To be fucking fucked off (this will be both lengthy and ranty)

[Tiredtrout]

I currently through no fault of my own appear to be living in a fucking soap opera.

My whole year has been shit and I don't seem to be close to the end of the faecal matter.

I love my dh dearly but he cannot cope with any pressure or criticism at all and is about as resilient as balsa wood. In feb last year he was put on a disciplinary at work for gross misconduct. This has happened in every job he's had since I've known him. I helped him resolve it but while researching the misconduct, his work policies and coaching his spineless useless cunt of a union rep on how to get dh off I said to dh that if he lost his job he would have to go. I can't support the whole household on my wage alone. Thought it would sharpen his mind on growing the fuck up.

My dh held on to that till our 10th anniversary in august last year and chose to get me no card, present, and leave me on my own on a campsite for most of the day. We were on holiday camping, he had packed seperate sleeping bags for us too. His message was quite clear. On our return home he told me he wanted to hurt me for what I'd said, cunt.

Thank you for pointing out how offensive my post comes across salt

Massive apologies OP - it was not meant that you were minimising ....more that you might feel obliged to by others. I certainly did not mean to tell you how to grieve...only to suggest support for you ...but I will leave now

Full apologies for an offensive post. :)

No offence taken

I was visited last night and told cps may not run with the assault on me. Feel like this is pushing the blame onto me more for my completely avoidable fluke of a miscarriage. I handed my son over to the undertakers today only to be told that the hospital have fucked up again and not provided the paperwork so that Adam can be cremated.

I had my first counselling session today and I found out just how angry and unsupported I feel, that was a shock

my dh has also put some comments on facebook that I feel minimise things and won't take them off.

All in all another shit day all round

(((((((TiredTrout)))))))))

Tiredtrout - I consider myself a tough old boot and not much reduces me to tears - but what you posted yesterday about your darling baby did just that.

The last year has been horrendous for you, but you have been strong & supportive to others. It's now time that you become the priority.

I sincerely hope that you get the support you need & deserve.

Take care.

Oh :(

When I saw your update from yesterday, I was pleased.

Sorry to hear today is not so good :(

I'm sorry toothbrush I was unduly harsh, please don't feel you need to leave because of me.

tiredtrout - hugs. I'd tend to presume that the cps just don't have the evidence they'd need rather than blaming you for your miscarriage in any way. I do not understand why your DH would refuse to take down a fb comment that was upsetting to you, it seems insensitive. I hope the hospital provide the paperwork really soon, what a shower, and that the conselling helps you find your way forward in a positive way even if it opens pandora's box.

The fb comment has finally been removed.

The cps decision is all based on whether or not I acted within my powers even though my supervisors have all said morally I acted correctly in trying to remove her from harm. The girl involved has admitted the assault in interview.

The hospital have sorted themselves out and Adam is to be cremated today.

I hope you can just clear your mind and say goodbye to him today, be thinking of you.

Thinking of you (((hugs)))

Thinking of you TT, and may your little Adam rest in peace xxx

Keep talking to us here if it helps, we are here for you

Got to say we're all on your side here, and he does sound like a not-very-nice person. The world owes him a favour. You've tried the counselling and it didn't appear to work so perhaps you are hanging on for dear life to some little threads because you don't particularly want to be on your own? it's not ideal but sometimes it's better to make that big break and you'll all be happier for it in the long run.