to have expected a thankyou card after attending a friends' wedding in March??

[NorthernGirlie]

I think it's rude not to thank people who've spent money attending a hen night, bought new outfit, took the day off, spent money at the reception, bought a gift... so I asked the bride if she's forgotten to send cards - she said whe's thanked everyone personally on the day and thought that was enough!!??

YANBU - I think it's polite to send thank you notes for wedding gifts as guests go to a great deal of expense and effort, and I've never not received one in respect of a wedding we've attended. We couldn't have thanked people adequately on the day as we didn't open the presents until after the honeymoon. We sent them out about 1 month after the wedding. I would consider it pretty rude if someone didn't bother.

With DDs and birthday/christmas presents I either write notes on their behalf, or with DD1 she writes some of them, then I write some for her and she signs her name. We've had a written thank you in respect of every party DD1 has attended.

In respect of my own presents I usually ring people, thank them when I see them or at least text/e-mail.

always written thankyou after a wedding, basic manners. My children, now 16 and 10, have always written thank you letters for any bday, xmas presents that are not handed to them personally and seen to be opened.

Older people (dd's great grand parents for example) will always get a hand written note. It makes their day and costs me very little. Bit heartless not be nice to older dudes quite frankly.

You are sooo right. For some people it's the highlight of their day to receive a hand written card or note from a friend or relative.

Had some friends over yesterday...and today the wife sent me a lovely email thank you. It meant a lot. Very sweet of her.