before going to bed. So in the summer I sometimes have three showers a day, let alone three a week.

NasalCoffeeEnema · 24/07/2011 15:57

Maybe water meters should be enforced

Oblomov · 24/07/2011 16:11

Amothersplace, you have 3 a day ? Isn't that a bit OTT ?
I always have a shower before I go to work. I work 3 days per week. I normally shower the other days aswell, but sometimes I don't.
Probably one day a fortnight or so, I don't shower or wash or anything. I just get up, put on new clothes, brush my teeth, put on deodrant, perfume and make-up and off I go. As far as I know I don't smell, and if i did one of my friends or my husband would tell me, because we are quite open about things like that.

Dorje · 24/07/2011 16:13

Look I know washing is serious business, and no one wants to think of themselves or their DCs as stinky mingers, so everyone is defensive and touchy, but can we stop calling each other names?

Come on, there's no need for names and personal attacks.

Those with excema and psoriasis have you tried moogoo? or Yes to carrots with no sodium laureth sulphate, and added dead sea minerals. My Dh who has psoriasis and dermatitis swears by them. And he showers every day, and uses deodorant, because he meets people everyday, and he doesn't want to cause offence.. I have very sensitive sense of smell, so we all wash in our family and have laundry going all the time also.

I also remember that thread where some poor Mnetter was horrified to hear that she smelled..... how many of us have that kind of friend?

I have been knocked back gagging from smelling some mums in the playground - nicely dressed, well presented mums helping their little ones on the monkeybars - lifting them up and ... blimey - whiff or what. So even though you may think you don't smell, you probably do. And maybe your best friend has been unable to tell you because she's embarrassed.

Think about it - our pits and bits are designed to trap smells as a pheromone signalling system -anywhere there are pubes/ hair - so thinking they don't smell is egregious: they're designed to smell. And smell they do!

ScarlettIsWalking · 24/07/2011 16:17

I shower and hair wash every other day . The days I don't I really don't have that much contact with anyone. I smell fine definately not offensive or gross.

If someone spots me with greasy hair on the school run on a bad day I really couldn't care less, sometimes you have to get out and don't have the time what's the big deal?

We are all very different culturally and physically. Certain foods make people smell different as the spices get eliminated from the pores. After I eat garlic or spicy food I have to shower as I will smell it on me. Some people have large pores and sweat more. There is also that definate male smell you get in a teenage boy and some men. We are all v different and our washing needs convey this.

PedigreeChump · 24/07/2011 18:50

I probably wash 3/4 times per week but only because I have greasy hair which needs washed every second day or so... if I'm not going out anywhere or seeing anyone I don't bother. I actually despise showering

fit2drop · 24/07/2011 18:52

bullet

Grin @ pit wash in between

is that a bit like the grand prix

^and here we have bullet foaming around the chicane of her neck , will she pull in for a pit stop????.........
noooooooooooooo she's continued to the hairy(pin) bend

BulletWithAName · 24/07/2011 19:16

Fit2drop- sounds like it doesn't it? Grin

yellowvan · 24/07/2011 19:27

The smell of 'just got up' is gross. people can tell if you haven't showered , surely? Yuck.

pointydog · 24/07/2011 19:42

3 times a week is every second day. Nothing wrong with that.

AitchGee · 24/07/2011 19:45

I wash once a month whether I need it or not.

OrangeHat · 24/07/2011 20:02

Smell of "just got up"?

Barking.

You have a bath, you lie in bed, you wake up in the morning, apparently stinking. WTF?!!!

smokinaces · 24/07/2011 20:09

I shower every other day. Wash my hair at the same time. So 3-4 times a week on an average week. Unless I've been working out/gardening then its straight after.

I have been like this for over 10 years. I'm sure if I smelt in that time one of my bosses/colleagues/friends would have told me.

susiedaisy · 24/07/2011 20:15

Really do not understand why people have a strip wash/ wash down, gagging with basin full of water then face cleanser then fresh water to wash of soap, takes ages just get in the shower you lazy so in so's

susiedaisy · 24/07/2011 20:21

Washing with basin of water not gagging , my big fat sausage fingers trying to use iPhone Grin

GreenEyesandHam · 24/07/2011 20:32

I shower every morning.

If I didn't, I doubt I'd ever wake up and actually get anything done.