AIBU to expect my SIL NOT to open a parcel addressed to my nephew?

[alison222]

I sent a birthday present to my nephew and had a message today to say it had arrived safely and that she approved of my choice of wrapping paper. This means she opened the parcel addressed to him. I had marked it with sender on it so she knew it was from me and she told me what he would like so she knows what it is. He will be 9. Part of the pleasure of getting a parcel is to be able to open it yourself surely?

I actually can't stand dealing with post and usually leave it all until the end of the week and have a blitz. Even if there are parcels sometimes. When I order stuff online I just want the goods, in my wardrobe, or wherever they are meant to be in the house and hate dealing with opening them and all the packaging.

I wasn't always like this but since my job involves dealing with mountains of paper I can't quite be arsed with it when I get home.

YABU, how should she know what you expected? As far as she was concerned she was getting his presents ready for him, it's not like she just opened one of his presents and told him what he's got or something. what's the point of wrapping paper if you don't want it to show (for a few seconds?) She even sent you a nice acknowledgement about the paper fgs. I prob wouldn't open the parcel because I wouldn't know if it would be wrapped inside but I really would not mind in the least if my sil did this with presents from us.

Cant believe people are going into soooo much detail about wrapping paper and should she /shouldn't she of opened it??
Do people not have real problems anymore what is the world coming to?

yy, YADBU because she may have assumed you WANTED her to open it, confirmed by the fact you wrapped the present.

But if she WANTED her to open it wouldn't it have been addressed to the SiL in the first place??

I know it's really petty but then must things on AIBU are, that's the beauty of it!

exactly, Katie - it was addressed to the person it was intended for, not their parent.